To want to raise this with DD's Teacher at Parents Evening?

[ClothEaredBint]

DD is 8 and in yr4.

She's been coming home quite unhappy recently and when I asked her, she said no-one wanted to play with her at school, when I probed a bit further, its the boys telling her to go away because she's a girl and they don't want to play with her... but because she's not 'girly' enough, the girls don't want to play with her either.

DD is quite boyish, she'd much rather hang around with the boys playing footballs, superhero's and dinosaurs, she's no interest in dolls and playing 'mommies and daddys' with the girls (using her words here) and is quite upset that she's being left out.

Its parents evening tomorrow, do you think its worth raising with her teacher about perhaps having a chat with the class about not leaving people out because they're the opposite sex in an attempt to encourage the boys to include her in their games?

Kurri how would they play Lego and sylvanian families at playtime at school? Op says that her dd says they are playing with dolls and playing mummies and daddies. Perhaps this school allows taking toys out to the playground but even if they did, where would the kids get dolls from, year 4 classrooms don't have dolls!

You can mention it and the teacher can discuss the issue in class, but it wont necessarily make the boys want to play with her. I think I would probably start thinking about what you can do to foster friendships outside of school and also maybe get her as involved as possible in clubs so that she is meeting kids who like the same things she does.

Your poor Dd. My dds are similar. Fortunately they have always been included although the boys in their friendship groups aren't particularly sporty so she has had some of the football issues with some boys.

Yes I appreciate that may be the case - the point I was picking up on was the suggestion that children of 8yrs are too old for such play - fairly clear in my post I thought - I didn't suggest they were taking these toys into the playground simply that children of 8 do play with these things. It was in response to a PP's remark re them being too old. I find the categorization of toys into rigid age groups rather odd, children will play with all sorts of toys and they will play differently with the same toy as they develop and mature, I think if you deny children access to toys with a rigid 'you are too old for that' attitude, you are doing them a disservice. Ditto books.
Again as I have said this is something a side issue.

I thought it had already been established (from Op's previous post) that her DD was making a remark about the kind of things she thought the other girls were intersted in. Not actually stating that girls were playing in the playground with dolls. As I said in my post her DD may be making some assumptions which are incorrect.

But before anyone makes blanket assumptions I have taught in and both my children went to schools where children were allowed to take small toys in - it certainly wouldn't have been unusual for kids to bring in lego people, sylvanians, action figures etc to play with at play time (I'm not talking whole sets, but one or two figures). Schools differ on their policies.

Whether this school allows playtime toys, whether the children a replaying with dolls is all a bit irrelevant, the point is how Op cna ddress the friendship problems her DD is having. But people seem determined to miss the point and shout 'liar' because she mentioned dolls. Usual MN lunacy.