To be worried?

[waveringwavering]

DP and I live in different parts of the country, so for day to day communication we what's app, call every other day etc.

Yesterday we chatted in the morning and he then messaged mid-morning to say he was heading out for the day cycling. I dropped him a couple of what's app messages during the day which I knew wouldn't go through until he got home and connected to wifi. By 10 last night they were still showing one tick (so not received at his end), so I texted instead. That went through but no reply. So at midnight I phoned and it rang out and went to voicemail.

I don't know what his evening plans were, but if he wasn't going to be around/uncontactable he'd normally message to let me know - he's very good for staying in touch - so the lack of contact is completely out of character for him/us.

The messages not being received at his end is what's worrying me as it suggests he hasn't made it home. I don't have any reason to think he's up to anything he shouldn't be, but obviously I'm now starting to worry that something's happened Less dramatic possibilities are that his phone died whilst he was out and he dozed off and didn't recharge it (happened before), but if he'd fallen asleep that early he'd normally be up and have messaged me back by now.

AIBU to be starting to freak out?

YABU!

It's only been a day

Depends how often you speak. He could have even just lost his phone

He could have smashed his phone, but I understand your worry. Does he not have a landline you could call?

We what's app or call every evening, so on the one hand I know it's only a day, but to not be in contact at all of an evening is unusual for us, plus the messages not getting through.

His phone can be a bit dodgy, but he has an older one he can swap the SIM into.
I'll wait it out I guess. I can see that objectively I probably ABU, but you know when something is out of sync with what's normal for you?

No land line whos and he's self employed should no work number either.

I don't think you're U to worry considering that his plans were a day's cycling not sitting in an office. But it's far more likely that either he's broken his phone or just come in and forgotten to put it on charge before he crashed out.

I don't think you're being unreasonable.

Is he supposed to be working today? Can you send a message to his work email?

Yanbu. I'd be worried.

All you can do is keep trying I guess.

I’d be worried too as this is out of the ordinary. Do you have any contact details for his neighbours/anyone nearby who could pop in to check he’s ok?

That would worry me to op, have you any of his friends numbers?

I'd be worried too, but I'm a natural worrier.
Do you know any of his close mates or family, could you contact one of them to see if they've heard from him?

He's not working today so should just be at home. He does have a flat mate, but he works odd hours so wouldn't necessarily notice if he didn't come home. I don't have his number but could get hold of him on Facebook if I had to, but probably just not yet.
I'm hoping it's just a phone issue

I suspect it's a phone issue but yes I'd be a bit worried too.

Hope he is in touch soon.

I'd be worried too but perhaps he's lost his phone?
Hope he gets in touch soon

I'm a natural worried too staysexy so was hoping that IABU!
He's moved to where he is fairly recently, so no big circle of friends there yet other than the flat mate and he doesn't contact his family daily, so they wouldn't think anything was up just from overnight.

I'm sure he'll be ok OP! Hopefully he'll be intouch shortly x

Have you rung his home phone?

Thanks for the supportive comments. I guess if it's a phone issue I should give him a few hours to get to the shop and get it sorted etc before getting anymore worked up.
I forgot to mention he's also a somewhat impulsive 'let's climb over this fence' type person, hence the worry has ramped up pretty quickly.

YANBU. I'd be frantic.

Probably a phone issue, but I'd contact the flatmate if I were you.

I'm so sorry you're feeling worried, it is the worst feeling, I would be worried like you but because we care! Try to stay calm I'm sure it's just his phone or he's fallen asleep. I would leave it until 12 before trying his house mate. Keep yourself busy.

No you're not being unreasonable at all.

Where was he planning on cycling? Was he doing it alone, in a rural location?

I would try and get hold of the flat mate asap. Any other friends you could try?

If he's lost his phone for example - he wouldn't be able to swap sims? I'm sure there will be a simple explanation and he'll be in contact soon.

I'd be worried too because as you said it is out of character. My dh is terrible at replying to messages but this is not normal for your husband. I am sure also he would know no contact would worry you so if it was a phone thing surely he would have tried to call from someone else's phone or sent an email or something?

Is it no contact since yesterday afternoon?

YANBU, I hope you hear from him soon.