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Report my friend to the police or give him a chance

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Maskoff · 17/09/2017 14:55

He is struggling but he works and I do not believe he hasn't had 560 in the past 4 weeks considering he told me he has sold items of his.
I brought a phone of him. An iPhone which he told me he got from work, considering his work I believed him a few days later it was reported stolen and blocked. I brought this for 400.
I told him and gave him back the phone and he gave me 260 and said he will return the rest later on.
He previously a few days before borrowed 150 off me for his insurance which was an emergency.

When contacting my bank they had told me that someone has used my card to pay a debt collect 195 and 70
I know this was him

I confronted him and he said he will pay me back and to not go police as I said bank will need a crime ref to give me the money baxk.

I told him I need the money by today again more excused of him not being paid.
This has been around 4 weeks now and I'm sick of it. I got ripped off by a family member recently which he knows about so it was a lot for me to trust him and borrow him money.

I feel like I won't get it back and I should just go police but this will ruin his career he is a footballer (lowest rank)

What should I do?

(I don't need any lectures on borrowing money I will not be doing it again after this incident)

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Manclife · 17/09/2017 14:57

Ring the police. Your not getting it back either way though. Oh and he's not your friend.

Anecdoche · 17/09/2017 14:58

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ItsNachoCheese · 17/09/2017 15:03

Phone the police and dont care about him anymore. He didnt when he was stealing from you

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Maskoff · 17/09/2017 15:12

Thank you I needed this push.

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AdoraBell · 17/09/2017 15:25

This person really isn't a friend. He's a leach.

Report the theft, get a new card and PIN from the bank on the basis that he might have noted all the numbers to use it online, and cut him out of your life.

Gorgosparta · 17/09/2017 15:26

Op stop lending people money and/or giving them access to your personal details. You have been ripped of twice.

Ywnbu to report him to the police.

Schmoopy · 17/09/2017 15:32

Well if he clearly isn't concerned about his criminal behaviour negatively impacting on his career, is he? So I'm not sure why you should.

You've given him plenty of opportunity. I'd go to the police. This man isn't a friend, he's a fraudulent thief.

Do not give other people access to your bank account in future. A friend wouldn't ask for, or expect it, and certainly wouldn't steal from you.

LoniceraJaponica · 17/09/2017 15:35

Did you not think it odd that he had an iPhone to sell?

SemiNormal · 17/09/2017 15:36

This sounds so much like a footballer I know! Does his first name begin with L? Probably not him but the person I know of has done this to several people, then moved and done it to people he's met in his new area.

YANBU to want to report it! Do it. Very shady behaviour and I bet you're not the only person he has done this to either.

SchadenfreudePersonified · 17/09/2017 15:39

Ring the police. He is showing no consideration for you - why should you show any for him?

Many thieves get away with stealing from friends and colleagues like this - begging them not to ruin their lives etc. All it means is that they stay free to do it again.

And again.

And again.

just5morepeas · 17/09/2017 15:43

Go to the police - he is taking you for a mug.

These are not the actions of a friend.

HughLauriesStubble · 17/09/2017 15:44

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LIZS · 17/09/2017 15:46

He needs to borrow odd sums of money at short notice yet suddenly has an iphone to sell. Sounds like a drugs or gambling problem. Report, you won't see your money again otherwise. It won't only be you he is playing.

ConciseandNice · 17/09/2017 15:46

Please report him. He isn't your friend. If you don't report him, you are giving him more reason to do it to you or others, (people are so stupid I can take them for a ride). Friends just don't do this.

Aeroflotgirl · 17/09/2017 16:10

He's no friend, go to the Police.

LoniceraJaponica · 17/09/2017 16:10

Why does he have your bank card details?

liverbird10 · 17/09/2017 16:13

Police.

Miserylovescompany2 · 17/09/2017 16:17

Report him for his own safety - sounds like he's spiralling out of control - he's probably borrowing off others as well...

streetface · 17/09/2017 16:18

With friends like that who needs enemies? Report and drop him as a friend.

Iheartjordanknight · 17/09/2017 16:20

Before you ring the police you know you've committed a crime too don't you? Handling stolen goods. Not blaming you but worth thinking about before you get involved in something you can't undo.

Floralnomad · 17/09/2017 16:24

How did he spend money from your bank account ? If you gave him your card / account details to pay his 'insurance ' the bank will probably not give you the money back because you gave him the card / account details . I'd report him anyway particularly if you think he stole the phone .

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Maskoff · 17/09/2017 16:25

Iheart I thought about that if I could get in trouble as well because I did give him back the phone and he sold it on but I didn't know. Stupidity obviously just didn't think someone who plays pro sports would do it nth

And no his name doesn't start with L

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Expemsiveuniform · 17/09/2017 16:27

Why did he have your bank card details? You won't get refunded if the bank fund that out.

Gorgosparta · 17/09/2017 16:27

There was a footballer who got locked up for fraud a couple of years ago.

Wankers have all sorts of careers.

I did wonder about the phone and what the police would think about that. Why would a low ranking footballer have a new iphone to sell?

AcrossthePond55 · 17/09/2017 16:28

He sold you a stolen phone. Upon realization, he has not paid you back the full amount. This is stealing from you.

He has borrowed money and not repaid it. This is stealing from you.

He has used your card to pay a debt. This is stealing from you.

You owe him nothing. His career will be ruined through his own actions in stealing not in your actions by reporting it.

Go to the police. You may never see the money, but you will no doubt protect many other people from being his victims. And that is a very good thing!!

PS, I hope you've taken steps to protect yourself against identity theft by this individual. If nothing else, change your passwords and request a copy of your credit record. He's the type that would open accounts in your name without a second thought!