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AIBU to not want DD's name and picture on the school website?

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Supermagicsmile · 29/09/2017 20:37

We signed a permission form at the start of the school year for photos to be used on the school website on the understanding that their names would not be used beside any photo.
Dd has been chosen for the school council and her picture and full name are on the front page of the website along with the others. Very clear who is who.

AIBU to not be happy about this?!

I have asked for it to be removed but I doubt they will see the email before Monday now.

OP posts:
coddiwomple · 30/09/2017 07:52

I've never seen a permission slip with xyz clause in

we had permission slip:
-not allowing photos at all
(so the teachers have to remove the kids from the group when there are photos taken of the kids taken before a sport competition, working on the gardening project, visiting xyz charity and all the reasons why group photos exist)
-allowing photos but no name
-allowing photos and names

I think that these are the few options

Changerofname987654321 · 30/09/2017 07:55

A child's full name and photo should never be together on a school website. It is a safeguarding concern.

If it is lea school, ring the lea ask to speak to the safe guarding officer.

Increasinglymiddleaged · 30/09/2017 07:56

Yanbu to not be happy about any picture of your child being shared in any context.

However, the likelihood of any harm because of this is pretty much zero unless there is a massive backstory (and if this was the case I imagine you'd have said they can't print any picture of your child on the website at all). So enjoy your weekend and ask them to take it down on Monday.

badbadhusky · 30/09/2017 07:56

My sons' primary school flouted my wishes on this every year. I complained politely but firmly and even explained my reasons first time (problematic estranged relative). The last year before DS left for high school, I was that mother. When asked to complete the annual consent form I wrote "You ask every year, and every year you disregard our wishes without fail - repeatedly. Is there any point in me completing this form if staff are going to ignore it?" The school secretary rang me when he was in year 5 to say she'd noticed a photo of my son on the school website and did I want it removed. I pointed out "the ship had already sailed" because the teachers had been tweeting pictures of him with classmates all week from a residential trip. Hmm

Increasinglymiddleaged · 30/09/2017 08:02

That's awful badbad to do it repeatedly. Everyone makes mistakes but that is a blatant disregard of the child's safety and parent's wishes.

greendale17 · 30/09/2017 08:06

YANBU- I don't have any pictures of DS on Facebook etc and i would be mortified at this

AdalindSchade · 30/09/2017 08:09

If you are ok with her photo being on what’s the issue about her name?
Children who are at risk from adults don’t go on the publicity in any capacity so that argument doesn’t follow.

TheFirstMrsDV · 30/09/2017 08:09

Until very recently I ticked no on all permission slips yet DS's photo was published.
Despite warning schools etc of the potential consequences I have been ignored and thought of as 'that parent'
Then what I warned what could happen, did happen.
So me and my family were left to deal with the horrendous aftermath of someone thinking I was being a precious snowflake and disregarding my instructions.

badbadhusky · 30/09/2017 08:17

That's awful badbad to do it repeatedly. Everyone makes mistakes but that is a blatant disregard of the child's safety and parent's wishes.

Worse, when he was in reception the class teacher, TA and school secretary all individually pulled me aside to ask if I really meant it 'cause it was such a chore for the teachers to keep him out of shot. Angry The problematic relative has since died, but the school's attitude totally undermined my confidence in their professionalism.

MrsDV Flowers

ForalltheSaints · 30/09/2017 08:26

Probably a mistake but it should be corrected quickly in my opinion.

TheFirstMrsDV · 30/09/2017 08:33

bad they tweeted my DS too. Flowers Bloody twitter. Open to everyone.
This was after I had been in to discuss security arrangements following the incident mentioned in my last post.
His school had not posted the photo that caused the incident but as there was a real possibility that they might have to deal with something similar happening I had to brief them.

It made me half wish that they bloody DID have to deal with it because it might hit home just how serious this issue can be.

Starlight2345 · 30/09/2017 08:37

My DS is not allowed on school website for safety reasons.

A photo of him I noticed was on website over school holidays( a few years ago) I panicked thinking that the photo would be up for 6 weeks... I emailed the school and teacher who ran the website..It was taken down within 24 hours and an apology from both...

Sometimes these things are easily resolved.

HostaFireAndIce · 30/09/2017 08:40

Yanbu to not be happy about any picture of your child being shared in any context.

She gave explicit permission for pictures to be shared Confused.
The issue here is with the full name being shared along with the picture.

NaughtToThreeSadOnions · 30/09/2017 08:42

I think if the permission form stated that name and image would never be associated then you do need to ask. Especially as it's full name, Because they do seem to have broken policy. If that's the case you won't be that parent just a parent being concerned.

Like people have said I've seen before that some schools say they will only use first names in a group and it be list of first names not identifying which child is which.

NeonFlower · 30/09/2017 08:46

I would point it out in a factual 'can you review your policies to make sure this does not happen again way'. They will probably be fery apologetic. Individuals will need reminding.

SarahJayne38 · 30/09/2017 08:51

I am sure it's just an error and they will sort it. However, unless there is some backstory, I am really not understanding the angst. It's a photo, OK not ideal that the name is there as well, but there must be millions of photos with kids names on the Internet. What so you worry about happening?

Hulababy · 30/09/2017 08:54

Just speak to the school and ask them to remove it. Why or how it's happened can be asked at that time, but unless you ask you won't know. And surely key is to just have it removed and for school to not do it again. Only way to sort that is to contact them - email may be better as often it can then be dealt with sooner when it's a weekend.

I am responsible for most of our schools online stuff inc social media. Although we post a lot of photographs, all with permissions, I'd never post a child's name alongside their image.

However like others, our local newspapers definitely post names and photographs.

scottishdiem · 30/09/2017 08:57

It looks like a cock-up in that being on the school council is seen as as something different than a pic of others things. Probably should have been on the paperwork for a parent deciding if a child should be allowed to be on the school council.

I would ask the school to remove it if its a genuine threat. And tell the child that although other members of the school council get to have their pic on the website, let her know why she is different.

TeenTimesTwo · 30/09/2017 09:07

YANBU.
Go in and ask for it to be removed.
Follow up by writing an email asking for a review of procedures / reminder to staff.

It is perfectly possible for schools to manage this appropriately if they have the will. My DDs primary had very solid procedures, e.g. so DD could go on residentials, they tweeted away, but somehow never included her in pictures.
Our secondary never publishes surnames if photos are included.

Polite but firm is the way to go for a first breach.

retreatwhispering · 30/09/2017 09:12

If it isn't a safeguarding issue I would wait until Monday and then ask them to remove your DD's name. It's reasonable also to ask how they will make sure that this doesn't happen again.

Our local paper published names and photos but only of children whose parents have given permission.

user789653241 · 30/09/2017 09:24

Our local paper printed my ds's full name. And we didn't even know that until it was published and given a copy by acquaintance. I wonder who gave them the permission...(Though it wasn't a big deal.)

But I wouldn't be happy school put children's name on their website.

pollywollydoodle · 30/09/2017 10:09

Sash, off topic but ....that child is called Parish Chambers 😄

MaroonPencil · 30/09/2017 10:14

if you are ok with her photo being on, what's the issue with her name?

As a child I was in the local paper with my full name, the road I lived in, and a photo of me in my Guide uniform. A week later I received an obscene phone call from someone asking for me by name. Pretty sure the two were linked. The more info given the easier it is to track someone down (in my case they just needed to look us up in the phone book, perhaps it wouldn't be so easy now.)

Nanny0gg · 30/09/2017 10:15

I had to take all children's names off our school website, not even allowed to put first names on. This schools has messed up putting both there.

Our local paper, however, does print names. Madness.

allthegoodusernameshavegone · 30/09/2017 10:16

Why is it a big deal for a local paper to run a picture with child's name? They love seeing their achievements in print, please tell me what harm this does? Especially when kids a plastered all over Facebook

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