To ask what your dream wedding now would be?

[RantyMare]

Whether you're already married or not?

What would your dream day be like? Not necessarily interested in stories of stereotypical dream weddings, but just what your ideal day would be, what would you change (if anything) ?

I'm being silly really. I have never wanted to BE married, but recently I've had a little daydream to myself about what my wedding would be like, what I'd wear, who'd be there (including now sadly deceased people).

I don't think I'll ever even be able to marry really.

I would have all my family and friends there, simple registry, then a band, lots of vegan food and booze at my (late) Grandmother's, who had a really lovely huge garden. The sun would be out and my family and friends would all be happy!

Would anyone like to feed my daydream with theirs :)

We’d do exactly what we wanted to do when we originally got married, we were railroaded/ guilt tripped etc into doing what everyone else wanted us to do (weak I know!).

DH, DS & I would go on holiday somewhere hot and beautiful and get married on the beach at sunset, just us, no guests.

I'd have spent more on the honeymoon and had one amazing, stand out holiday before kids arrived. Mind you, we had just bought a ho u se.

Escape to a Greek Island (or similar) with just the groom and possibly one or two witnesses ( or hire witnesses there).

I’d like to sign a form and be married without any other fuss, ut that’s not legal.

Next best choice is a registry office with as few formalities as possible and then a night or two in a five star hotel. I wouldn’t mind a nice ring.

That’s why we’ve lived in sin for the last 19 years. There literally can’t be little enough fuss.

Same as what I had apart from-

-Change one of my bridesmaids

Quick trip to the registry office with a couple of witnesses and some close friends/family if they really wanted to go followed by a nice lunch in a nearby cafe/restaurant.

Ideally I'd like to just get married with zero fuss whatsoever. In an ideal world you'd be able to do it online in your pjs with no guests. I've been with my partner twenty years and we love each other to bits. The only thing putting us off is the thought of having to have a wedding.

I am having the least fuss possible. Me and so arrive at a cottage on one day, get married the next either on the local beach or if weather is bad on the cottage. The next day we leave for a night at a spa hotel. No guests no fuss.

More fuss actually. A bigger do. Invite more friends. A wow honeymoon.

My dream wedding would be to my OH in a register office with a couple of witnesses. I’d do it in a heartbeat if he asked me.

Exactly as it was. I wouldn't change a thing.

I wish I'd married someone I actually loved, the first time around. I know, I know, only myself to blame.

I've had two. Neither were what i really wanted.

First time i was too young and it was the wrong man and the wedding was a mish mash of everyone else's idea of what it should be. Weird awkward registry office do with all the guests my DM parents thought i should have followed by a half arsed get together for 2 hours in a tatty living room. I wanted to pull out on the morning and i should have but it was too late.

Second time the man was perfect (and still is ) but although i enjoyed the day and it meant and means the world to me it was still the opposite of what i actually wanted. Big, flash, white dress do. I wanted just the two of us on a beach somewhere bare foot.

Hey ho.

I wish I eloped. No fuss, no guests, no mil to keep everyone waiting.

Similar to @clairethewitch70

Pagan handfasting in a stone circle with a Druid priest including jumping the besom followed by a Medieval feast with a bawdy bard entertaining.

Mine would be at Litha ( Summer Solstice) and everyone would go back to the stone circle to watch the sun go down.

Im having this dream wedding next year.

This stone circle and this dress.

I’d love a handfasting.

The same as we had (village my DH grew up in in the Lakes, with DFIL marrying us, walked to the reception from church, ice cream on the lawn, roast dinner, boat ride across the lake, sausage and bacon sarnies when back at the hotel and a pub quiz in the bar) except I'd have liked my dad to walk me down the aisle (instead of flying solo). To be honest I would even just settle for him having met my DH, but he died 6 months before I met DH oh and I'd probably sack off the speeches because they make me feel awkward.. but the photos of me while the speeches are being made are some of my favourites, so maybe not!

I'd just sign the paperwork at a registry office now, take the kids for lunch after. Either that or on holiday, just with the kids. No guests.

We had a small wedding (30 guests) but it still got out of hand compromising to keep people mainly my mother happy leaving everyone feeling they'd compromised and nobody happy. Lots of things weren't great.

At the time we wanted a humanist outdoor ceremony but it turned out not to be practical.

I'm a fan of legally being married if you have kids - for practical reasons only. Weddings are of zero interest though, and the older I get the more I find them silly expensive awkward things.

I loved my wedding day.
Mums, dads, brothers, sisters and nephews to wedding in hotel. Husbands 2 children were best man and bridesmaid.
Taxis to our favourite restaurant where we had an area cordoned off and everybody ordered what they wanted off the menu.
Back to hotel for party with 200 friends and family.
Very relaxed and informal and just what we wanted.

Then honeymoon cancelled because of a hurricane. Booked last minute trip to Las Vegas whilst were in airport and won $14,000 on a slot machine when we got there.

Came back pregnant!

Registry office, party in my parent's garden with a marquee, ice sculpture of St Basil's Cathedral, sick house DJ, BBQ buffet, nice dress, paper flowers and fairy lights. Everyone makes a speech. Open vodka bar. No bridesmaids.

Not married, never wanted to be. If pressed, somewhere hip or really old (like me). 2 strangers as witnesses. No one else there, some seriously nice sushi as wedding breakfast then a honeymoon in a forest in Scotland.

Everyone makes a speech! How many people are you inviting Yolo

Everyone makes a speech! shock How many people are you inviting Yolo

Haha well maybe not everyone...I think me and my BF made a list at one point and got 65 people each, so I'm not sure that would work. I'm Russian and at Russian weddings there's normally about 30 people at the dinner, and everyone who wants to does a very short speech. Nothing pre-planned but just a little one, which I think is nice. I don't like the custom that only 3 men get to make speeches.

Also, the ice sculpture is more of a "if I become a millionaire case".....the reality will be a bit more low-budget

Cocktails and naice dinner at gastro pub or restaurant. Then home to bed!