To think of course women's breasts are sexual

[WhitePhantom]

Many many times I've seen people on here getting very indignant about people suggesting that women's breasts are sexual - "they're primarily for feeding babies", "they're purely functional", "they're no different to men's breasts", "women should be free to go topless just as much as men", etc.

I completely disagree! Women's breasts are a source of sexual pleasure from puberty till... I don't know, death?! I b/f all three of mine, which was a total time of 2 years, but for the other 30-odd years their only role has been sexual pleasure, for me and/or for whatever partner I've been with.

Am I completely deluded??

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:( after years of breastfeeding my nipples are nothing.......not much different than my elbow...
I don't believe half the research, probably put together in the 50's by men for men.

Noone is saying you "ought" Prickly just that lots of us do.

I'm not unwilling to accept that Lass.

Prickly it's not about what you aught to feel. But your nipples still have a concentrated cluster of nerve endings in them like everyone else's don't they?
Maybe you aren't particularly sensitive or maybe psychologically there is a reason why your brain doesn't pay much attention to those nerve endings in a sexual manner.

But yours are there aren't they? Like every other woman. You're not physically different to the tribal woman wandering around the dessert with her breasts uncovered

I don't believe half the research, probably put together in the 50's by men for men

Or actual women posting on here.

And you're lucky women, Sylvia . There's also a fair few of us on this thread saying we don't (which in no way interferes with our ability to get our jollies other ways!)

Women's breasts are a source of sexual pleasure from puberty till..

Not for me. Bloke may as well be sucking on my left eyebrow for all the pleasure it gives me.

My breasts are quite literally funbags, I can't orgasm without them.
Fed all my children with them for a couple of years, I appreciate them for all their purposes.

As I said earlier I get the impression some on MN are very uncomfortable with the idea that women can get sexual pleasure from their breasts.

It does not fit with the idea that it is men who are to blame for sexualising breasts for their own wants.

Given that I only BF for about 14 months the sex bit trumps im afraid !

Now that's a very interesting point, Prickly, about neural pathways! That's part of what I was trying to get my head around. I find nipples highly erogenous, and now I guess it's partly biological and partly association / society (partly nature, partly nurture).

I've wondered if women in places where naked breasts are everywhere find them erogenous as well - I guess physically the nerve-endings are there, but the psychological association isn't. Hmmm.

So is the physical impact or the psychological impact stronger? If you're in a society that says eg. ankles are erotic, and they're always covered up / exciting / taboo, do you form a psychological / neural sexual attraction to ankles?!

maybe things change with age which might be research worthy. teens get tingly all over just looking at one another or holding hands....just saying that after bf my 3rd child age 35 my nipples are no more or less sensitive to stimulation than my elbow

There are probably are people on here that think that Lass.

But generally on MN, and in life in general, people find it invalidating if someone else feels differently to themselves.

There's a great need to conform, especially around what is and is not appropriate sexually.

Sorry, that should have been to IfNot.

But the point is it's not a bloody competition. For some women their own breasts are sexual and that's great for them. For some women their own breasts are not particularly sexual and there's nothing wrong with that. Just like some women have vaginal orgasms every time, some have them some of the time, some have clitoral orgasms but not vaginal orgasms.

Lass seems to think some of us feel threatened by not perceiving our own breasts as sexual. Which is funny, because I'm reading the same thread and wondering why some women feel so threatened by the idea that there's a fair few women out there for whom breasts are not sexual (to the extent that it feels to me that some posts are now getting pretty close to the "and that's because you're prudes and sexually repressed and have something nasty in the woodshed which has interfered with you developing a normal sexual relationship with your breasts" - not you lass, but it is the cumulative effect of reading quite a few posts).

Yea OutToPasture, definitely less sensitive after b/f but still better than someone sucking on my left eyebrow

Ew, I feel like bashing a man in the face when they go anywhere near my nipples in a sexual way honestly. I get no pleasure. They're for feeding babies. YABU.
Now, my ears, hell yea!! Spose I should begin covering them

My family is originally from Vanuatu (a few generations ago) and I grew up fascinated by the culture of 'our' tribe. Breast are not regarded as sexual. They are functional. They are no more sexual that your elbow or thumb. I personally can't help but look when I see boobs. I'm fascinated by them. How can they be so acceptable in one culture but not in another? Madness.

Lass seems to think some of us feel threatened by not perceiving our own breasts as sexual. Which is funny, because I'm reading the same thread and wondering why some women feel so threatened by the idea that there's a fair few women out there for whom breasts are not sexual

That is not what I saying. I am getting the impression from this thread and previous threads where this has been discussed that to accept women also see breasts as sexual is problematic for some posters because it goes against the accepted wisdom that the sexialisation of breasts can be blamed on Rupert Murdoch et al. Hence the downplaying of what posters are saying- the trying to compare it to necks or shoulders.

We even have one poster saying it is made up by men- so a flat out refusal even to accept what other women are saying.

Not saying it's fully made up. I just don't meet too many 40+ women who rave about their breasts being sexual. Vaginal vs clitoral even rectal is acknowledged. Teen angst and passion aside my friends and colleagues are meh about breast stimulation. I worked in health care for 30 years...typical coffee break chatter

You are backtracking now.

I have never discussed sex with another woman in real life and never would. Women are telling you their experiences on here and you are still being dismissive.

well then...become a midwife and all shall be revealed :)
Lass, I'm 60 I don't care. people can be turned on what ever way works for them. biologically nipples are sensitive and sexual BUT more for some than others just like all other things in life. research for decade was predominately a male field and not all research on women is accurate and I don't know if said research looked at breast sensitivity as women age.

What about all the men who get a sexual kick from their nipples stimulated (there are loads) , if being sexually turned on is the criteria for body parts being bad and covered, why don't they.
Or is the OP just saying breasts are sexual for many women vs they should be covered cause they can play a role in sex for some women.

I'm 58. There were other links on here referring to women talking about their experiences and women talking on here but you are fixated on this being a fake report my men.

I am glad I didn't have you as a midwife given you are so dismissive of what women say.

Surely it's a case of individuals are just that - individuals. Some people like somethings whilst someone else doesn't.

I'll probably get flamed for this, but for me breasts are definitely sexual. And it did influence my decision not to breast feed - I found the thought repulsive. I get enormous pleasure from my partner touching my breasts.

I do realise however that breasts primarily are for feeding our children and realise my opinion is in the minority - I can't help how I feel though however much I'd like it to be different.

i'm certainly not fixated....
i'm not dismissive....
everyone is an individual.
why are you do fixated on women's breasts and sexuality?