call from social services

[tattyrose567]

Had a call from social services out of the blue saying they had an annon tip off my daughter was being neglected not fed and that I was abusing drugs and alcohol! My daughter is my world im a single mum but i make sure she has everything ...designer clothes house full of toys ,she does dance classes three times a week and soft play- resturant trips libary visits ect I haven't even been out alone once since she's been born and I wouldn't know where to by drugs if I tried .I do have the occasional glass of wine but who doesn't ?? Why would someone do something like this!! they said they are taking it as malicious after me bringing her up to see them but I have suspicions it's my father as we fell out and he's not been allowed to see her . how can I prevent it from happening again or find out who did it ?

Sorry OP didn't understand this they said they are taking it as malicious after me bringing her up to see them

Can you explain? Did you mean you took your DD to see SS?

SOcial services don't visit for every allegation - how could they? They probably already phoned the child's nursery and were told there were no concerns about neglect, hence why they didn't visit to see the child.
It's not an offence to waste social services time, of course it isn't.

You can't prevent it or find out who did it, unless the person tells you.

Just be as cooperative as possible so your case can be closed and they can get on with the work they need to be doing.

designer clothes read as being good clothes not something that looks like it has been used to clean the floor, does not fit and does not keep her warm etc.

not a waste if that is what you want and you get pleasure out of it. I do not see thepoint myself but everyone is different.

It's a standard day on MN I see.

OP: I've been maliciously reported to SS. What can I do to stop this happening again?

MN: Why do you buy designer clothes?

I know designer anything is completely unimportant to SS or anyone else, but it's pretty clear that OP only mentioned it here because the allegation is that her DD has nothing spent on her - no clothes, no toys etc. etc., and that OP spends all of her money on drugs & alcohol. By mentioning that her DD not only has clothes, but expensive ones, she is just illustrating that nothing could be further from the truth than the allegations.

Why do some people always have to jump on the most insignificant little detail?

How old is your dd? If an allegation of this nature has been made then SS will definitely want to visit you and your child in your home. They will also consult with school/nursery.

If they witness that the accusations are malicious the case will be closed there and then.

BTW no child needs designer clothes - clothes suitable for weather conditions will suffice, whether they be Versache, Boden, Asda or hand me downs.

Yes it was definately them and yes I took my child up to see social services so they can see she's a chunky happy smiley well looked after child . Am I mum of the year no probably not ? Do I do the best I can for my child yes without a doubt ) shes
17 months btw ) .re the point about the designer clothes what I'm trying to say is she is warm, fed, bathed &clothed ,loved , played with imo any child who has that is looked after .

My ex made up all sorts of shit when I filed for the divorce HE had asked for. They visited. Asked questions. Sent me a copy of a report saying nothing of concern etc. The ss and my divorce solicitor said they'd seen it many times before. It's a shame there isn't some sort of fine for these time wasters. But to put off an accurate report would be truly awful.

It's easy to say and hard to take on board when you're worried, but I'd honestly try to remember that this happens all the time and SS must be utterly sick of it. The same happened to a friend of mine recently, and it took them less than a day to make a few calls and get back to her with a "case closed" decision

Providing you keep them very much onside it's not necessarily true either that you won't find out who it was. Granted they can't actually tell you, but in the case above the lady from SS gave enough discreet "clues" to work it out very fast

Thanks @tattyrose567 I wasn't sure if I'd read that right. So they're unlikely to visit you then, if you voluntarily went to see them?

My ex did this when we were getting divorced. Nice NSPCC lady came round and realised quite quickly it was a time waster. She said it happened a lot.

And yes some of you are right i may be silly for buying them but the aligation she has no clothes is ridiculous when her wardrobe is worth more than any adult . and toys likewise she has every bit of plastic tat on the market . I'm not rich I'm not boasting I shop in charity shops for my own clothes so I can buy her the stuff she needs my knickers have holes in lol

SS come and out and visit you, you don't go and see them

Can't believe pp's commenting on the designer clothes. For goodness sake! What is wrong with you lot.

Op

Rhod i went up there because i wanted it cleared up they are in our local council . I wanted them to see my daughter surely it's the best thing to do ?

Sounds like you're being a good mum op. Could be that someone is jealous of that if you're sharing info on social media.

Its fine to go in and see them, OP. Don't worry about it.

Why are so many people being so nasty about OP saying her DD has designer clothes? Clearly she's using this as an example of how her DD is well cared for. Stop being so sanctimonious ffs. Not appropriate to share your little life tips about designer clothes being unecessary!

OP - people send in malicious reports all the time, the social workers will be able see it's nonsense and unfounded

How weird that people are jumping on the designer clothes comment just for something to have a go at OP for

People are jumping on the designer clothes because it is a class Issoo.

Chill, OP.

Well said Santa

Don't they normally want to meet the child in the home situation?

LIZS only if there's an obvious and real cause for concern. It seems their workload is so heavy, and these malicious reports so common, that they have to prioritise somehow

Apparently they call a few folk like GP, school, nursery or whatever first then go from there

I think the phone call is odd too. If you've nothing to hide you've nothing to worry about either. Social workers are not daft.

They called, probably to tick boxes and see that the job was done properly. They'd have contacted your GP and HV and they would have reported no concerns. By the time they rang you they already pretty much suspected that they were dealing with a malicious or at least over zealous report.

Platform, I said that she could say that it was an offence in order to put her dad off doing it again, not that it was an actual offence. As a way of addressing whether or not it was him without confrontation.
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