To be angry and upset with dh

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Okay I am probably a bit hormonal but I am bloody angry about this...

Our ds is 18 months old and wants to run around a lot. I don't like him running around when we are in town for obvious reasons but my dh is always moaning if I pick him up (if he's not in buggy).

Anyway, we were in the square where there is no traffic so I let ds run around. He ran towards the road (but there are no cars at weekend) and I was right behind him. And some busybody stopped him and said to me I need to watch him as he'll run into the road. Not in a friendly way either, in a scolding way.

So I said to dh did you hear that and he said she was RIGHT!! Well why the F do you want me to let him run around even when there are cars then!?

I'm not really annoyed with her at all, I'm annoyed with him as it's none of her business and that is what I think he should have said. Not agreed that somehow I am neglectful.

I'm livid. Am I being a complete arse?

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I agree starlighter and with pp that said buggy or reins only and from now on after what just happened that is going to be the rule

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Guys whether I was being unreasonable or not I feel so much better after this. Thanks

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Rant over

[Burritobaby]

So it took for your 18mo child to almost run into a road and a complete stranger to bring it up for you to realise that it's probably best to use a buggy or reins?

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Have you read the whole thread burito?

[HaudYerWheeshtBawbag]

Your dh was in the right, it takes seconds for a car to bound off, and a car can instantly kill!

[Threenme]

I hate being mean op but I think you are both wrong. My kids are what I would term affectionately 'little buggers' but they have been taught from day dot they hold our hand when out and about and roads are dangerous. It's one of the few things dh and I are 100% on the same page with and the kids have never tried it on. The sense and fear the unity! That you can argue about what roads ds can play on is a bit loopy!

[Bambamber]

I see where your coming from. You husband normally moans at you for picking up your child to keep him from running into danger. But the one time you don't pick him up, your husband gets the hump. You can't win if you do and can't win if you dont.

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I get what people are saying about safety, that's not what I am annoyed about. I don't let my ds run around. He's either in the buggy or in reins when we are out. My dh forgot the reins and he didn't want to be in the buggy so I was carrying him and was being moaned at. I only let him down when I knew there was no traffic. But yes, he does need to learn that all roads are unsafe. BUT my point is my dh agreeing with some bloody stranger...anyway probably time for me to leave this one.

[Threenme]

I do get what you're saying op, you knew he was safe from traffic and dh is a hypocrite. My point is ds doesn't know that on Saturday there aren't cars. Roads should just be a no no.

[Brittbugs80]

Yes brittbug you are articulating this better than me. Perhaps I need to calm down haha

Or people just need to actually read what has been written!

[Brittbugs80]

Your dh was in the right, it takes seconds for a car to bound off, and a car can instantly kill!

Then her DH needs to also stop letting the child runs around and moaning at the poster when she picks him up to keep him safe.

You also need to read what she wrote the first time where she explained it.

[CakesRUs]

An 18 month old wouldn't know the difference between a road that is closed at certain times or always in use.

[SallyForthSunshine]

He was being a hypocrite absolutely, but he is wrong usually, and you were wrong in this instance.

There may be no traffic usually, but you never know. It only takes one rogue car. Just remember this next time he tries to let your DS run near roads in public and tell him off.

[AnnieAnoniMouse]

arghhhh I'm with you & Britt

Some of you need to find a tutor to help with your comprehension. It's getting DIRE around here.

[RebelRogue]

YANBU OP. He's more than happy to let DS run around(and he forgot the reins) and moans at you for keeping DS safe ,picking him up but the second a stranger points out how dangerous it is you're suddenly a neglectful mother. Completely ignoring the fact that you were right behind your DS as well.

[RebelRogue]

This is actually the third thread today where people read what they want to read,and fuck what the OP actually says.

[lynmilne65]

idiot

[astratty76666]

Jesus. Control your child!!

[DaisysStew]

So your husband wants to let your DS run around but leaves it to you to supervise, then when DS gets close to the road and someone scolds you for it, he agrees with them? I'd be livid too OP. Tell him that from now on you'll be carrying DS if it's unsafe or he needs to be proactive and keep an eye on him.

I was also going to make a gentle comment about him not being near the road but I can see that's been covered

[Mammyloveswine]

FGS people need to read the OP! I let my toddler walk ahead when we're in a quiet shopping centre or a pedestrianised street! He hates reins (even tho we use them when it's busy or hand hold!). It sounds like you were doing similar yet your husband normally just lets him run wild! I'm doubtful your toddler was miles ahead of you, the woman needed to mind her own and your husband needs to learn the difference between allowing your toddler appropriate freedom and keeping him safe!

[C0untDucku1a]

Sorry! No idea how that happened! Have reported.

[AuroraBora]

About 90% of posts on here aren't actually responding to the OP read it again, it's perfectly clear!!!

OP YANBU! Your DH is a hypocrite and next time he has a go at you for carrying your son, remind him of this situation. He can't do fuck all most of the time and then agree with a stranger telling you off.

[dontbesillyhenry]

Count sorry but that made me howl. The DH in this case could deserve a sex ban also though