To want my SIL to stop asking how much things cost?

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Example sent her a photo this morning of DD dressed in denim jacket for Jeans for Genes day. Immediate response "I love the jacket, how muich did it cost" (£5.99 in the PDSA for anyone who cares)

She asks it about everything...

How much is DS's brithday party costing?
How much were DD's pyjamas?
HOw much was your new fridge?
How much were your shoes?

If we've paid for it and she likes it she wants to know how much it is. I normally just give evasive answers but NOW she's started looking themup...

"wow the party entertainer was a bit pricy"

"you could have got that fridge cheaper at Currys"

etc. etc.

FGS... its my money and quite honestly none of her business..... she and db have just had a kitchen extension done, shall I wander in and start questioning the costs of individual items and see how she likes it?

Just reply every time with a until she stops.

Just say you can't remember.

Give ludicrous answers, she'll get the point eventually

how much did that coat cost?

A MILLION DOLLARS!

Just laugh and say "have you any idea how often you ask what we've paid for things, are you really that interested?"

Most annoying , try asking her the same and see how she feels. As for replying tell her you cannot remember or ask why it matters.

I have to admit I'd start coming up with increasingly silly answers.
"Nothing, it fell off the back of a lorry!"
"Oh, just my left kidney."
"I swapped it for some magic beans."
That kind of thing.

My friend does this a bit. I tend to reply 'I know, we're so lucky we can afford it.'

She would hate me. I always say I can’t remember, I never look at the price, I just hand my credit card over.

YANBU

I'd just give her a bland £4.99 for every single thing and leave her to it

Yeah, I'd be tempted to ask her how much everything in her new kitchen cost. See if she notices and if she asks you why you're doing it, say now she knows what it's like.

Or, next time she asks you how much something cost, ask her why she's SO interested in the cost of everything you pay out for. Call her out on it.

Tell her you're on the game, drug dealing, theiving, running a mafia etc etc ludicrasly crazy ideas of where the money came from!! & that everythings £1million.

Next time she does it, say "Why do you want to know?"

Was is Tubbs in the League of Gentlemen's local shop who used to answer price queries with ''Twelvety'? I'd do that

Has she ever went out and bought any of the same stuff?

It does seem strange. Is it possible perhaps she is comparing herself to you in terms of what you spend and where you shop.

My mother does the same. I often don't tell her when I've spent money, but if it's inevitable, like the time she met me after I've had my hair done, then I find my memory's playing up and I've forgotten already.

But at the same time I've had many a long conversation with her where she tells me she's bought something and I have to hear every detail of reduction, from it's original price, to the price on the hanger, to how much she got off with vouchers and then the final, unexpected, reduction. It does my head in!

Just give absurd answers. £1.49 for the fridge, a fiver for the kids party and £900 for the jean jacket

Just kindly say 'I do wish you'd stop asking me how much everything cost' or 'You're obsessed with asking how much everything cost!', said with a smile.

Some people are just very concerned with money. As long as she is nice in other ways, it's not a massive deal.

Why does it bother you so?

I love the idea of answering £4.99 for everything.

Kid's top - £4.99
Chocolate bar - £4.99
New kitchen - £4.99
Holiday to Disneyworld - £4.99

Superb.

Or 'twelvety pounds' in Tubb's voice. Every time.

Are we related by marriage? My SIL is just the same, every time anything is new she asks how much it cost. Best was when we moved in to our house and she not only asked how much it cost but how much was our mortgage?!

my standard reply to this is 5 bob and a conker