To feel like I've been shit in from a great height.

[Mum2oneds]

OK so this may seem. Silly.
So tonight dp has a gig about 45 min drive away. I have to take my car as he has no room because of his equipment.
So I generally take my car and take my best friend. Anyway one of my headlights is out so I said it's not worth the risk as counrty lanes once off motorway etc so I wouldn't go as not worth the risk
She then said would your dp take me.. I said we'll if he had room for you he would for me.
So she was like oh well I was looking forward to it blah blah.. Well so was I but that's life.
She then said her son may take her. But not once offered to take me bearing in mind the only reason I didn't go was coz of headlight
Turns out she's got a mutual friend to take her. And to rub salt in the wound he would of had to drive past here to pick her up.. Then back past here to get to motorway.
Yet didnt offer to take me.. Yet I drive them everywhere.
This is the first night my DS has been to his dad's in 6 weeks so was looking forward to going out too.
Aibu to be stupidly upset by this..

My present car is a proper faff to change the bulbs.
I need to take out the battery (then reset the radio code) and Dick about for fucking ages just to get to the compartment.

It's not always as simple as replacing the bulb from the bumper.

Your mate's a selfish ares OP.

*arse

Pahahaha
Whoops- I’ll read the thread properly next time

For anyone in a similar situation in future please feel free to use my text 🤣

Well you've seen her true colours now, OP....don't make excuses for her behaviour or do her any more favours like this unless you want to be a mug.

She sounds like the type who decided she would use your 'friendship' for an easy ride.
She just had to click her fingers and you would come running, eager to please.
What has she actually ever done for you OP?
Even in friendships there has to be 'give and take' or you risk creating a situation where you will eventually get taken for granted.

She not only does not consider you a real friend, she is also very clearly pissing on your 'territory'.
Her actions say her 'relationship/closeness' with your dp is more important than you or yours.
In the event of a split, she will be on his side...though i bet she'd play you to get as much info as she could.

Have it out with her, OP.
There's nothing for you to be scared of here.
Normal, decent people who have been enjoying favours like this DON'T behave like this and carry on as though everything is normal.
Call her out on her bullshit. She was going to watch your dp at his gig but didn't think about the one person she always travels with?

I suggest being honest with your dp about her behaviour towards you and how you're going to deal with it.
I can guarantee you that once she realises you won't allow her to take liberties ever again - she will start trying to interfere in your relationship.

Bit of a projection there , Heebie!!

Possibly!

I still say she's a shit 'friend' and deliberately shat on op though...

I agree - a proper friend would have checked with OP as soon as she had arranged a lift - even if she wasn't sure OP truly wanted to go - just to make sure. That's what would make her a friend. This person isn't really a friend.

She's an arse.