You shouldn’t knock TEN years off your age!

[rightnowimpissed]

A former friend I went to school with is all over social media today saying she’s ten years younger than she is, I just think it’s a bit off really why even say anything about your age at all if you don’t want people to know how old you are, it wasn’t relevant to what she was taking about in her post.

Is it dishonest or AIBU.

I always looked at Nicloe Scherzinger and think who are you trying to kid, the others in pussycat dolls looked so much yonger than her yet supposed to be similar age group. Make you look silly i think.

the fact she thinks she has to lie about her age is sad.

And I'd probably have written that before I'd really thought about the consequences as it just wouldn't occur to me to lie about my age!

Presumably you were at school with Caprice and Kate Moss? They both used to be older than me and now they are younger!

Caprice I always found odd ... she was 39 for years and years and even now she’s only listed as 46 when she’s been around for a long time

grabs popcorn whilst waiting for reply

I wouldn't, because I'd go from people thinking I look quite good for my age, to thinking I look a bit ropey.

I always looked years older even when I WAS young:(

Mind you ,it was handy for getting served in bars when I was 15.

Perhaps you would've prefered Id said, your lying your actually 38, youll be 39 in three months so stop telling lies.

why do you have to say anything at all? Why do you care so much? How is it affecting you in any way?
Your comment on her FB makes you sound bitter that you can't get away with pretending being as young! That's how most people will read it, the simple fact that you comment is cringey.

How can you lie to employers about your age? You'd be rumbled as soon as you got the job wouldn't you, from your documents?

You don't need an active lie on your CV in cases like my friend's - you just put down your degree and the date you got it and don't mention that you were in your late 30s. Presumably HR sees your passport or whatever but the people you're working with think you're in your 20s.

If you're a contractor you don't even need to show your passport.

I think I would have pretended I thought it was a joke even if I knew it wasn't and said something like 'LOL does that mean I can be 28 again as well since we were in the same year at school? 😂'
I wonder if she'll reply or delete your comment?

Yea it's super cringey and insecure and a whole lot of people will be giving her the raised eye brows and quiet chuckle
But I would probably forget it and not comment.
But since you did, do update us if there's a reply, yeah?

It is a sad fact that for women in the public eye, being young is a huge benefit - by which I mean being seen as 'old' can be hugely detrimental to your prospects. I have two friends who for this reason have shaved several years off their ages. I think we should lambast society for its sexism rather than the individual women who are handling it the best they can.

A bit like Tess Daly who celebrated two 40th birthdays eight years apart.

Yes, WorkingItOut, I agree.

Your comment on her FB makes you sound bitter that you can't get away with pretending being as young

Yeah, that's exactly what I would have thought coddi Not oh look at FB person being a twat and lying about her age...

I would be 10 then. Hardly want people to think I'm a 10 year old perusing mumsnet.

I once found out that a guy I had been chatting to online had been lying about his age and was 6 years older than he said he was. It was an extensive lie too - had his fake age stated on his dating profile, and his username was "name1986" when his YoB was actually 1980 iyswim.

I found out totally by chance extensive facebook stalking and it put me right off him, I thought it was pathetic. His real age wouldn't have bothered me at all if he'd been honest about it, but the fact he'd lied made me think he was quite sad and insecure. Never spoke to him again.

I'm 45 and I am proud. I believe that as you get older, you are less compelled to appease people and are more capable of telling them to fuck off if they bother you.
And I don't obsess about my looks either. Feeling good in my skin is the most important thing.
I think I get it from my Mum. My father on the other side has always been vain about his looks to the extent that he didn't want to celebrate his 60th birthday because he felt like he failed his Dorian Gray dream. He was crushed when he got grey hair and when he started putting on weight. After years of being relatively slim and slagging my Mum for putting on weight after three children he eventually had to face the fact that his abdomen was now wrapped in a Michelin tyre and he didn't take gladly to it.
Those people are really strange. Ageing is normal. Every age brings something to enjoy about.

Clandestino Totaly agree.

There are no insecurities here, theres no point, they are wasted energy.

You mentioned her job; I can understand why anyone in IT may want to be younger than their age.

I began using computers when it was ticker tape. I rarely tell people that in real life as they look at me like I'm a moron and forget that I've 'stayed clued up' despite my age.

How lovely, I thought, as they told me how AMAZING I looked and couldn't get over my age. They then passed me a card, from the co worker. On the front, it said happy 50th birthday. I had just turned 40! Funny fucker knew rightly too! So basically I looked great for a 50yr old!

I remember a senior teacher at school had a Significant Birthday. A few people got together to mark this momentous occasion, but as one felt he looked maybe 45 and had a senior role they weren't sure whether he was 40 or 50. They plumped for 40 just in case.

Reader, he was turning thirty.

I’d have pretended it was a typo 😁

“Lol! Brilliant typo! If only we really were 28 again eh?! 😁”

Wouldn't bother me.

Good luck to her.

My brother did something similar. I genuinely thought he'd made a mistake so commented with his real age. He's never forgiven me!

"There are no insecurities here, theres no point, they are wasted energy."

But seeking to make her look like a twat, isn't?

Getting bothered by anything on FB is certainly wasted energy.

You still haven't explained why you felt bothered by it, or the need to humiliate her.

"I'm 45 and I am proud. I believe that as you get older, you are less compelled to appease people and are more capable of telling them to fuck off if they bother you."

That doesn't go down well in the workplace or at job interviews, though. If she works in IT, as said, there is a attitude that it's a young persons game. It annoys me on television the way they try to show Women over 50, struggling with I.T. It's only Coronation Street mainly that doesn't. Although even them had a Female Head Teacher say that she wouldn't know her way around a Computer, once.

You start to suffer double discrimination, being Female and being older.