Motoko - a singleton without a clue and a singleton for a reason ;) Comment on a thread with realities not dreams babygirl
enceladus I'm sorry I didn't reply to your post immediately, but considering you posted the first reply to me at 2.30am, I didn't see it due to being in bed, with my husband of 13 years (together for 18 years).
I am neither a singleton, nor a 'babygirl' at 54, so quit the name calling just because I didn't immediately jump to answer your question.
My husband doesn't have any children of his own, but he did raise my youngest son, since son was 7. He treated DS as if he was his own.
I'm now disabled (terminal cancer) and DH works full time, does all the housework, cooking, shopping, takes me to all my many hospital appointments and at the moment he's also decorating a room and doing diy.
When my bowels are bad and cramping so much that I'm in danger of passing out with the pain while having a shit, he sits in the bathroom with me in case I faint and topple off the toilet.
He cleans up my shit when my bowels have had an explosion. He cleans up my vomit.
He tells me I'm still beautiful to him when my hair is falling out and I look more like a cadaver.
I could go on, but that's enough. I didn't think there were really good men out there before I met him, but I always had hope because my dad was a good role model.
I had been married (domestic violence and abuse), and also had a LTR (controlling and financially tight-his money was his, and my money was ours). Neither of them did any housework, and very little childcare.
So, yeah, there are better men out there, they're not a fairytale or dream. Women don't have to set the bar low and put up with men who don't treat them as equals.