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To go to this salon, by myself?

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hairdisaster4 · 09/10/2017 18:02

I’m 21. I need a hair transformation, overdue colour correction and extensions fitted, stylist said this will probably take over 6 hours.

The guy that I’m going to is amazing, I follow him on Instagram and his balayage work is beautiful. I have waited so long to sort my hair out as salons near me (Coventry) couldn’t achieve his results

I wouldn’t normally mind going by myself, but I just feel anxious about going to a salon that I’ve never been to before for so long, and going alone. His salon is in Manchester so I’d need to make a day trip and drive up too.

I need my hair doing ASAP and my friends are busy when he has appointments, so it seems like I’ll have to go alone. Am I being silly to be anxious about going alone? Should I just find a more local salon?

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thepatchworkcat · 09/10/2017 19:36

I've also never heard of taking a friend to a hair appointment! Is this a thing?! And yes, Manchester and Preston are not the same place, so make sure you know where you're going

QueenNefertitty · 09/10/2017 19:38

The salon owner won't think you weird for going to a new city on your own. Or to a salon on your own.

He might think it weird if you take someone with you purely to keep you company though.

Take your iPad, some magazines, a big bottle of evian, and just enjoy yourself,.. try not to overthink it!

AdamantEve · 09/10/2017 19:40

I live near Manchester so would love to know which stylist it is as I really need a good colour done, if you don't mind saying?

cocoboots · 09/10/2017 19:45

i used to travel to manchester to get my hair done.
my hairdresser had clients from all over the UK, many from London.
it's not strange at all to travel to see a stylist who has a very good reputation
go and enjoy yourself. take the train and get some treats for the way there and back as it's a long day to be sat in the chair x

onceandneveragain · 09/10/2017 19:48

In the nicest way possible I don't think the stylist will really care that much about you! He will be happy to take your money, and possibly flattered that you've come all that way. He is unlikely to spare you a thought once you've left his salon - he'll be straight on to the next of the hundreds of clients he sees every year!

However if you really care that about what a complete stranger thinks of you then either don't tell him you're not local - people move around all the time, he won't know you live 6 hours away and have come specially unless you specifically tell him - or drop into conversation that you have a mate living nearby and are going to meet up with them after.

Or - option 3 - don't spend 6 hours and a days travelling on a hair appointment - I can't think of anything worse and would rather be in work

Fruitcocktail6 · 09/10/2017 19:49

how will he know you've travelled just for the day? Loads of people live in Manchester who weren't born there, it's university town. If he is going to make assumptions about your life (which I doubt) it would probably be that you're a student.

pasturesgreen · 09/10/2017 19:52

Jesus Christ! What fresh hell is this of taking a friend to a hairdresser's appointment?

Papafran · 09/10/2017 19:54

I am kind of thinking the stylist will think I have no friends or think I’m weird. It will be obvious that I’m not from Manchester so he’ll know that I visited a different city by myself too. Or would that just not even cross his mind?

That made me snort with laughter. Sorry. Yeah, he will really think you are weird for not bringing along someone to just sit there like a sack of spuds in his salon for 6 hours while no doubt yakking away to you, meaning he can't be part of the conversation. He will be especially shocked when he finds out that you went to a whole other city by yourself with no friend. He might even shave an L into your scalp for 'Loser' because he will be so unimpressed.

You really should start doing stuff on your own. It won't kill you and nobody will judge you.

CoveredInFondant · 09/10/2017 19:57

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InspMorse · 09/10/2017 20:01

Are you going to Manchester or Preston?
TBH, it depends where you are going. If it's a city centre/ suburban salon, get the train up on your own & enjoy.
However, if you are going to some bloke's house premises in God knows where then forget it. Don't go either on your own or with your friend.
I cannot believe there is nowhere nearer to you... in the whole of Birmingham for example?!

Steeley113 · 09/10/2017 20:10

😂😂 will think you have no friends? Are you 12? 😂 what a silly thing to worry about. Most people go to the hairdressers on their own.

FairyMcHairy · 09/10/2017 20:13

Silly idea of taking a friend aside...

Do you really have to travel halfway across the country?? What's going to happen in a couple of months when it needs redoing? Will you go again? Never mind the time cost of this, but what about the financial cost?? I'd do your research into Birmingham hairdressers if you are sure that nobody in Coventry could do it.

cardibach · 09/10/2017 20:19

This is the weirdest worry I’ve ever seen.

KrayKray00 · 09/10/2017 20:23

He would probably see it as a compliment that you have travelled so far to have your hair done by him. Also it is their job, they do it day in day out so they won’t find it weird at all.

I do slightly see what you mean though as I’m traveling from Birmingham to Bristol to have the whole shabang - hair, nails, wax, eyebrows, tan, lips. I want it to be a nice pamper day though as I find it hard to find salons by me that do the whole lot in one day at one place.
I wouldn’t take a friend though unless they were booked in too.

Just enjoy your day have a look before hand if there’s any local coffee shops you could pop to or food places? 6 hours is a long time if you get hungry.

I hope your hair turns out how you want it!! 😊

firsttimemum15 · 09/10/2017 20:23

I think it would be fine to take a friend if they're willing to go. People are very harsh on here.

What's the salon chick?

insertcleverusername · 09/10/2017 20:26

I think we shouldn't be so harsh on the OP, I know someone who suffers from quite severe social anxiety which makes any trip somewhere unknown and a bit out of their comfort zone seem insurmountable. This might be how the OP is feeling.

Frazzled2207 · 09/10/2017 21:06

Have you seen this guy before? Are you absolutely sure there isn’t someone more local that can help you out?
I am in Manchester and I can confirm that it’s a perfectly safe place to travel to by yourself and that the stylist will think you’re very weird indeed if you bring a friend with you. Assuming it’s a busy salon, I cannot think where the friend would sit anyway other than in the reception area without getting in the way!

Frazzled2207 · 09/10/2017 21:08

Btw driving into central manchester if that is your plan is sure to make you anxious so suggest you get the train instead 😊

Sayyouwill · 09/10/2017 21:26

What a bizarre thread

CurlsandCurves · 09/10/2017 21:28

Of course it's fine to take a friend if that's what you want to do. But I have genuinely never heard of anyone taking a friend with them while they have their hair done. So to me you taking a friend with you sounds weird, not the other way around.

It is Ok to go places and do stuff on your own, you know.

Lanaa · 09/10/2017 21:30

The hairdresser will be flattered that you've travelled so far to sit in his chair. They're great at talking and you won't need a friend.

Who/where is this hairdresser? Is it the bloke at Glowing Salon?

sportacuslover123 · 09/10/2017 21:32

Is the salon called Reuben Wood?

edwinbear · 09/10/2017 21:32

I have never taken a friend to a hair appointment 😳.

Should I be taking one to my waxing appointments too?

Gosh, I had no idea I'd been doing this all wrong for so long.

LovelyPrep · 09/10/2017 21:33

I'm slightly disappointed that nobody loves me enough to sit and watch me have my hair done Could have used some company for those braids that took 9 hours!!

pictish · 09/10/2017 21:39

"I am kind of thinking the stylist will think I have no friends or think I’m weird."

No one takes a pal to a hairdressing appointment. He will think you're weird if you bring one.

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