Have you ever met an adult who doesn't eat

[lottieandmia]

Any fruit or vegetables at all? I have a friend who says she never eats any fruit or vegetables at all.

I have never heard of this. I think surely it's very bad for your health. And limiting

this is why it would be a deal breaker. No going out for an Indian or a Chinese, no tapas, no other countries' cuisines. God how boring

Not eating veg doesn't necessarily mean that though. I don't eat veg but love eating out and takeaways. It's quite easy to eat different cuisines

My ex was a fantastic cook. Made all kinds of amazing from scratch his plate was just generally more full than mine. We ate out a lot too at some amazing hotels & restaurants. Wed have missed out on a lot if he'd decided my food habits were a deal breaker

I eat fruit - not a problem with (most) fruit at all.

I massively struggle with veg/salad veg though. I can't eat cucumber cos I can't stand the texture (though weirdly I like gherkins) and mushrooms freak me out (it's the little eyelashes underneath!). I'll eat potatoes, marrowfat/mushy peas, onions, passata, peppers, garlic and lettuce but everything else... ugh.

I'm forcing myself to eat cherry tomatoes (yeah.... I don't know why I dislike tomatoes but will eat passata in meals) but salad tomatoes - nope! I am trying (being the operative word) to force myself to eat more veg however - but I can only do it as stews , casseroles etc as little pieces - I couldn't eat roast veg etc.

I really really wish I did like it - it'd make life a lot easier!

MIL insists she just can’t eat any fruit or veg or drink anything other than coffee or Diet Coke.
I find this absolutely ridiculous coming from a 50 odd year old woman

Yes, people think I'm fussy and laugh at me when I remove every scrap of green from my plate before eating (looking at you, DB who deliberately serves up the Christmas dinner carrots with the same spoon as has just been used for the Brussels sprouts).

Can't tell if you're joking but if not you sound like incredibly hard work fair enough don't eat the sprouts but using the same spoon isn't a big deal between veg

I know someone with a medical cobdition which means they cant eat any fruit or veg. He has had an ileostomy so has a stoma and also has very little stomach function, so can't digest food properly. Any sort of roughage tends to block his stoma.

@lottieandmia no wonder cancer is such a problem

My 10 yr old ds brain tumour was not caused by poor diet! 🎗

I've never met an adult like this before. Unless there was a medical condition, I would find very juvenile

Muddling some forms of cancer are connected to poor diet. Eating 5 a day is thought to protect against these.
My 20 year old son eats very little in fruit and veg. Nothing that could be described as salad, tomatoes only in the form of things like pasta sauces, ketchup and on pizzas, a few carrots and peas on a roast dinner, and thats about it really. I used to struggle to get him to eat properly when he was a child, and now it's up to him of course, but I do worry about him .

I understand some people have a condition not or phobia that causes selective eating. But some people are just plain fussy, and I noticed that most of the time fussy eaters eat unnatural crap, like coke, macdonalds and white bread, but won't eat natural health foods like vegetables and fruit. I wonder why that is. Why can people find reconstituted chicken nuggets palatable but not an apple.

"Or a phobia "

I understand that SOME forms of cancer COULD be exacerbated by poor diet, but not all of them. I guess with everything we've been through this year I'm feeling pretty sensitive and the comment got my back up as though the blame could possibly lie with me that ds got a brain tumour...... I posted this on fb earlier just to explain a bit more of what it means.....

So today is the last day of September, the last day of Childhood cancer Awareness month. This is what it means to me..... 🎗🎗🎗

What being a "Cancer Mum" really means to me.

You no longer take anything for granted, you now know the true meaning of anything can happen anytime! Doesn't matter how much money you have in the bank or how happy you are and it equally doesn't matter how much emotional stress you have already been through.

You wonder if there's something you could have done, or shouldn't have done to prevent your child becoming so sick. Even when you know there's nothing you could have done differently in the darkest scariest of moments you will think about this.

You always knew you loved your child and probably have said you would die for your child, but you would literally suck the cancer out of them into your own body right there and then if you could.

You no longer care about how well they are doing at school or if they have Nike trainers you just hope and pray they can still go to school at some point wearing some shoes.

You listen to songs and think about the fact you might use this song for your child's funeral if the worst did come true. You don't want to think this but it just comes into your brain.

You think about the fact you wouldn't want to go on if they don't make it through this, but you know if you have other children you would have to .

You feel constantly guilty for not being there for your other children. Feel guilty that they have to grow up quicker and also get thrust into a world where playing in hospital waiting rooms is normal for them.

Every leg ache every rash every bruise every head ache makes you feel sick inside thinking the worst could happen again.

You learn to switch off when you're holding your child down to have injections. You later cry about having to be that way just to get through.

You watch everyone else carrying on and feel so angry that you didn't know to appreciate everything you did before, you want to scream at people don't you know how lucky you are ? Don't you know what you have got !?

You have to come to terms with the fact that the only cure there is could Kill your child and cause them to have future cancers. That it will destroy how their body works and looks forever.

You can feel your old self dying and your new self coming forward and you actually like that you care more and are stronger than ever but hate what it's taken for you to be this way.

You learn the pure injustice of the treatment of children with cancers. You meet children then you hear they died. You meet strong parents and then you meet them again broken into a million pieces.

You want to make changes and make a difference but you don't know where to start.

You just hope your small voice can one day make a difference.

You make friends with people you wouldn't normally have anything in common with that will touch your heart forever and ever.

You feel so sad for your child a deep sadness you never even knew existed.

Muddling - I'm sorry your son has a brain tumour. I hope he recovers. I wasn't talking about childhood cancers. I doubt leukaemia is caused by diet either.

It's a fact that cancers like bowel cancer are caused in many cases by poor diet. Fruit and vegetables contain antioxidants which help to protect against carcinogens in the environment.

www.cancerresearchuk.org/about-cancer/causes-of-cancer/diet-and-cancer/how-healthy-eating-prevents-cancer

This link talks about cancers that are associated with poor diet.

Thanks lottieandmia. Sorry to bring the thread down and not having a go at anyone, but I'm very sensitive at the moment! 🎗

Of course, that's understandable.

tesla that sounds exactly like me although I've never told a doctor or anyone professional about it. Just the thought of eating them makes me feel physically sick, accidentally eating them makes me actually sick, some I can't even smell without feeling unwell. It's like a really full on phobia. There's a very limited list of fruit and veg I can eat (potatoes, parsnips, sweet corn, green apples, grapes - that's it). I hate it.

Some places now do oven bake sweet potato fries - they count as one of your 5 a day and taste like chips (to me anyway!)

My NDN as a child ate only chips, potato waffles, white sliced bread and birds eye strawberry mousse. I was very envious of her as my parents were into lentils and houmous. I used to sneak over to hers for waffles with loads of salt and vinegar. Lush!

Fast forward 30 years and she still has exactly the same diet. She's obese and had her gall bladder out in her 20s. Her son is 12 and also very overweight. Her mother was a very good cook and tried so hard to get my friend to eat a balanced diet, even resorting to hypnosis. Nothing worked. It's very sad as I'm sure she doesn't choose to be like this.

I was a very faddy child, now I eat everything apart from meat and far too much as my waistline would testify

Love to you and your DS, Muddling.. My lovely friend is a cancer mum (brain tumour as well) It's horrific

Yes and he was a vegetarian!

I used to tell my mum to eat fruit and veg (we swapped roles! ) especially as she has smoked all her life. For about 30 years she didn't. She now has tomatoes in her sandwiches, strawberries with her cake and veg with christmas dinner. Small victories.. She has loads of illnesses so who knows what not eating them has helped cause/worsen.

Dd works in a hotel and one of the requests was no veg or potatoes on the plate. The guest only ate the meat.

Could they have been on the Atkins diet?

I don't eat fruit and very little veg, but I really really want to like them. My mother used to make me sit at the dinner table for hours till I ate stewed cold veg in congealed gravy. I used to force it down then it made me sick. I never did that with my ds and they now eat a very varied diet, but I don't.

Me. Well almost. I'm quite a strange eater.

I'm told as a toddler I'd eat anything. From being a small child for some reason I stopped eating fruit, veg and salad. I was also fussy with other things too, that children generally aren't - for example if taken to McDonald's for a birthday party I wouldn't eat anything at all except some nuggets. I never ate children's sweets, only a bit of chocolate. Would never have jelly, jam anything like that. I pretty much lived on pasta, meat, cereal, cheese, yogurts and sandwiches. My mum tried everything, took me to the Drs etc. Was told I'd grow out of it. I didn't.

I am much better as an adult with variety (am 33) . I'll also eat a lot of things some non-fussy people won't eat, things like very rare meat, any sort of fish or seafood, really spicy food, smelly blue cheeses. I eat out loads, in fact, I love food and I love cooking. I just don't love eating f&v! I leave it on my plate if we're out. I cook it all for OH and DD and they both have a great diet. I certainly don't consign them to a life of beige food.

I'm trying. I drink fruit juice. I eat any sort of potato (white and now sweet) and have recently introduced eggs as long as they are scrambled or as an omelette (I know that's not f&v but was another healthy food I've always had trouble with).

I've always eaten tomato based pasta sauces so I make them a lot and hide blended onion, carrot, celery etc in them. I also force down super smooth blended veggie soup about once a week. It's texture for me. When I put these things in my mouth, I can chew and as soon as I go to swallow I gag. It's horrible and I hate it, I've been to the Dr several times and all he can say is to keep trying. There's nothing they can do. Probably right.

I try to do one new veg a week. Usually not very successfully, but I have a child now and I think I should be setting a better example. She doesn't see me eat dinners at the moment as she's in bed by the time we have it but it won't be long before she's eating with us. I don't want to have to explain why Mummy isn't eating all the vegetables that she says are yummy and good for you during the day!!

Would be interested if anyone has any practical solutions for someone who is like this, but doesn't want to be!