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Original poster

To keep DS2 off today even though he’s not technically ill?

58 replies

CredulousThickos · 28/09/2017 07:53

DD, me and DS1 have all been throwing up over the past two days, in that order with maybe six hours in between succumbing to it.

I kept DS2 off yesterday because I figured he’d be next, I couldn’t have taken him myself and didn’t think it was right to ask someone else. Apart from being quite subdued and teary he’s fine, no sickness.

I’m still puking this morning, as is DS1. DS2 is still fine (as is DH but then he has a cast iron stomach). DD isn’t throwing up anymore but has to stay home (48hr policy).

None of the other kids in his class have a bug and I don’t want him to be patient zero. I just need some reassurance that I’m doing the right thing? He’s only six, so it’s not like he’s missing vital exams or anything. DH (stickler for the rules) thinks I should get one of the neighbours to take him in (kids at same school) but I think that’s asking a lot when we’re all so sick.

WWYD?

OP posts:
2014newme · 28/09/2017 07:53

Same in our house you have my sympathy

endofthelinefinally · 28/09/2017 07:55

I think you are doing the right thing.
He could easily develop symptoms over the next 24 hours.
Better for him to miss a day than for the while class to get sick.

oldbirdy · 28/09/2017 07:55

Why can't dh take him, since he is well?

MonkeyJumping · 28/09/2017 07:55

Definitely keep him home, he could be about to get sick and contagious!

Original poster
CredulousThickos · 28/09/2017 07:58

DH is at work, so he can’t take him. Even if he could I think I’d still want to keep him home. The likelihood of him getting ill is too high, and I’d hate it to go round school if it’s preventable.

OP posts:
Bosabosa · 28/09/2017 08:00

I wish others were as conscientious as you! You are def doing the right thing.

nokidshere · 28/09/2017 08:02

Yabu

You can't keep him home 'just in case' he gets sick. I was (am) one of 6 and if we had stayed home in case we caught something from the others we would never have gone to school!

My own two boys have never caught anything from each other - even chickenpox!

Wheresmytaco · 28/09/2017 08:04

You can't keep him home 'just in case' he gets sick. I was (am) one of 6 and if we had stayed home in case we caught something from the others we would never have gone to school!

Did the OP say she has 6 kids? Not really relevant then is it.

Wouldn't send them in OP either

blackteaplease · 28/09/2017 08:08

Yabu. Your DH is right. You shouldn't keep ds off school just in case he is ill. He might not get it at all.

PsychoPumpkin · 28/09/2017 08:10

You’re being very sensible in my opinion.

PsychoPumpkin · 28/09/2017 08:11

You’re being very sensible in my opinion.

Spikeyball · 28/09/2017 08:14

I think he should go to school.

yorkshireyummymummy · 28/09/2017 08:20

Keep him at home. You are being sensible. It's my bug bear - parents who send contagious or ill children to school without a thought for anybody else. He is hardly going to miss anything important at six!!

nokidshere · 28/09/2017 08:21

You can't keep him home 'just in case' he gets sick. I was (am) one of 6 and if we had stayed home in case we caught something from the others we would never have gone to school!

Did the OP say she has 6 kids? Not really relevant then is it.

Wouldn't send them in OP either

She has 3. It's just as relevant, you can't keep 3 children home each time one of them is sick 'just in case' they catch it.

SuburbanRhonda · 28/09/2017 08:23

What's "conscientious" about keeping a child off school when they're not unwell?

Candlemiss · 28/09/2017 08:25

Apart from being quite subdued and teary he’s fine, no sickness

Why is he subdued and teary? Does he not feel well but just hasn't been sick?

ImListening · 28/09/2017 08:26

I had this issue when all of us bar one of the dcs went down with gastroenteritis. I rang the school & they said keep at home just in case!

Gottalovesummer · 28/09/2017 08:27

Absolutely send him into school as he's not ill. I'm sure your neighbours won't mind taking him, they'll be plenty of opportunities to repay the favour if your kids go to the same school.

GinIsIn · 28/09/2017 08:27

Subdued and teary says to me that it's coming - definitely best to keep him off!

Pumpkintopf · 28/09/2017 08:28

You’re doing the right thing op.

SuburbanRhonda · 28/09/2017 08:30

His absence will be unauthorised if he's not ill (unless you tell school that he is), but if you're not bothered about that, keep him off.

CatOnaShitHotRoof · 28/09/2017 08:31

she has 3 dc and 2 are sick. Not a massive jump to think that ds2 will get it ffs.

And when you're sick yourself you just need life to be a little bit easier. All these 'I'd take him' yeah right. If you and 2 other dc were throwing up?

I'd keep him off OP.

TammySwansonTwo · 28/09/2017 08:35

Four out of five people in the house are sick - highly likely he's next. I'd call the school and ask their opinion maybe.

And as someone with a child for whom bugs can be extremely hazardous to their health, I thank you.

SilverdaleGlen · 28/09/2017 08:35

Think of this another way, if I was your neighbour and you asked me to take your kid to school when you were all rife with D&V my innate British politeness would be battling with my hatred of vomit and I'd secretly be furious you asked!

ThroughThickAndThin01 · 28/09/2017 08:36

YABU. He's not ill.