Hey my DP and I are going through some problems at the minute. We're both in our late 20s, and have been together around 18 months.
dp has always dragged his feet in relationship, always trying to deter me - too fast moving, too soon after his past relationship, too intense, etc. Which obviously doesn't make me feel the most secure. Anyway, he's done some pretty questionable things - discussing now attractive the girl he slept with 2 months into our dating was (drunk, aggressively, shouted when I cried). He's also broken up with me once before but decided half way through that this was a mistake (after saying he felt 50% in to our relationship). And I finally snapped when he slept in the same bed as his female best friend. They both assured me nothing happened, but that's not really the point. It's the bed that I usually sleep in. Anyway, we took a short break and I decided to give him another chance. However he's just not making the effort. He said all sorts when we were talking - how hed change and i would be priority. But since then, he's said that his work is taking up a lot of time. He said that I moved too fast getting back with him and that I should have taken it slower and he would have made more effort. What's upset me the most was when I kinda was annoyed he didn't come over when I was sickhe said I was mental, emotionally unstable, suffocating, and that he was going toshow his friends my texts so they knew how difficult I was.
I feel uncomfortable sometimes around his mood swings. I told him this a week after we got back together. He told me to stop playing the victim and that he's not a twat but I'm painting him as one. He said he'd never had a relationship like this one and he's definitely not that bad.
aibu to think that this behaviour is bad, or am I playing the victim ?