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To think this was very rude behaviour from Sales assistant?

33 replies

lottieandmia · 20/10/2017 22:19

I was buying a top when the sales assistant asked if I had taken into consideration the size of my chest because these tops run small 😳 While I was contemplating my embarrassment at this, she suddenly turned to another customer who was looking at knickers and shouted ‘YOU’RE NOT A 36, NOT BY ANY STRETCH OF THE IMAGINATION!’😵😵

I have tweeted Ann Summers but no response (this is the shop it happened in)!

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keeponworking · 20/10/2017 22:21

Jeez - subtle - not! She sounds charming.

BenLui · 20/10/2017 22:24

I’m not really a fan of the classic MN phrase but this would have been a perfect time to use it.

“Did you mean to be so rude?”

LemonShark · 20/10/2017 22:28

In any other store I'd say yes, rude, but I admit the fact it's Ann Summers does sway me a bit. I've bought stuff there before and the staff are very open and straight to the point about stuff like bra size, and it's always been helpful to me. Much rather that than have someone lie and say it will be fine on me when it'll look awful due to my breasts size.

The knickers comment though, rude. Unless she meant 'you're nowhere near that big!' as some well intended but misguided compliment aimed at denigrating heavier people while complimenting lighter ones.

ShirleyPhallus · 20/10/2017 22:30

Ann Summers do tops?!

I thought they just did nylon thongs and vibrating cock rings....?

BenLui · 20/10/2017 22:30

Lemon it would have better for the assistant to discreetly say “have you tried this on, I find they run a bit small” which would have made the point without the personal comment.

MaisyPops · 20/10/2017 22:32

it would have better for the assistant to discreetly say “have you tried this on, I find they run a bit small” which would have made the point without the personal comment
Yes.
So much more polite and diplomatic

LemonShark · 20/10/2017 22:33

True Ben, there were more tactful ways to approach it. I just don't feel the assistant was unforgivable rude. A bit tactless but probably well meaning. And this is in a store where you have assistants shimmying up asking if you'd like to try the latest vibrator on your nose or need any help choosing your first butt plug, so I imagine their assistants do have a slightly more skewed view of good service/where the line of 'too personal' is compared to most shops!

Awwlookatmybabyspider · 20/10/2017 22:33

Well that's one way to lose the shop business.
I'd write directly to the manager, and tell them about her uncouth and tactless attitude, because if it were my shop. I'd damn well want to know.
There are plenty of people with impeccable manners and social skills on the dole

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lottieandmia · 20/10/2017 22:41

I’ve been in there loads of times and never had anyone be so embarrassing. I mean how did she even know who the stuff was for? She was also telling people off for looking at the clothes ‘oh can you stop that you’re making a mess’

I think if you ask for help then fine but otherwise it’s unwanted intervention!

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StepAwayFromCake · 20/10/2017 22:49

What would she have done about me? A size 18 woman choosing size 8 clothes for dd !

Utterly rude.

Areyoufree · 20/10/2017 22:51

LemonShark A vibrator on your nose? What? Why? Beyond perplexed right now.

Softkittywarmkitty123 · 20/10/2017 23:03

Sorry since when do Ann Summers sell tops?

lottieandmia22 · 21/10/2017 07:20

They sell pyjamas now! Well obviously it wasn’t actually a long sleeved top

To think this was very rude behaviour from Sales assistant?
ToastyFingers · 21/10/2017 07:30

StepAway in Ann Summers? ShockWink

LemonShark · 21/10/2017 08:40

Areyoufree it'a common advice to hold a vibrator up to the tip of your nose to test it, apparently your nose is sensitive enough to give you a good idea, and obviously you're not gonna sit and use it where it's ultimately going in the middle of the shop 😂

LemonShark · 21/10/2017 08:40

Areyoufree it'a common advice to hold a vibrator up to the tip of your nose to test it, apparently your nose is sensitive enough to give you a good idea, and obviously you're not gonna sit and use it where it's ultimately going in the middle of the shop 😂

pippitysqueakity · 21/10/2017 09:11

Are you free, apparently most sensitive, non x-rated part of body.🤥

StepAwayFromCake · 21/10/2017 11:24

It's not all nose-tickling rabbits and flavoured wobbly things Grin

Misspollyhadadollie · 21/10/2017 12:04

Do mums buy their daughters bits from ann summers? lol I would be mortified if mine did that

CorbynsBumFlannel · 21/10/2017 12:08

Surely the other customer must have been someone she knew and was joking with??? Otherwise unbelievably rude!

Areyoufree · 21/10/2017 12:38

Well, I never knew that! Everyday's a school day on AIBU.

FizzyGreenWater · 21/10/2017 12:40

Some people have mouths the perfect size to fit a pair of feet in.

Pengggwn · 21/10/2017 12:44

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Nikephorus · 21/10/2017 13:13

In M&S, yes a bit off. In Ann Summers - Grin what do you expect? They sell sex toys FFS, it's not exactly a high class establishment!

splendidisolation · 21/10/2017 13:15

Gotta admit i couldn't help it, her size 36 comment made me laugh

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