To be annoyed at DP family while on holiday

[Chocolatteandbiscuits]

Bit of a rant so sorry if I ramble a bit.

I'm fairly upset, we are now 5 days into a 2 week holiday at Disneyworld with DP, our DS1, his parents, his 2 Dsis and 1 of Dsis partner. It's for his mum's 60th birthday.

It wasn't a cheap holiday and we paid a lot of money plus spending money to come here, which we had to work and save hard for. His parents really wanted us to come as it was the last time they were coming out here. DP told me his parents said they would help us with our DS as it would be tiring and long days.

So anyway day 5 we had no help on the 9 hr flight, they sat in front watching films, eating, sleeping. While me and DP tried our hardest to entertain. And we have had no help what so ever since we got here. We have stayed in every night for take away while they all go out. They will not wait for us to or DS to get ready. They insisted no rushing but rush. When we have asked to watch DS for 1 night when he's asleep no one can give us a clear answer. Or they say they will but then don't.

All we want is 1 or 2 nights where we can go for an actual meal or go shopping. AIBU to say is that too much to ask?

Also I know people might say why did you go, but my DP mum really guilt tripped him into coming and made him think we would have help with our DS. We thought with 5 other people someone might help.

Least my DS is having fun which is the main thing!

Glad you've a better day! GPs seem to forget how the toddler years are for most parents

They are being rude! All of them!

Glad you had a better day

Made me laugh how the in-laws wouldn't alter Christmas Day at all for the GC (6 of them) - then complained they wouldn't sit quietly for the 3pm 6 course lunch. All requests to eat earlier or later knocked back because it wasn't tradition!

Brilliant Chocolatte So glad you had a better day.

Good planning change op, I hope you can enjoy the rest of your holiday!

Glad you had a better day.

I was going to say go out to eat without them - Florida is designed for Americans to eat out in. They will be far more used to catering for dairy and soya allergies than anywhere here plus service levels are generally much higher.

Just pretend you are on holiday without them. Don't plan things together just do your own thing. So less stressful.
Then do as I did after a similar holiday, never, ever agree to go on holiday with them again.....

Have you taken ds away before as some of this sounds like typical holiday with toddler in tow rather than il fault. Your expectations may well not match reality. You may need to be more direct about what help you actually need. Agree you should be able to manage him on the flight etc between the two of you. Get as much ready the evening before ready for next day. Tbh I'd feed ds at lunchtime and tea so you can go out early for dinner and maybe offer him titbits. Restaurants are usually pretty geared up for allergies or you give from your plate. Then you could return for an early night or chill out.