DH had a son from a previous marriage when we met. His DS is severely autistic and now lives in a care home kind of place. His son is 18 but acts/comprehends about the same as a 3 year old. He doesn't like many people but absolutely loves his Daddy. When he lived with his mum and we had him to stay at weekends he would be so excited to see him he would be talking about it all day!
It's DSS's birthday today. I reminded DH earlier in the week. We've come to friday already and I'd forgotten about it until just now. DH is out (at the pub?). He hasn't sent DSS a card or a present. He hasn't arranged to go visit. He hasn't even phoned up so say happy birthday.
His visits to see DSS have been getting less and less frequent which I put down to us having 3 kids of our own, but it's been ridiculous lately – he's gone hardly at all, and only after I reminded him a few times. This time just takes the biscuit. I'd love to visit myself but there are various difficulties that mean that it's awkward right now. I would've sent him something, had I known!
DDS is about 35 mins drive away, btw. And DH is out of work (partly through choice) at the mo so has plenty of free time on his hands. 