To send a note to DD's teacher?

[GirlsWhoWearGlasses]

DD (5) started school a month ago. I have been a bit concerned about what she's said about fights in the playground etc, but it hasn't directly involved DD.

This weekend she's told us that two of the boys in her class were hitting her in the line and she couldn't move away as she's not allowed to get out of the line. The teacher didn't see. It sounds like lots of small slaps, rather than a thumping.

I think that isn't on and want to send a note to the teacher to let her know about this. DW thinks I'm over-reacting. I don't physically see the teacher, so can't just quickly mention it.

She's my PFB and I don't know what's normal at school. WIBU to write to the teacher?

Our school don't hand out teachers' email addresses either, I email the school office marked FAO Miss Green. Then they can either forward to the teacher or print it out as they choose.

If you think she might, try to teach you daughter to shout out the perpetrators' names when they do it. The teacher is more likely to notice them then.

Yes, I would send an email too, either to the teacher if you know her email or to the office FAO teacher. I would just say something like DD was a bit troubled by this incident as she didn't know what to do. Please could she keep an eye on the situation. I've done similar before and the teachers didn't (seem to!) mind.

As a teacher, an email would be great. Children can be quite sneaky so hopefully it's a case that the teacher hasn't seen what's going on, not that she isn't dealing with it properly.

As for the suggesting to tell her to hit them back - how utterly ridiculous🙄

Thanks again everyone. I'm partly using this to demonstrate to DW that I'm not over-reacting, so I really appreciate the responses.

Our school don't give out individual email addresses and even if I did take her one morning, I still wouldn't get into the playground to speak to the teacher, so I guess it's a note or a phone call.

Absolutely fine to contact the teacher in a neutral tone to ask for advice on how she's prefer the children to let her know about this sort of situation.

I'd go for an email simply because you know it will get to the teacher and that you will get her reply. Entrusting notes to a 5 year old ime is not a reliable way to communicate.

You can email the school office and ask them to forward it on to the teacher, or phone school office to ask for best way to make contact.

Notes are fine with the right child. I'm still working on the handing in bit with my 8 year old!

Yes send a note to teacher or email. They need to know. Also need to know that your DD put up with that because she feared being told off for moving out of the line so that they can reassure her that it's not wrong to leave the line for something important like that.

Thanks to everyone for their help. DD off to school with a very carefully worded note in her bag and have had a chat with her about if it happens again. Think it's important for her to see the adults in her life as a team. Hope she has a good day!