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to expect my childminder to use DS's £400 pram for him!!!!!

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nearlythere · 07/04/2007 14:58

Well, i'm silently fuming! When one of my ds's starting with a childminder friend we bough a silver cross linear freeway for her to use so that we don't have to lug prams etc around all the time. He is her only charge as he is mildly disabled and she is fantastic with him, however, yesterday i nipped out of work to go to the bank and saw something that has wound me up!

The childminders daughter has come to visit for a few days with her 8-month old baby, so there's the start of the story!

I turned round in town and saw my SC pram (very distinctive as is a limited edition colour and i've not seen one the same) went over to say hello to DS and what did i see- the grandaughter sitting in my lovely pram, and my ds shovelled into a cheapo £15 beach type buggy- no padding, no canopy, doesn't lie back etc!

should i say something? am i being silly? Just really annoys me that the daughter is a real cheapskate- has the cheapest of cheap travel system from argos then swans off with my pram as soon as she gets the opportunity! I would understand if she had a small car and couldn't fit everything in, so asked in advance if she could borrrow it, but i know for a fact that her travel system is in the boot of her very large car!!!

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sassy · 07/04/2007 15:00

This is a bit cheeky imo. Not sure if it is worth potentially upsetting a fab c/m with though.

Nemo2007 · 07/04/2007 15:00

Mmm no think I would be a bit miffed too. I dont know how you would apporach it though.

magnolia1 · 07/04/2007 15:01

I would be fuming more so because my child was in a different buggy while another child was in his

juuule · 07/04/2007 15:01

I'd be fuming,too. In fact, if she didn't come up with a very good reason for it I would look for another childminder.

april74 · 07/04/2007 15:01

I'd be slightly annoyed too, if she is only staying for a few days would it be worth mentioning it? if it bothers you that much and you suspect that she wasn't looking after it, then I would say something.

LazyLine · 07/04/2007 15:02

Maybe you could find out some of the facts first before slagging someone off for having a cheap buggy?

zippitippitoes · 07/04/2007 15:02

I would be extremely cross if someone else was using my pram for their child and had mine in another one for no obvious reason!

fireflyfairy2 · 07/04/2007 15:05

Oh, I would be annoyed too.

Did you say anything at the time?

Nemo2007 · 07/04/2007 15:06

I think what annoys me is that fact your son was in another pram. Nothing wrong with a cheap pram[believe me we have had a few] but if I paid out a lot of money for my Dc to find them put in a cheap pram while someone elses child is in my pram I wouldnt be happy.

sassy · 07/04/2007 15:10

Actually, this may contravene c/m rules - mindees can't share sheets iirc, so if this child was in your pram w/o changing the sheets it is quite dodgy.
Agree with those who say the cost of the pram is pretty irrelevant, its the use of someone else's pram which is bad.

WanderingTrolley · 07/04/2007 15:12

So what did you do when you saw them?

Are you 100% certain her travel system is in the boot of her car, and if so, how?

I think it's worth asking the childminder why your ds wasn't in his pram. My guess would be that your childminder wanted to give her grandaughter a go in the lovely pram, to see how she enjoyed it.

zippitippitoes · 07/04/2007 15:14

I would ask the cm why

has her dd said oh i love that pram can i put xx in it

if her pram wasn't suitable for some reason ie didn't lie back and her baby needed a nap then that is tough

I can't think of any valid reason for the swap tbh

colditz · 07/04/2007 15:16

I'd be bloody fuming if my son was foisted out of his own lovely pram to sit someone elses child in it, and I would actually try to find another childminder, because I bet this isn't the only thingt she does.

What else is she taking off your son to give to her grand child ffs? It's no better than stealing.

amidaiwish · 07/04/2007 15:18

i'm with colditz
you lot are too reasonable
i would be FURIOUS

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nearlythere · 07/04/2007 15:19

the travel system is in the boot of the car as the childminder is our next-door neighbour and uses our shared carport!!!

Maybe i'm being a snob but i paid a lot of money so that my LO has a comfy pushchair (ps it has no sheets so is the same as any other buggy!) just annoys me that she only spent £99 on her travel system but uses mine because it is better- if she felt like this then why didn't she spend a bit more herself- she has enough money to be manicured and sunbedded every week so its not like she's skint- just stingy!

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LittleEasterLapin · 07/04/2007 15:20

I'd be livid. Why on earth couldn't the GD be in the cheapo pram? Whose was it?

sunnywong · 07/04/2007 15:20

of course you should say something

that is a farking liberty, as Nan would say

paulaplumpbottom · 07/04/2007 15:23

Feel free to be livid. I bet she was horrifyed when she saw you

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nearlythere · 07/04/2007 15:24

so glad you lot agree- i thought i was just being a snobby cow!!

I really don't want to change cm's, she knows my lo and his limitations and she is great- i often bump into them while i'm doing banking or errands and i know that this is unusual and out of character- i am inclined to think it was the daughters persausion- she is a snob but not a pramaholic (unlike me!!) and didn't realise that people look at prams like they do cars and i think she is a bit embarassed by the travel system now!

So guys what do you say to the cm- bear in mind she is also a friend and next door neighbour!

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hatrick · 07/04/2007 15:26

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zippitippitoes · 07/04/2007 15:26

I would simply say why was her gdd in it and not your ds? as you bought it for him

i reckon she will be embarrassed and just say it was just a few minutes as her dd loved it so much

doubt she will do it again

WanderingTrolley · 07/04/2007 15:29

OK, so you'd seen the travel system in the boot that day, yes?

Is this occurence a one-off, or does it happen regularly?

What I'm getting at is this: you seem to be making huge assumptions on the evidence of seeing your cm, her daughter etc on one occasion. Apologies if I've misunderstood here, but I think you need to calm down before you say anything to your childminder.

If it was a one off, to give her gd a go in the pram, I don't think that's a disaster. If it is the case though, I think you could reasonably ask that the like never occurs again, in light of your ds's mild disability.

If it something she does regularly, she's definitely in the wrong, imo, and needs clear instructions about the use of the pram.

One thing though - I don't get the 'lugging about' of prams issue, if she lives next door?

LittleEasterLapin · 07/04/2007 15:30

I would just say "I bought it because it is more comfortable for him, and the other sort are not, please can you make sure he is only taken out in our one." Don't be angry, just matter of fact.

I don't see how she can argue wuth that.

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nearlythere · 07/04/2007 15:32

cheers guys- i'm feeling a lot calmer now!!! I was upset, but the thing that really got me is that she knows the reason lo has such a nice second buggy is that i run a few baby-shops and so people know that he is one of my ds's and they expect that he is well presented in a quality pram!

i don't want people to see him in an unsuitable buggy that has seen better days!

GOD, I AM A SNOB!

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WanderingTrolley · 07/04/2007 15:33

agree with lapin about what to say to cm - please say it calmly!