To be angry and upset with dh

[aaaaaaagh]

Okay I am probably a bit hormonal but I am bloody angry about this...

Our ds is 18 months old and wants to run around a lot. I don't like him running around when we are in town for obvious reasons but my dh is always moaning if I pick him up (if he's not in buggy).

Anyway, we were in the square where there is no traffic so I let ds run around. He ran towards the road (but there are no cars at weekend) and I was right behind him. And some busybody stopped him and said to me I need to watch him as he'll run into the road. Not in a friendly way either, in a scolding way.

So I said to dh did you hear that and he said she was RIGHT!! Well why the F do you want me to let him run around even when there are cars then!?

I'm not really annoyed with her at all, I'm annoyed with him as it's none of her business and that is what I think he should have said. Not agreed that somehow I am neglectful.

I'm livid. Am I being a complete arse?

[Flopjustwantscoffee]

I think people saw the word road and ignored everything else. Your do is in the wrong for two reasons:

1. He complains when you carry your child out and about in public places, but then criticized you when you did let them walk (if I understand this correctly near but not into a road with no cars)
   
2. He was there too, so shares equal responsibility for parenting your child but thinks you should get all the blame when a child you were both watching got into actual or perceived danger. At least you were being pro-active in following your child closely
   

Basically, I think you should follow your own instincts in future as he is
Ikely to complain either way.

[Flopjustwantscoffee]

It reminds me of when me and my the partner were both in the living room with our son (about 1 year, just walking) when he suddenly fell down and started to cry. Nothing major at all, just bumped down on his bottom in the way toddlers do. My "d"p said "he always hurts himself when your watching". WTF? A toddler falling over is a perfectly normal, and unavoidable event, and secondly he was actually closer to my partner when he fell. But because I was there it was my fault.

[The80sweregreat]

I bought some reins for my eldest as i had to go on public transport a lot and it was easier than trying to struggle with a buggy ( he was about 3 though) you dont see children with them anymore, but they did help a lot and worked for us, he had a bit of freedom but also away from danger waiting for buses and trains.