Save the date

[Dippysnowoman]

Aibu in thinking that a "Save the date" implies you will be receiving an invitation to the whole wedding and not just the evening do??

Hi Dippy my comment wasn't aimed at you - but a couple of people up thread who claim never to have heard of them.

And yes, I'd have thought STD was for full days - but I suppose it makes sense to do it for the evening to. But in that case I'd make it clear is was a STE not a STD!

I’m not a huge fan of them. I’m only going to book holidays, save up etc to attend the wedding of close family and very close friends. And I’d expect to know when they’re getting married because we talk regularly not because they send me a card.
I assume it’s an all day invitation if I receive a save the date though. It’s quite presumptious if its only for an evening is it not? Please keep this date free for up to a year but you’re not actually good enough to come to the full celebration.

I don't understand std cards. if you're going to the effort of printing them off, why not just include the time and venue ( ie. an invite?)

We sent std cards before we knew a venue or time, we'd only booked the church.

I always thought they were for the whole wedding. I already dislike the idea of "evening guests", so expecting people to book the time for evening only months in advance is a bit much.

I do like the save the date a lot! It's not traditional to receive invitations a year or so in advance, but it's so helpful to know the date to be able to plan. It doesn't mean anyone must attend, but I am really grateful to get them. They are even more important when the wedding is in another country, or happens when the kids are at school etc and you have to get organised.

I like them.

We did both because we had a small (ish) wedding and a lot of our evening guests were actually good friends that we couldn't fit in for the ceremony and meal. We didn't send them to make everybody attend but so that everyone knew that IF they wanted to attend it would be on that date. We booked the venue over a year before the wedding and didn't have all the details for the invite and we didn't want people to have to rsvp that long in advance.

Luckily it turns out that everyone who I care about enough to invite to our wedding actually wanted to come and actually enjoy weddings. Unlike most of Mumsnet it seems.

Don't get me wrong I do get the point of them if I needed to book a days leave etc. but I wouldn't if it's for the evening do.
I have asked in a roundabout way which it's for which is what led me to believe it may be evening only hence I don't get why I've been sent one.

We did save the dates for day guests only. A lot of our families work in the NHS so not necessarily free at the weekend.

I've received a save the date which said "formal evening reception invitation to follow" which I appreciated as it was clear!

If it just said save the date I would (perhaps wrongly) assume it was for all day...

It's only here that people claim never to have heard of evening only invites. It's really quite normal.

Its a class thing. Like save the date cards.