How long is long enough to wait for a late friend

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I've been waiting in a car park with my DD3 and DD1 for a friend who I forgot is always late. No word from her. She's 25 minutes late. When is reasonable to leave?

About 5 minutes ago

About 15 minutes ago, but I have zero tolerance for poor time kepers.

How late is she normally?

As a reformed late arriver, ten minutes. Your friend needs to learn so you must be harsh and go!

15 mins ago here too. It’s damn rude even if she has a good reason it take less than a minute to text someone. I hate late people and have little tolerance for them. To me ten minutes either side is fine, 15 mins is taking the piss, 20 mins your having a laugh, 25 mins and I’d be seething. Hence why I’d of left earlier. I couldn’t be friendly with someone who messed me around like this.

Have you heard from her at all?

Leave now. It's the only way she'll learn.

I'd give her til 30 minutes late, send her a text to say you waited half an hour then leave. And hope she's suitably apologetic!

The older I get the lesser my tolerance is. 5-10 minutes tops. Since said friend have no courtesy to inform you, I would have set off by now due to habitual lateness. Something urgent may have crop up but one can only go by past behaviours.

Do you have to leave or could you start doing the thing you're meant to be doing with her?

Yes, are you having to wait for her to start the thing? If it's a restaurant or park or whatever I'd just go in. Actually, unless she's got the tickets, go in anyway. Or go somewhere else of your choice.

What were you meant to be doing? Carry on without her.

Has she turned up yet?

A friend once did this two me. I waited ages as I don't drive and had had to get the bus up there to meet her (we were going on to somewhere else later) THREE hours later she rang me to ask me why I wasn't there still.

*to not two

I wait ten minutes, then text to say I'm leaving in 5 minutes.

And then I do.

I have very few friends who arrive late twice.

In the olden days it was harder as people couldn’t let you know if they were running late so you had to be a bit more tolerant. Assuming she has a phone it’s v bad form to just be late to meet at a specified location (different with a ‘I’ll drop round your house about lunchtime’ sort of arrangement).

15 mins tops, then leave. If she is always late I wouldn't text, let her sit there waiting.

Could she be driving / stuck in traffic and unable to contact you? If so I'd probably wait 30 minutes. If not maybe 15.

I'd have left fifteen minutes ago. Lateness is my biggest bugbear. Cannot stand people who think their time is more important than mine. Text her that you've gone but don't apologise for leaving.

I presume she's turned up?

10 minutes and then I leave if there’s been no word from them. Persistent lateness is so rude and disrespectful.

15 minutes would acceptable and I'd probably phone them after 20 minutes to make sure they were ok but as you say it is someone who has a history of being late I'd probably leave after 15 minutes.

I hate lateness so rude

My friends is persistently late and it drives me bonkers. However I'm now too scared to ask why she was late after the time she turned up 45 minutes late and announced that she would have been on the earlier bus but realised as she was leaving that she needed a poo. Now I just smile and say nothing