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I heard you are trying for another...

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ToEmbarrassedToThinkStraight · 29/09/2017 17:26

Fuck fuck fuckity fuck...

So, dh and I are trying for another baby. Quite exciting, but we haven't told anyone. So keep in mind that this is all that fills my mind and I can't let it out - which might explain the mindblowingly awful faux pas I made this afternoon.

I heard ndn, ahem, you know, this morning. In fact, I've heard them quite a lot recently. So this morning I got to thinking they are probably in a similar situation to us. Planning the next chapter, 'oh how fab if we had similar birth dates'.... etc etc. Ugh. Why can't I just think about normal, non random fantasy land things.

Fast forward to the school run this afternoon. We both pull up home at the same time and... ugh I can't believe it, it's like I watched it from outside my body.

"Hiya! How is it going? I heard you are trying for another."

What the fuckity fuck!?!?!

He looked at me funny and then I just said,

"Oh my god I can't believe I said that. Please ignore the crazy neighbour lady. Ha ha ha."

WIBU to put the house on the market on Monday and not leave the house again until it sells?

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SerfTerf · 29/09/2017 17:29
Confused

What? WHY?

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ToEmbarrassedToThinkStraight · 29/09/2017 17:30

I KNOW!!

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WiggleYourWoo · 29/09/2017 17:30

You have to move the country now 😂😂😂

SerfTerf · 29/09/2017 17:30

I mean, most sex isn't TTC sex, so even if you heard sex....

I don't get it.

mishfish · 29/09/2017 17:30

You have no choice but to move out

SerfTerf · 29/09/2017 17:31

You need to emigrate AND go on a sex fast.

It's turned your brain Wink

Excited0803 · 29/09/2017 17:32

Hahaha, how did you ever manage to day this!?! You really need to move or get sound insulation, crying babies each side will be forever waking each other up.

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ToEmbarrassedToThinkStraight · 29/09/2017 17:32

I think it's because dh and I have upped the quantity Blush while we ttc, and I don't usually hear them and then I have heard them a lot recently and... oh my fuckity fucking god. It's horrendous!

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Excited0803 · 29/09/2017 17:33

*say not day

Mayhemmumma · 29/09/2017 17:33

Blimey!!!!! Imagine what his wife will make of that. Gosh I'm a bit embarrassed reading this sorry op!!!!!

LittleLights · 29/09/2017 17:33

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RatRolyPoly · 29/09/2017 17:34

Oh good god, why aren't you packing??

Did he look like he twigged you meant, I heard through the walls you were trying"?

Excited0803 · 29/09/2017 17:34

His partner must be ever so confused when he asks why she's told you they're trying. Or they're not trying and now he thinks she is. Or he wasn't there...

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ToEmbarrassedToThinkStraight · 29/09/2017 17:35

Don't be sorry. I'm embarrassed writing it and I namechanged and everything. Still just want to crawl in a hole until the shame subsides!

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MargaretCavendish · 29/09/2017 17:35

To comfort you OP: I actually think there's quite a good chance he'll think he misheard you because it's such a mad thing to say!

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ToEmbarrassedToThinkStraight · 29/09/2017 17:36

I don't know, I just know the look twigged me to go, fucking hell I shouldn't have said that! Blush

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MargaretCavendish · 29/09/2017 17:38

Also, it's really sweet and quite nice to see how excited you are about TTC - I'm a long way past finding it exciting and generally spend my online time talking to other people who are a long way past excited, it's actually rather lovely to see a nice kind of TTC obsession rather than the horrible kind!

PollytheDoily · 29/09/2017 17:44

Ah bugger it. I'm sure our neighbours think the same except I'm 45 and my DH is 52. Only got married in January though 😇

PollytheDoily · 29/09/2017 17:46

Oh and good luck TTC. Keep us posted!

Mayhemmumma · 29/09/2017 17:46

I guess now it's too late to style it out and say oh your wife mentioned her desire for one more....or something....

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ToEmbarrassedToThinkStraight · 29/09/2017 17:47

It was so awful.

The sun was shining, I had just started my full 2.5 days with dd, no school until Monday! I was feeling good, chatty and confident... and I just over-egged it.

It doesn't help that I do know the neighbours across the way have just started the adoption process and in my wee fantasy I can see all our kids starting the next chapter in our cluster of houses altogether.

Seriously, I need to watch a box set or something and get out of the little soap opera running in my head.

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FakePlasticTeaLeaves · 29/09/2017 17:52

Go round this evening and say 'yes, as I said earlier, I heard you are trying for another. My friend works in recruitment and she will help you find another! Job of course. ha ha ha. Here is her number bye!"

Then all you need to do is buy a mobile phone with the attached number you've given to the next door neighbour, and if he rings just pop on a voice and say 'Hello, it is Embarrassed friend, Mrs Recruiter. Sorry, we don't have anything for you right now. Bye"

Will work. Please report back once done.

loaferloveforyou · 29/09/2017 18:01

Are you sure he was involved in the "TTC"?

Have you contacted the estate agency yet?

SilverySurfer · 29/09/2017 18:16

I don't think Monday is soon enough - I would sell your house today Grin

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ToEmbarrassedToThinkStraight · 29/09/2017 18:17

Dh has just come home. I can't even tell him. He will never let it go.

He will think it is hilarious (it is quite a 'me' thing to do - but this is another level) and take any and every opportunity to make an 'in-joke' about it.

I really thought the ndn friendship was blossoming too. Blush

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