Was I in the wrong?

[GiveUsACig]

I think my daughter (25) has fallen out with me. We haven't spoke for a few weeks now, the last time I seen her I said that she looks like she's putting on weight around her sides. She walked out not happy and said how I've said things like that to her for years.

I haven't at all, and I know it's not the nicest thing to have said but I am her mum and I never actually called her fat. She hasn't contacted me for a few weeks which I'm sure is from what I said!

What can I do?

How did everyone know it was a reverse?! You're like mumsnet ninjas!!!

The OP said so.

@PandorasXbox I did a reverse because I wasn't sure if I was being daft for being offended!

Has she tried to contact you at all during that time? If not, you're even more in the right.

I know she said so eventually, but squirmy knew on the very first comment?

Just own your posts OP. Nobody likes a reverse.

Well we have spoke and apparently I'm pathetic and I need to grow up😂.

She's giving it the "oh so I'm a shit mum am I, no ones perfect"

I've never said that, just that what she says is wrong and something I'd never say to my daughters.

Well, not excusing your Mum for saying you’re fat which is horrid but you do need to grow up a bit to be fair OP. Reverses always piss people off.

I need to grow up why? Because I done a reverse as I was questioning myself if I was being daft for getting pissed off over it. Ok then

did a Reverse.

I quite recently posted a reverse when I was questioning my mother's behaviour. I totally understand why you did it. It can be so hard to be sure when they act like they are the most reasonable person in the world. People were quite understanding on mine though

I think the 'anger' with reverses is the feeling that one should 'woman up' and own her issues rather than try to 'disguise' them by taking an opposite point of view.

As far as your mum, what I said upthread goes. What she's did was wrong and hurtful. But she's never going to 'own' it, is she? So the best thing to do is just accept that and move on. And base your relationship with her on the way she is now. She's not going to change.

'What she did.'