aibu to love this blog post about why formula feeding is brilliant?!

[girlwithasecretsmile]

I think it's great to have a post talking about good things about formula for once but part of me feels bad for laughing so much.

passmethebottleblog.wordpress.com/

Mothers at baby groups,relations,a nurse and total strangers.

Where I live, a couple of months ago, a tesco delivery driver shouted abuse at a local woman when delivering her shopping, which included formula. Overt abuse does happen, though what is more common is women making snide comments, retreating from friendships because their are breastfeeding and you aren't (has happened to me,) and snubbing. Lots of snubbing.

I've had people email me asking why I'm formula feeding, and I've even had people question my husband about my choices, in my absence.

Ironing, I do think women who are postnatal and who are feeling fragile about their feeding and other stuff may be super-sensitive, and vulnerable. And what's wrong with that? Is it not a kindness to think of the feelings that might be involved in all of this? Some of us may have had those very same feelings of sensitivity and vulnerability, and may be remembering how difficult those early days were.

That's not 'victim blaming' or saying people are 'little women'.

"Where I live, a couple of months ago, a tesco delivery driver shouted abuse at a local woman when delivering her shopping, which included formula."
Blimey. What happened when she complained about him?

Oh yes the snubbing. I remember that in spades. Utter cows.

I used formula for 6 months and was not vulnerable or sensitive the entire time thanks.

But who's doing all this snubbing? The vast majority of babies are bottlefed. Women who do breastfeed report that they are often told that any problems would be solved "if you just put him on the bottle", or that the baby is obviously hungry so needs a bottle. Is it the same 10 snubbers going round the country????

Ironing, thrilled you were not sensitive or vulnerable the whole 6 months.

'Cos, after all, it's only your experiences, and your feelings that count, of course.

Newsflash: some women are sensitive and vulnerable 'the whole time' and sometimes for a lot longer than 6 months.

And plenty aren't so don't relish you dismissing their claims of judging and unpleasantness as sensitivity.

And Bertrand words fail me.

Gotta love the Tesco delivery driver story. How'd he even see she'd bought formula? Let alone 'shout abuse' at her for buying it?

I say 'love'.

I mean 'disbelieve', of course.

:)

Nice

I've just looked it back up now. She was told that she should be breastfeeding her child, and that formula was too high in fats and sugar. Oh, and that it was out of stock (which it may have been, but usually they'd offer a replacement, like ready made instead).

In our local mum site, comments got turned off by an admin, and never turned back on again, so who knows what happened. Though if it had been about breastfeeding, there'd probably have been some big Tesco boobathon in protest I expect.

Come on, ironing, you're the one that's not sensitive and vulnerable. You're the one that sees through my claimed empathy to the judging moralism beneath.

You don't really believe this 'woman local to me' urban myth, do you?

Obviously I wasn't there so I can't vouch for the truth of her post, but I can say that it was posted.

Where's the shouted abuse, bluesky?

Yeah....who knows what happened, eh?

Why wouldn't I believe it?

www.thetimes.co.uk/article/bottle-feeding-mothers-victims-of-verbal-abuse-kbf5zsg7brx

Did all these women make it up too?

Tiktok I just saw your name on this thread and I don't hang out on feeding threads anymore but I just wanted to thank you for being a total lifesaver when I was struggling to feed my dd seven years ago and getting lots of flack for not ff from hvs and midwives etc. Your advice was incredibly valuable.

I think people like you are what makes MN amazing!

I fed dd for 2.5 years (and she's now a lanky seven year old) but I wouldn't have managed 2.5 weeks if it hadn't been for you and my amazing lactation consultant. I can't thank you enough

This is a nc by the way although I doubt you can remember all the people you've helped. Thanks so much.

Sorry for the derail though...

Does it seem remotely credible that a Tesco delivery driver would abuse a customer for buying formula? Seriously?????

"Did all these women make it up too?"

I don't think they made it up. Well, I think one or two might have done-there are always a couple. But I think that as I said before, that you can feel judged when you aren't being. Whatever you're doing.

I’ve read the original blog post and subsequent whinges blogs afterwards.

All I can say is, just because you can open a Wordpress account and post to it, it doesn’t mean you should.

So am I lying about it, or was the post I saw made up?
I assume you are just as suspicious of anyone that says they were criticised for breastfeeding?

Oh, and I've checked her Facebook. She's got a baby of the right age, lots of friends in the area, and her page looks completely normal. So either some random woman is making it up and posting it on her Facebook, or I am? Which is it? And based on what, your incredulity that these things happen?

Loving the way the breast feeding mums who say they have suffered judging and unpleasantness are believed and commiserated.

The formula feeding mum's are belittled,disbelieved and fobbed off as oversensitivity.

It's shit.

"Abuse", no, but I can well believe he might make a comment like "oh, you're giving him this stuff are you?", which to someone feeling fragile about bottle feeding might come across as abusive

Also, my tits look fucking excellent in a nursing bra. No wonder my boy is refusing a bottle when the packaging looks this good

"Loving the way the breast feeding mums who say they have suffered judging and unpleasantness are believed and commiserated."

Are they? I think they probably aren't being judged most of the time either! Although there is the whole breasts are sexual thing that sometimes causes problems........