Worried about friend?

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My friend recently split up with her husband and they have young children. My friend has a new partner who seems really lovely - funny, charming, interesting, adoring of her and the kids ...I really like him. My friend is really happy and I really hope everything is ok. But DH has had some concerns about her new partner, mainly due to the ‘claims’ he’s made:

-He’s told us he’s a spy (MI5 I think or other ‘intelligence’) and has told us (and most other people in our friendship group) lots of detail on his recent mission abroad. Are spies allowed to give details?

-He’s solved one of those infamous maths puzzles recently and given his million pound prize to charity

• my friend is selling her house as her new partner has put an offer in on a 3 million pound house

• my friend has given her new partner a sum of money as he’s really good with investment and return

• the new partner is still married and lives with his wife and child with special needs but they are separated ‘in their minds’ (staying living together for the child)

I feel so guilty saying all this out loud as I love my friend and I do like her new partner, do you think I’ve got any reason to be concerned? What would you do?

I should laugh but Haggishappens had me in stitches at the thought of people believing they're handling these super secret sensitive packages and handing them over to one another, did the women have code names? I feel mean but I'd have loved to have witnessed how the whole package exchange went down!

OP the bloke is clearly lying, I'd go to the police - chances are he's done it before.

• shouldn't laugh

He is Walter Mitty.

How do people actually believe this rubbish...

You and your friend are daft if you believe a word of it.

Your DH has concerns and you don't?

Da fuq?!

Haggishappens Robert Freeguard set up a similar convoluted 'mission' for one of his victims-he had them running around James Bond style to pick up a very important.......tin opener.

Apparently people do. In your position I'd be 'researching' her boyfriend, i.e. does he live where he says he lives, who does he live with, does he own his house, what maths quits did he win on, did the charity he donated to receive a million £ donation. Possibly presenting the information in a nicely bound folder. I have always dreamed of working as a private investigator - if only it wasn't for this dampened laziness..

My step father was a spy. He worked for GCHQ. We as a family never knew, until he died very unexpectedly and GCHQ turned up to remove 'items'. We never knew what, though my mum believed he had 2 passports.

Anyone who gives details about "MI5" missions is bullshit fantasist and his friend is a married man, who has a wife who has probably fell for bullshit too.

You'd need some big boots for all that bullshit!

Assuming this is a joke...

If not...

OP, never believe anyone who says they still live with their wife and kids but aren’t in a relationship its 99% a lie.
The crap with selling the house... ask him to show you photos of the house.. ya know, ‘because is sounds amazing!’
Yeh MI5 spy’s ALWAYS tell their girlfriends mates that there a spy...

Just make sure she doesn’t give him cash or anything similar. Just one of those stories is far fetched... all of them... utter shit. Just tell her to be careful.

Oh and I agree who said it was like something out of Take a Break. Sure Iv'e read a story about a guy pretending to be MI5.

chips - she's already given him money.

It all sounds really plausible. He sounds really decent and honest.

On a different note, I'm delighted to tell you that you're the winner of a random lottery abroad that you've never even bought a ticket for. In order to claim your millions you must first transfer me $10,000 via Western Union. Totes legit.

Yeah these fantasists are always either spies or SAS aren't they? Despite those careers being ones where anyone with half a brain would work out the workers would be under orders to not tell anyone anything about what they actually do, for their own safety and not blowing cover on the operation they are involved in, yet these con artists can't shut their gobs for ten minutes.

MI5 tell you not to even tell people you are applying to them FFS!

I see your mate's giving him money already though.

He’s not a spy because they can’t tell anyone they are spies...

"He’s solved one of those infamous maths puzzles recently and given his million pound prize to charity"

Look...I don't mean to be rude but if anyone swallows this for even a second, they are dim aren't they? For God's sake.

MI5 tell you not to even tell people you are applying to them FFS!
Ex of mine called me to warn me that MI5 might turn up to ask me about him. But obviously not to say I'd been warned.
Sadly MI5 must have rejected him at an early stage so I never got my chance to say "Ah, Mr Bond. I've been expecting you...."

Bless her, is she really that gullible?

I´m hoping this thread is not genuine as even if your "friend" could be gullible enough to fall for these stories, surely two people without the emotional attachment would see straight through this nonsense However, I am glad this thread exists as it brought Robert Freeguard to my attention - now, that is quite a story!!

I don't believe this, sorry. How could you possibly think all that crap is genuine. I can sort of understand your friend slowly being caught up in the web of lies, but as an outsider you must be able to see how dodgy this is. She needs to get her money back (if this is genuine).

Is op coming back to update us, or simply say " Thanks, now you have pointed it out it's so obvious "

My DH had two passports because of his job. Our DCs grew up thinking he was a spy (he wasn't).