To cancel plans with friends late notice

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My friend is expecting me to stay over tonight. Girly night. Im kid free. I said I would go. We are to meet anothet friend for lunch next day.

I dont feel like going. I am tired and lots going on in my work, personal lofe, plus usual chores to do ready for Monday (I work full time single parent).

I jusy want some time to myself too. She is nearly 2 & 1/2hr + ttaffic drive away.

But I feel bad. What do I do? :( The other 3 could still meet without me.

Like a pp said, is this trip returned? If i was always the one doing the driving and visiting, that would influence my decision.

I felt like this about an invitation a couple of weeks ago (meal out wth friends, long journey for me, - they all live cloe because I have moved away from the area) I haven;t been all that well, was feeling fed up, generally couldn;t be arsed.
But someone had booked a table and done the arrangements so I went, (and i think it is rude to cancel late in the day) and really I was so glad I did - lovely to see my friends, it really relaxed and energised me.

So a rambling way of saying I understand the not wanting to make the effort, but you might find when you get there it is just what you need a break away from house and kids, some good adult company.
Can you break the journey in two - stop for coffee and cake on the way?

YABU it's not fair on your friend and you'll be glad you went.

I'd go , but try and get as much as humanly possible done in terms of urgent chores before setting off. Time spent with friends might well feel like a break once you're there. And it's not fun to be the friend who's reorganised the diary/ cleaned the house/ bought food in for someone who drops out for the last minute- that can leave people feeling pretty worthless.

Probably worth thinking about spacing things out a bit in future.

For me, I would hate for a good friend to feel obliged to come and see me when they are not feeling up to it and would rather you cancelled than force yourself. Time to yourself is sooo important.

Op i often feel this way and want to cancel plans but i always end up having a great time if i do go, especially just chilling at a friends house. A bit of wine and a good rant will probably really improve ypur mood.
Plus if you stay in you will probably get to about 8pm and wish you had gone.

I don't value unreliability in friends. It's one of the worst traits IMHO. If somebody says they're doing something they shouldn't cancel at the last minute because they don't feel like it. Next time I won't feel like making an arrangement that could be cancelled. If it's a one off then OK. But if it happens regularly then it's cheeky and inconsiderate IMHO.

Same, Vivienne. People say, 'Oh, I have anxiety/low mood/etc.' I do, too, so I just don't make plans because I don't want to let people down. DD2 started showing flakiness. I nipped that in the bud. Told her it's rude.