Cheeky fuckers or ingenious?

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Groom asks guests to help pay for wedding
www.bbc.co.uk/news/uk-england-derbyshire-41317297www.bbc.co.uk/news/uk-england-derbyshire-41317297

Basically all guests will be paying to go to the wedding so the bride and groom will be paying 2k of their own money and the rest will be paid for by guests..,

I’m not sure whether this is genius or awful. We had a lovely wedding last year but it was all paid for by us and I wonder if they’ll ask for cash instead of gifts 😂

At least they're being up front about it. Most weddings involve a lot of spending for the attendees as well as requests for expensive gifts/cash. I've always thought you might as well sell tickets which is basically what they are doing.

Aw, boohoo, they can't afford their 'dream' wedding. So have one you can afford or go the Registry Office. FFS, so much entitlement.

£150 for a wedding attendance is cheap at the price!

You generally spend way more than that on hotel, gift and drinks if it is a pay bar.

And lets not even talk about all my bloody friends getting married aboard, on Friday's because they can host a better wedding.... yeah at the expense of a fucking flight, day off work and hotel costs for all your guests

You can tell this is a bug bear of mine...

Its like, you live in london, all your friends live in london, your family lives close - why not jut get married in london?!?!?

£300 for a couple to stay 3 nights with food and drink included?

I would probably go to this if it was family or close friend. But then I wouldn't expect this kind of invite from anyone but family or close friend.

I'd still take my own food and drink though and I would have to take my dog (he'd sleep in the car).

The last wedding DH and I went to involved a 2 night stay and 1 nights food and drink. It was cheaper than a taxi there and back but not so far away it was a chore. The added bonus for us is that it was a completely free bar so we saved ourselves £150 there.

Ingenious. The guests are being given a choice, they're including children (which is a thumbs up for me) and it's not terribly expensive.

I'm not sure I'd be happy. I get that for a spa break its a good deal, but for my family it would be £350 (2 adults, 1 child), which is a lot more than what I would spend on a hotel/gift/travel.

Also, the other people would probably be people I wouldn't want to have a spa break with. It's not usually a break when you have to make nice with a load of people!

I'm really not a fan of destination weddings, why make it more expensive for your guests! Each to their own I guess; if they and there guests are happy who cares!

Utterly ridiculous. It costs less than £200 to marry at the register office.

I sold it to them a bit like an all-inclusive holiday, so all the food and drinks will be incorporated in that cost

But it's not going to be "all inclusive" is it? The article says "the B&G are spending £200 of their own money" which also has to cover the bride's, bridesmaids', groom's and best man's clothing. As I suggested on another thread, I imagine the guests will find there's very little left over to cater for them when that lot's been paid for

Sorry ... £2000 of their own money, not £200

'Utterly ridiculous. It costs less than £200 to marry at the register office.'

Aw, but then they couldn't have their big attention-grabbing shindig they feel they're entitled to under the pretext that everyone wants to see them get married.

people paid £50 each if they wanted to stay at the holiday cottages where we were having our wedding.
We just offered it as an option as most of our family needed to travel and stay over somewhere so £50 got them 2 nights accomadation, I cooked for everyone on the first night, provided breakfast stuff in the cottages, then we did a big BBQ, and provided loads of drink after our wedding ceremony. The next day my dad treated everyone to a fry up in a local (nice) pub that opened up early for us.
It was optional and to be honest if they had booked a hotel it would have been £100+ and then taxis if they wanted to drink and a meal on the first night.

It is pretty cheeky but at least they're being upfront about it! Unlike those very CFs who hire an exclusive venue then overcharge the guests for their rooms to pay towards the rest of the wedding!

So they're having a hog roast and a Sunday roast. I'd like to know what breakfast x3 and dinner x2 will be. They have 2k for food for the stay and alcohol for the wedding. Not that much for 80 people.

It is pretty cheeky but at least they're being upfront about it!

But are they? Even if that £2000 of their own money" wasn't also being used for the wedding party's clothing, it's roughly £30 each for each adult guest with nothing left over for the children

Which will cover very little, and practically nothing once their own expenses have been taken out

Ooh I used to live down the road from the venue.

£150 sounds reasonable for 3 nights stay. My wedding venue was the same price for one night

Personally, I wouldn't want to do this to my friends and family, and if I were invited, I probably wouldn't want to go unless it was for close family. If I couldn't afford a wedding like that, I wouldn't have one.

Well, plainly the invited guests don't mind, since they've had a positive response

Have you been here long??? How many times have we seen "the bride has asked us to pay £150 each for the wedding, we've said yes but AIBU to think it is a fucking liberty" or "We're invited to my BIL's wedding but they say we have to pay for it. OH says we have to go because it's his brother and MIL will fall out with us otherwise.

Just because people have agreed to it, doesn't mean they are happy with it.

Can't see how £50 is going to go very far towards 'all-inclusive'. I booked 3 nights away in a religious house as part of a retreat in November (off season) up here and £40/day covers lodging, breakfast, 'light' lunch and dinner, certainly no alcoholic drinks or spa treatments. Even Premier Inn wants more money than that for lodging and breakfast. I wonder if it's one of those things where the price goes up if a certain number of guests don't sign up to go.

It's no different from inviting guests to your wedding abroad which then costs them money for flights, hotels, passports, taxis, food etc. Sounds a lot cheaper, and at least they are being transparent about the costings.

That said, I think the food and drink costs are actually going to be an awful lot more than they've budgeted.

£150 per couple would be more reasonable... per person seems extreme! I read this article this morning and was hovering between the two responses until I read that they knew they "couldn't afford to get married". Then I swayed more towards the grabby, being unreasonable side. Weddings can cost vastly differently amounts, I have friends who did the whole thing for £2000 and others who spent over £20,000. When we got married we budgeted everything and saved to ensure that we had paid everything off beforehand and didn't overspend/buy stupid things that we didn't need. The couple in this article could easily have got married, they just wanted something bigger and grander than they could afford. And three days is kind of taking the mick, people might not want to spend three days celebrating a wedding- surely one is enough!!

It's cheeky, a lot of people can't afford to get married, so they either don't or they have a very modest wedding, instead of expecting guests to give money for it.

Its unusual but if the guests were happy with it as a price for a spa weekend then I guess its up to them.

I went to a wedding where the cash strapped couple asked guests to bring an item of food for the reception instead of gifts. Was one of the best wedding receptions I've been to!

But with wedding lists, and people looking for contributions to the honeymoon you already do have to pay admission to a wedding. I guess this is just more upfront.

I agree that you could easily spend that for one night in a hotel to attend a wedding.

That said, three nights in a place/with company not of your choice!

Doesn't look that great from the pics-but they've got until June to save up & make it even cheaper for their guests!

Just AWFUL. Glad they're not in my family or they would be being told to fuck right off.

If I'm shelling out for an AI holiday, I'd expect some degree of control over where and when. Not in a hotel not of my choosing. Also, three day weddings are a bloody nonsense.