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to wear this ivory/white dress to a wedding

65 replies

happystrummer · 15/10/2017 19:52

I bought this for a wedding...starting to fret that it I shouldn't wear it as its apparently not etiquette to wear white to a wedding? Is there enough colour in it to get away with it?

to wear this ivory/white dress to a wedding
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Sunnyjac · 15/10/2017 19:53

Looks fine to me!

StickThatInYourPipe · 15/10/2017 19:54

It's a lovey dress but personally I wouldn't wear it as a guest to a wedding it's very poor etiquette to wear white to someone else wedding

LooksLikeImStuckHere · 15/10/2017 19:54

I think it's fine!

Flisspaps · 15/10/2017 19:55

That’s a floral dress, not a white dress

ShirleyPhallus · 15/10/2017 19:55

No it's fine. You're not gonna upstage the bride.

Probably wouldn't wear a lace veil though or carry a bouquet of flowers

SpinMill · 15/10/2017 19:55

I think it's fine, I wouldn't even class it as white, with the coloured flowers on.

AnonEvent · 15/10/2017 19:55

It depends on the bride and groom and type of wedding.

If it's a modern (non traditional) wedding, I'd think it's fine. It doesn't look bridal.

If it's a more traditional do, I'd steer clear - you don't want great aunt Alice commenting on it. And some people think it's bad luck/disrespectful even if the dress is not at all bridal (in much the same vein as they'd disapprove of you wearing black at that type of wedding).

Bubbinsmakesthree · 15/10/2017 19:55

I think it is fine - plain white is a no-no but a white background on a floral dress is fine. No-one will mistake you for the bride!

Allthebestnamesareused · 15/10/2017 19:56

With all the colour splashes I think its fine especially if you accessorise with colour too.

Anecdoche · 15/10/2017 19:57

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yorkshapudding · 15/10/2017 19:57

It's fine. Especially if you make sure your bag and shoes aren't white/ivory. With a bright floral pattern it's not like anyone is going to mistake it for a wedding dress.

Mollie85 · 15/10/2017 19:58

With a coloured jacket/ shoes/ fascinator or whatever - I think it will be fine.

Just like that - no Grin

WorraLiberty · 15/10/2017 19:58

That's not a white dress

Wear it, it's lovely.

DarthMaiden · 15/10/2017 19:59

I think that dress is fine.

As per a pp it’s a floral dress not a white one - it’s not going to get you mistaken for a member of the wedding party.

IncyWincyGrownUp · 15/10/2017 19:59

As another poster has said, that’s not white, it’s floral.

Hotfootit · 15/10/2017 20:00

It's fine. And I wouldn't call it a white dress anyway.

As you are slightly concerned, how about you team it with a bag and shoes to match one of the colours in the flowers (looks like red/blue/grey) and a shawl or cardigan to match, especially as it's nearly November!

pieceofpurplesky · 15/10/2017 20:01

It’s fine - lovely. Add pink/red/blue wrap.

Marmite27 · 15/10/2017 20:02

It’s fine, I’d only stay away from plane white/cream/ivory

WineAndTiramisu · 15/10/2017 20:02

Definitely fine, it's a flowery dress, not a white dress. Avoid white handbag or shoes though

Original poster
happystrummer · 15/10/2017 20:03

Thanks all...i was going to wear cerise shoes and bag with it and a cerise pashmina over the top...I dont know the bride or her family (other half is good mates with the groom, who i also know reasonably well
) and dont go to many formalish weddings so don't want to let the side down!
On balance I;ll probably wear it.

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Ropsleybunny · 15/10/2017 20:03

It's lovely and perfectly appropriate.

babsthebuilder · 15/10/2017 20:03

Someone turned up to my evening reception in a completely white dress. Similar style to this but shorter. I didn’t even realise until she was leaving and had a little chuckle to myself. Yours should be completely fine, I agree it’s floral

LassWiTheDelicateAir · 15/10/2017 20:04

It's a lovey dress but personally I wouldn't wear it as a guest to a wedding it's very poor etiquette to wear white to someone else wedding

It isn't a white dress. Perfectly fine to wear it. It looks nothing like a wedding dress.

you don't want great aunt Alice commenting on it another fine example of MN casual ageism.

DressedCrab · 15/10/2017 20:04

I wouldn't wear it as a guest to a wedding it's very poor etiquette to wear white to someone else wedding

Only if the dress is plain white and/or lacy. Times have moved on since the 1940s.

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happystrummer · 15/10/2017 20:05

i'll leave the veil and flowers out tho Grin

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