To ask what your dream wedding now would be?

[RantyMare]

Whether you're already married or not?

What would your dream day be like? Not necessarily interested in stories of stereotypical dream weddings, but just what your ideal day would be, what would you change (if anything) ?

I'm being silly really. I have never wanted to BE married, but recently I've had a little daydream to myself about what my wedding would be like, what I'd wear, who'd be there (including now sadly deceased people).

I don't think I'll ever even be able to marry really.

I would have all my family and friends there, simple registry, then a band, lots of vegan food and booze at my (late) Grandmother's, who had a really lovely huge garden. The sun would be out and my family and friends would all be happy!

Would anyone like to feed my daydream with theirs :)

We got married when our DD was 6 months, and had a tiny wedding service at the local register office, followed by lunch in a pub by the river. My only regret was that my nan wasn't there, we literally had parents and siblings. We drove off late afternoon and spent a week in the lake district with our little girl and it was perfect.....a blisteringly hot week as I recall. I hate big flash weddings, can't see what all the fuss is about. I felt having a child was more of a commitment than the wedding, that was just legalities really.

I sort of wish that at our wedding DH hadn't been hijacked by his DAunt who was kicking up a fuss right when the band started. He had to escort her back to her hotel room, then rushed back for our'first dance'. Problem was he'd been gone so long that the band had started, alot of people were standing around waiting for us to have the first dance and he raced into the room, grabbed me and we rushed onto the dance floor while the band was playing the rolling stones 'It's All Over now'.

So that was what our first dance was.

(And we forgot to cut the cake completely).

"To ask what your dream wedding now would be?"

More or less anything .... to someone else.

I think an intensely private ceremony - possibly eloping, but if my DMum wanted to be there then parents and children and no-one else.

Then a big party - with speeches and cake, but nothing else wedding-y. Not sure what the party would be like - dithering between black tie or something a bit less formal

Nothing I had the wedding I wanted

I only wish my wedding could have had two things, ice sculptures and another variant of musical entertainment to break the evening up.

We had the usual Manor House exclusive use + rooms, spring wedding, lots of classical music with a harpist and pianist. Street magician and more than enough good food and wine for all.

Should have ordered those darn ice sculptures though

OK, so just messing around and not for real... I would get married in May, in a woodland, with about 30 friends and family there, only the in laws I dislike would have mysteriously vanished for the occasion. I would have a Jenny Packham bespoke dress, and I would have lost 3 stone effortlessly to be a size 0, and would also have mysteriously become a lovely natural blonde with bigger boobs. I would then have a meal at a Michelin-starred restaurant, with a good string quartet playing, in a lovely old building, with paired wine. There would be speeches in which nothing nasty was said or implied, and then I would fly away first class for a 6 year honeymoon around the world.

In reality, I had a registry office wedding in an £80 grey office dress and then pizza and my in laws were very much present while none of my friends were. It was not exactly the dream.

Hire a better photographer (ours was a twat), ditch the reception and use it as Honeymoon money instead. I would also have a different dress now to the one I had.

My dream weddingngas always been outside in the grounds of an monastery in Spain, with my dad alive and walking me down the aisle, then a big bbq for the dinner and dancing into the night.

My actual wedding was lovely but done with a very small budget and I would have changed my dress

And I would have got someone else to do the music, person had one job and still forgot to press play

Had the big white wedding first time, headache to organise, parents both sides were a pain, hated my dress, and was far too young - 23 but immature/little life experience.

If I marry again (which until recently I didn't think I would entertain but have met a lovely man) I would have a handfasting on a beach in Cornwall in spring. Close friends only and my dd my side, he has family he is close to.

Wear something like this:

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And a campfire/bbq/picnic for after.

Getting married on a crisp snowy day on top of a local outdoors landmark that we visited when we first started going out, and for me was the moment I knew.

Humanist ceremony and just us, children and a few close friends/family. Possibly at night too :)
Out for a cosy meal at a country pub afterwards.

I flip between a country church with ivy instead of flowers, everyone I know and a big yurt style tent for reception and a runaway registry office wedding

Elope and marry on the beach. Stay in one of those huts on stilts over the sea. Family were a nightmare when we got married and wish we'd run away!

Us, 2 friends each, immediate family. Intimate ceremony and incredible slap up meal after wards. All the money could be spent on a honeymoon instead

Our wedding was really nice, but I wish we had eloped like we wanted to. We are both introverts and ended up having 100+ people there around 1/2 of which we haven't seen since that we only invited because we felt pressured to by other people, and I think we would have enjoyed it more if had just been the two of us.

If it was a largely similar wedding I just wish my (long deceased) grandpa had been there and my parents had actually been able to be civil to each other.

I wouldn't do much differently. I just wish my grandparents, godparents and a few other assorted rellies were around to see it. Sadly, some of them were long gone.

And I might ensure there was enough chocolate cake on the buffet as we ran out.

Organised by someone else! (I don't mind being involved in the holiday planning for the honeymoon :-) )

I found planning my wedding engaging but wearing, and then I was seriously unimpressed to have to do all that planning again for another day after the first husband ran off! (The actual marriage part I had no regrets about doing).

Actual wedding was a simple and down to earth registry office affair followed by lunch for 35-40 guests. As I was six months pregnant it was fairly perfect at the time. However my dream wedding would be to fly to Las Vegas with DH and be remarried by an Elvis impersonator. Would be glorious.

Been discussing this with my eldest recently. Her plans aren't so very different to what I would want. Not that dissimilar to ours - but with more luxury and less DIY corner cutting.
There is a pretty gastro pub just at top of hill that we'd take over with exclusive use for weekend. We know landlady well and some of the children have worked there during university holidays.
There are 24 rooms around a courtyard plus about a dozen glamping tents.
Night before would be supper in the restaurant with close family and friends. No hen or stag events.
On day bride goes from home and groom from neighbours house where they'll be staying.
None of the makeup artists etc. All quite simple.
Church wedding in church next to our house around 3pm. It's a beautiful 11 th century, candle lit place. Flower arches etc. Open service for neighbours as well as invited guests. Bride walking.
Canapés and fizz whilst photos are being done in village.
Vintage open top bus to pub.
Wedding breakfast with formal meal. Village fete events in field between drinks/breakfast and dancing. Coconut shy, carousel, duck catching, Ferris wheel and teacups or similar.
Then ceilidh with live band. Late night bacon rolls, hot dogs pizza and fish finger sandwiches.
Most guests will be accommodated on site, at our or with neighbours.
Sunday lunch served before people leave.

Ours was a much cheaper version - church, buffet, ceileidh. It was a lovely day but no real luxuries like professional photography or wedding cars.

On a remote beach with just DP and I, followed by food and some drinks together.

I'm really not into big, flashy weddings. I'm an introvert and quite shy, the idea of lots of people watching me walk down the aisle freaks me out.

Carlhickbread - yes I can confirm the walking down the aisle bit is awful. I had a massive freak out before I even got to the aisle because everyone was looking at me.

I'd have liked a safari wedding, loads of animals and gorgeous African landscapes, just DH and I, relaxed and perfect.

We had a late night Vegas drive through wedding and it was amazing!

The only things i would change are:

More time to get ready. I seriously underestimated how long it would take!

At the time i wasn't a big drinker. Now i would have gone to a few bars after to get the most out of wearing the dress, veil etc!

We'd elope and do it in a tiny little hillside chapel. Just us, the priest and the dc.
Then throw a lovely garden party for everyone back home, with lots of music and singing.

Mine would be just myself, future husband (doesn't exist yet) and my son eloping whilst on a holiday to somewhere I've always wanted to visit e.g. New York or Paris

I've always said I could absolutely not do a great big wedding. Don't get me wrong, they're fantastic fun as a guest, but I just couldn't enjoy it as my big day as it's not for me.