To ask when your DC felt like a real person to you?

[WonderLime]

I'm just wondering when that moment of realisation hit that this little being is a real, tiny little person. Was it a sign soon as they were born? Before? When they said their first word? Or strung a sentence together?

My DC is 12 weeks and I see elements of personhood in him - like now I've found out he's ticklish on his chest, or a certain song that makes him smile. But overall it still feels like being a baby and having personhood are seperate things to me, and he hasn't quite developed full 'personhood', if that makes sense.

When did you first think that you had a real little person?

I was on autopilot survival mode for the first 3 months. I was happy (deliriously happy) but very aware of the huge responsibility to care for this tiny person. I really deepened my bond with DS when DH was away overnight and instead of DH taking DS for the colicky part of the evening I had to hold him. It was heartbreaking. But after 40 mins of crying in my arms I suddenly felt him relax and snuggle down into my body. I felt for the first time that he really needed me to hold him even though I couldn't stop him crying, and more than that, he had emotions of fear, pain and exhaustion just like I did. Hard to describe really. But I'm glad DH went away even though at the time I didn't know how I was going to cope.

With all of mine, as soon as they first giggled, it's like proper interaction

Job or baby
Howdy mums? Looking for some advice. So I've been offered a promotion at work...a secondment role, but one i intend so excel in, no doubt. It's a role I've been after for a year and have neen passed up twice..to be fair, the people who qualified where more experienced and were men..i work in a technical field. So the problem is.. I'm also trying for a baby, a second....and i suspect because it's a secondment role, my chances of being permanent may be vastly reduced once i yell ' Pregnant!!!'...so i really need some hard advice here. Should i postpone trying...or do I just continue? I really want a brother or sister for my little one. Oh.. I'm also 40yrs...so the eggs are dwindling some! Thanks.

In a mix xx

Before he was born when we noticed that he routinely had a good kick about when the Match of the Day theme tune was on tv!

Within minutes!
My son was wrapped in a blanket shortly after birth and handed to me, already fighting to get his hands free! He screamed every time we put scratch mittens on him and only stopped when they were removed.

My daughter insisted on only sleeping on my chest from birth. She refused to EVER sleep on her back, even if you waited till she was asleep then turned her she woke up.

Someday I may be glad the have such strong personalities!

A couple of weeks ago when DD shook her head to say 'no'. Said with a cheeky smile of course.

She was 8 months and I was like 'ah... There you are!'

Good idea for a thread op.