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To back out of house purchase

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Goldfishshoals · 30/09/2017 00:10

We've accepted an offer on our house. DH had agreed that when we sold we'd move into my parents house rent free if necessary (they don't live there atm - it's complicated!) so we had plenty of time to look for a house.

However, ever since we accepted the offer he's been saying he doesn't want to move into my parents place, pay for storage of our stuff etc, it will be a nightmare, so we've been rushing round trying to find a place to live. We've both liked a couple of houses but been outbid, but largely we disagree (he likes quite areas suburban house with garages etc, I prefer something closer to town with walking distance amenities).

Last weekend we saw a house he liked. It's a long way from town so I wasn't keen, but I feel all this pressure about how we have to get somewhere or we will lose the buyer etc. So I agreed we'd put in a low ball bid on Monday and see what happened (our other offers have taken a week or so of back and forth before they accepted - I thought I'd have time to think about this). Anyway, they refused, DH quickly upped the bid (despite my reluctance), and they accepted.

DH celebrated. I cried. DH then got mad at me saying I shouldn't have agreed to bid, and that he'd withdraw our offer of I wanted but he'd 'feel a fool'.

I've spent the week trying to convince myself it's not that bad while DH steams ahead with arranging mortgage etc.

I feel so miserable and stressed about it. I feel so paralysed. I don't know if it's the right house. I don't know if we can get any better if I insist we pull out. I feel awful.

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Ttbb · 30/09/2017 17:27

Don't buy sonething if you don't like it. Suburbia is really depressing IMO

StillIInDenial · 30/09/2017 17:41

I'm a great believe that if a decision makes you feel trapped, back out.

So don't go ahead with the house. Your DH won't look like a fool, but if he does, he'll get over it much faster than you will if you live there against your will.

Funnyface1 · 01/10/2017 09:00

Have you talked to your dh about it anymore op?

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