Pre drinking bottle ettiquite

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This might not be the usual for a lot of people as I know some will say 'what's a night out'?
But I'm relatively young (early 20s) so want some opinions.

What do you think the ettiquite is when taking a bottle to someone's house to drink for pre drinks?

I took a big litre bottle of vodka to a friends I regularly go to to pre drink before we went out. Brand new bottle. She's had other people round since and they've drank it. So next time I go round id have to ignorantly ask for my bottle to drink or buy another to take.

In mine, if someone brings a bottle of spirits to pre drink, I leave it for them until next time. I wouldn't drink it on them.

What do you all think the ettiquite is about bottles of spirits people bring to pre drink and leave at your house because they can't be taken the club. And I'm not talking about an unfinished bottle or wine brought to share on a night in.

You leave it, it's gone. At house parties we used to stash our booze in the oven so it didn't get drunk. Otherwise it's fair game.

Flask?

I wouldn't expect her to save it for me.

Yeah defo just split one bottle between two visits.

Just incase you don't go out the next week which I think is what happened here.

Or take cheaper drinks e.g. A bottle of wine. You will be placated for like six pound 😂

Take a smaller bottle next time. YABU.

Is it "pre-drinking", or just "drinking"?

If a friend left a big bottle of vodka at mine I wouldn't drink it unless I planned to replace it for her the next time she was round.

In my 20s any unattended vodka was fair game!

If you give a bottle or any other consumable to your host (overtly, or by default by leaving it there) then it is up to the host to decide when and by whom it is consumed.

If you want to consume your own drink and not give any to your host, then only bring what you expect to consume on the night.

But in general it's the playground rule - don't eat sweets when you're with others unless you have enough to share properly. Private treats when you're alone.

You could have said 'I'll leave this here till next time, can I put it in a cupboard or somewhere else' problem solved, otherwise tough really

I thought people stopped doing the 'let's get pissed before we go out' by the time they were 20.
If you take a bottle...that's it...it's gone. It's not lent...it's given.

The "etiquette" in my group of friends is; if you leave it at hosts house it becomes hosts.
If you want to keep it you take it home.

But then we do things the opposite way to you....
Pub/gig first, get drink on way home, go hang at someones house (normally ours!).

Take a smaller bottle or pre-make spirit and mixer before you go.

Oh my god, can you quit with the “host” bollocks. Going round to someone’s house before you go out involves no hosting whatsoever. It’s so fucking pretentious to use the word in this context.

And yes, it is “pre-drinks”. That’s the point - drinks before you go out. The person whose house it is isn’t inviting people over for a drinks party where they would “host” and provide the alcohol or people would bring a bottle as a “hostess present” (god this word gets more cringey every time I use it). When you go for pre-drinks, you take your own booze and drink it. If I took a litre of vodka to my best friend’s house, damn right I would expect it to be there the following week and subsequently.

As usual on here, some people need to take the stick out of their arse and remember that not everyone is middle class and upwards. The commoners amongst us do things differently but it doesn’t make it wrong!

In my university flat everyone left their alcohol in the kitchen and nobody touched anyone else's without asking, and if anyone came round and left alcohol there then they would get it back as it was. It's rude to just have someone's drink.

Tbh once you left it at her house, I'd assume it was fair game for it to be drunk. Saying that if she's a good friend, I'd expect her to buy some more vodka, similar brand or better, for when you next come round.

In my circle we normally split pre-drinks, one person buys it all and the rest will pay back with cabs/ drinks out or take it in turns to buy.

However in your situation if someone left it in my house I'd leave it there for a while-maybe a month- before touching it but equally if I left some round a friends I would be upset if they drank what I left with them.

Pengggwn because it's not the main event, it's just warming up.

Well I'll ignore your lighthearted but quite patronising OP and say, as a fully fledged grown up, you never take a bottle of alcohol to the hosts house and expect them to keep it for you until next time.

That's just ridiculous.

In my university flat everyone left their alcohol in the kitchen and nobody touched anyone else's without asking

And then presumably you all grew up.

Would you really ask 'have you got my bottle of vodka I brought round 2 weeks ago?'

She shouldn't have let people drink it! But I wouldn't take a full bottle of branded vodka to pre drinks, just cheap small bottles of spirits or pre mixed drinks/fruit cider