What does this mean? MIL Question

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So my MIL is visiting from a foreign country and she was telling me about her jewellery.

MIL: "Do you wear earrings?"

Me: "No, I don't wear them."

MIL: "My sister also does not wear earrings. She says she doesn't like earrings because the pigs in the province have ears that are tied like earrings."

Was she taking a dig at my weight, like my friends say? Or is this a harmless comment?

Are you determined to dislike her?

One comment gets a response 'no that's fine' and you come out with another,. Are you going to keep doing that until we all say she's being horrible?

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Lol I like her! I really do. Why won't I, she raised the most wonderful human being who is now my husband!

If you like her why all the dissecting her words?

You are dissecting them. Not your friends. If you like her you can dismiss your friends opinion.

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Because my friend was there and she thought she was making a dig at me. And I didn't and don't think she was. So I'm asking for an opinion, which I got.

And no we did not know about pig ear tags prior.

So your friend said it was a dig at your weight. Sounds more as if the "friend" is having a dig to me!

Thanks everyone! :)

Oh you’re friend is a spiteful cow isn’t she?

If you like your mil and let’s remember she’s family why are you allowing your friend to criticise her. Is your friend racist?

If someone had said that to be I wouldn't have had a clue what it meant! If YOU didn't feel it was a dig then leave it and see what comes with time. The fact that your friend thought this was a dig may indicate something more to do with her own psychological make up?

Re the 'left overs' for lunch - rephrase to "I make extra for his lunch", it's all in the terminology.

Are you sure she's your friend ? 🤔
I would carry on liking your MIL, she is from a different culture, I'd try to find some humour in her words !

Your friend is a knob, your MIL isn't.

I think it's totally harmless. She was creating a parallel between you and her sister, who doesn't wear earrings because the pigs where she is look like they have them. If you had said "Yes I wear earrings" and she had said "My sister says earring-wearers look like pigs" that WOULD be a dig. This isn't. Your friends are stupid.

Lots of weirdos people won't eat leftovers. Don't understand it myself but it's not uncommon. I still wouldn't see the comment as a dig at you - I'm sure your DH is perfectly capable of making his own, freshly prepped lunch if he wants.
I like the 'making extra for lunch' phrase though, I might adopt that.

There is a mumsnetter who roasts a chicken - they eat the breast meat then throw the rest away......

" I'm sure your DH is perfectly capable of making his own, freshly prepped lunch if he wants. " - uhm no he isnt.

* uhm no he isnt.*

Unless he’s disabled in some way that prevents him from slapping something between two pieces of bread, then he is capable of making his own lunches.

Unless he’s disabled in some way that prevents him from slapping something between two pieces of bread, then he is capable of making his own lunches.

Well in that case yes. But his regular lunches no he can't makehis own.

Why?

She is saying her friend thinks earrings are a bit common and infradig. You do not wear them either, therefore it was not a dig.

Your friends are either thick for not understanding what is going on, or shit stirring. Either way I wouldn't be following their advice if I were you.

The leftover thing is not that uncommon - it seems to be a bit of a status thing for some people, "I don't need to eat leftovers, we can afford to buy fresh food for each meal", and sometimes that thinking hangs over into new generations, etc.

In fact I never eat leftovers, ever, thinking about it - I am instead a canny cook who plans ahead to use food I'm cooking now in meals later in the week. To me, leftovers are the final scrapings off a plate, of course I wouldn't eat those - and yet I take cooked food from home to work all the time.

By left overs I mean food that were not eaten but were not put in a plate/scraped off the plate.

If he can't make himself a decent plate of food I'd be more cross with her for bringing up an acopic son that for some comments about earrings...

Why can't he make his own lunch?!