To believe how you look is what first attracts a partner

[opheliacat]

I actually don't think the above is completely true for women, but for men, it seems to be.

My mother was always a bit peculiar and not very clever but she was very beautiful as a young woman and attracted my dad based on this (he was very intelligent and from a wealthy background.)

It still seems to be the case that an attractive woman can make a "good" marriage. Or AIBU?

Rubbish - my boyfriend only started liking me when we had to do a work event together, and he "realised how funny I was" or something. Prior to that we'd worked together for 3 months and he'd barely noticed me.

YANBU. I totally agree with you.