To be envious of mothers who get days to themselves?

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I've spent some time today dreaming about a day in about 3 weeks when I will have a day off work, DC will be at School/nursery and DH will be at work.

I will have a whole day to myself. Just me. To do as I please. Overwhelmed with the possibilities.

I work 4 days and on my day off I have my younger DC with me. I have a SIL who has school age children and doesn't work so she has 5 days a week to herself.

AIBU to be very envious?

YANBU
I work 4 days a week and my DT just started school.
I see my 6h of free childless time as a payback for the 3y I spent at home with them

Enjoy your day OP. I have gone slightly loopy in the last couple of years, desperate for time just to be/sit in my own house on my own. I have only one DD but my animals take a lot of time and DH rarely goes out other than to work and potter occasionally so I was feeling suffocated. We agreed to start DD at pre-school one morning a week when I don’t work and it’s lovely. My mum also helps a bit one day so I have two mornings each week with a couple of hours to do whatever I want after animals are taken care of. It’s heaven.

I booked ds into nursery last week just to have a full day rather than 3 hours to do some decorating.

I got my painting done, had a chippy lunch and a nan nap. I even had a napping blanky and everything. Pure bliss.

museum because even though I'm a martyr I know it's good for me and them to have 2 days where they're entertained and I can spend time with my newborn and I'm a lazy cow

Not stable enough to work LOL sounds like a fantastic excuse for an easy life. Wish I had time to stand still enough to notice that I'm not stable

Nit at all - us hard workers deserve a break. Enjoy x

When ds started school full time I thought to myself. "Wonderful. By the end of September I'll have sorted the house out and have some me time."

He's now in year 6 and I still am trying to sort the house out and as I now work too, can't see it ever happening.

I have 2 and a half days to myself and I Relish every moment I do realise how fortunate I am

Was that aimed at me, @ME1962?

Feel free to have my brain then. I’m either suicidally depressed or too anxious to leave the house, or I think I’m superhuman and throw myself into crazy jobs I’m not qualified for or blow the family savings on get rich quick schemes. I’d love to work, I always worked before I got this ill.

Swapsies?

I now have 12 hours a week to myself but am stuck feeling guilty and like I have to justify the time...

So yesterday I didn’t go for coffee with my Mum because I had already been to an exercise class in the morning. I sanded down some windows instead. Last week I scrubbed the kitchen unit doors and drawer fronts. Totally illogical but I still feel I need to be able to say to DH ‘this is what I’ve done with the day’.

I need to learn how to relax into it a bit more, but after 10 years at home with preschool age children/working part time, it’s a challenge.

I changed my hours from 24.5 over 4 days to 24 hours over 3 days. I now have a Monday free. I try and book in freelance work for then, but if I don’t have any booked in...it’s absolutely BLISS. I also have a Friday morning free (schools only do a half day here). That’s always filled up with school volunteering though and I’m soon going to be delivering Bikeability training then.
The other thing I do is occasionally when kids are in school and after school, DH and I have a “hookie” day (we play hookie from our responsibilities and work!) we take the day off as annual leave and spend it together. A long breakfast,a walk, cinema or an exhibition, maybe a swim and a spa, some nookie, relaxing afternoon and then pick the kids up all blissed out and reconnected. We normally do something useful too but it gets finished in a fraction of the normal time. The kids get so jealous when they know we have a day off together! Enjoy your day.

Wow so many replies!

DH would take the children out for a few hpurs in the weekend but i like having family time then so it feels not as nice ro do it then...and i prefer to have a whole long dayvto myself!!!

I used to work 4 days a week and had a whole day off plus a couple of hours on my working days to myself. Then I got a full time job and I never get any time at all! I miss the me time but I love the extra money and it means we can do a lot more in the holidays etc. So positives and negatives! Life is generally about choices.