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Am i being mean to say no to DH?

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StickySweatyArseCrack · 18/09/2017 12:16

Well I haven't said no as such but I've suggested we don't go.

He's basically won tickets to Later With Jools Holland. Liam Gallagher will be there as well as others.

We won tickets a couple of years ago too and met Noel Gallagher.

Thing is, it's next week. Mid week which means I'd need to take two days off work which I won't get paid for. Also, we live in Hull and it's in Kent so a long drive and petrol costs as well as the cost for a hotel over night.

We can afford it but we're going away to the Far East in 6 weeks and have still not paid that off (it's on a 0% credit card so no big deal) but we also need spending money. PLUS my MOT is due next month and the car is 11 years old so likely to need something at least.

I know he really wants to go but he's said he's ok with not going. Now I feel guilty!! I've said if he really wants to go we will but now that I've said that he probably won't go.

Was I being mean? It's rare that these tickets come up.

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guilty100 · 18/09/2017 12:35

(If you have the kind of job where you can work on wifi, you could actually still work both days).

krustykittens · 18/09/2017 12:36

Honestly, if you can afford it, go. Life is too short. Have a good time with your husband, that is what you will remember in the long run!

Holidayhooray · 18/09/2017 12:36

Odd thread
You say "we can afford it!!!" but feel like you shouldn't because of the holiday.
Meh
Hardly a dilemma and one we can't really answer because we don't know the ins and outs of your financial situation.

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StickySweatyArseCrack · 18/09/2017 12:37

I either agree to work a full shift or I don't work at all. I'm a nurse so have to be physically there iyswim?

I'm not bothered either way, it would be nice to spend a night away with DH to be fair. It's just a shit time for it to come up as I was hoping to pay the holiday off. We had a good time last time we went.

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Allthebestnamesareused · 18/09/2017 12:39

Go - its something he'd like to do.

You say you can afford it so why wouldn't you?

If you don't want to let him go with a friend if the cost isn't an issue anyway.

SpitefulMidLifeAnimal · 18/09/2017 12:40

I'd go. Let's face it, LG isn't ever likely to come here is he? He's a bit of a legend and in years to come, you'll both be glad you had the opportunity to see him.

hula008 · 18/09/2017 12:40

Are they bank shifts or actual contracted hours?

highinthesky · 18/09/2017 12:40

I'm a Jools Holland fan and can attest that tickets are like gold dust.

But can I be bothered with the faff to get down to Maidstone mid-week? The answer is no - and I live in East London.

Lethaldrizzle · 18/09/2017 12:40

Yolo!

Tinty · 18/09/2017 12:42

Meh you only live once, just think of all the judgmental people that will be saying to themselves Ohh look at StickySweaty and her DH going to Jools Holland and then on a big hol they must be in the money.

Maybe just book a cheap hotel and eat beans on toast until your hols Grin.

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StickySweatyArseCrack · 18/09/2017 12:42

Bank shifts. Not to drip feed but we saw Liam Gallagher in June this year too so it's not like we've never seen him. Only this time it will be very intimate rather than a huge festival setting so quite different really!

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K0729P · 18/09/2017 12:43

If you can afford it then go. If you think the money would be better spent elsewhere, then can you really afford it?

Bibidy · 18/09/2017 12:44

I'd go, you won't get chances like this too often.

If you can afford it, do it!

Perfectly1mperfect · 18/09/2017 12:45

You can afford it and your husband would like to go so I think you should go. And I love Liam Gallagher

farfarawayfromhome · 18/09/2017 12:45

totally go, what a fabulous opportunity!!

AnchorDownDeepBreath · 18/09/2017 12:46

We can afford it!! That's the point! I just feel we should be concentrating on the holiday rather than adding more to our outgoings

Then go! He wants to, you can afford it. There's always something else you can be spending any money on. He wants to do this; you can afford it. Go.

LightDrizzle · 18/09/2017 12:46

Go!
I promise that in your last days we won't look back and regret it. He might not get another chance.

RhiannonOHara · 18/09/2017 12:47

I don't really get whether you can afford it or not, TBH.

Personally speaking, I live in London and wouldn't bother my arse to go to Kent for a recording of Jools.

AnneLovesGilbert · 18/09/2017 12:47

Go!!!!!!!! It'll be a fun night out together. You're far more likely to regret not going and a night away is a lovely way to get in the holiday spirit before your trip.

The suggestion of train tickets is excellent and it's worth spending 15 mins today looking for a cheap hotel and the easiest way of doing it.

OuchBollocks · 18/09/2017 12:47

Go. In five years time you won't say "remember how good it was when we saved a couple of hundred quid?" You'll say "remember being arms length from Liam Gallagher at Jools Holland?"

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StickySweatyArseCrack · 18/09/2017 12:48

I've messaged him and said we should go, half an hour after texting him and saying we shouldn't 😂 He'll put it down to hormones hopefully!

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CoyoteCafe · 18/09/2017 12:50

He wants to go or he wouldn't have applied for the tickets.

Just go and have fun. Make a memory. Tend your relationship.

bluit · 18/09/2017 12:51

Going on holiday shouldn't mean you have to stop living in the run up surely. Just go.

krustykittens · 18/09/2017 12:52

YAY!

krustykittens · 18/09/2017 12:52

I am waaaaay too invested in this....