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AIBU? Noisy neighbours!

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MrsHandles · 16/09/2017 23:55

My neighbours are currently on holiday and have left their 19 year old son in charge of their house. For the third night in a row he's having a house party with what seems like half the town in attendance.

Now, I don't mind a young lad having a party while his parents are away, I imagine most people have done this. What I object to is being forced to listen to music at such a volume that I feel like I'm in the kitchen with them and listening to them screaming and shouting at each other. I've checked my windows to make sure they're all shut. Yep, it's just that loud.

I called the police tonight (101) and they gave me the number for the council, of course the council is now closed.

I'm currently on my own as DH is away and 22 weeks pregnant. If I'm honest, I feel too intimidated by the 20 or so lads to go round to ask them to turn it down.

We only moved in a few weeks ago and the neighbours at the other side warned us then about the noise.

AIBU to think he's being a bit of a dick and to let his parents know when they return? They actually knocked on my door before they left to say it might get a bit noisy, so they know he has form.

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MrsHandles · 16/09/2017 23:55

Christ that's a long post, sorry everyone!

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Craftylittlething · 16/09/2017 23:58

If you can't knock the door Phone the police again, I used to have pia neighbour, it was the only thing that worked.

Dancingfairy · 17/09/2017 01:01

I wouldn't confront either. Would be too intimidated. Definitely inform them when they get back but they may not care tbh.

Birdsgottafly · 17/09/2017 01:07

Phone the Police and tell them that there's cars pulling up, beeping and people seem to be passing and taking things and then the cars go.

Then report fighting.

Contact the Council, though or it will be torture when you've got a newborn. I had similar when I had my second and it added to my PND.

Do they own the house?

Aquamarine1029 · 17/09/2017 01:11

Call the cops again, and make a video of the shenanigans with your phone. If the cops won't come, go over and ask nicely for them to turn it down. If he won't, take more video and then show the parents when they get home. I would be tempted to cut their electricity, but that's just me. Fucker.

Pivoine · 17/09/2017 06:04

Even if the council is closed they should have a number for Environmental Health which you can call to report real time noise disturbances.

aaaaargghhhhelpme · 17/09/2017 06:14

Pivoine - lot of councils don't have 24 hour environmental health. Ours certainly don't. You have to log a complaint and they'll get back to you the next day

Op - you have my sympathies. I would keep ringing 101 if the party is that large - could come under disturbance? I don't know. Sorry you're going through this

thenewaveragebear1983 · 17/09/2017 06:18

Birds do you mean the OP should phone up and lie to the police? Who are massively overstretched? And potentially someone who needs the police has to wait while they establish that they aren't in fact drug dealing and fighting?

I'd suggest maybe don't do this. Ring the council. Yes it's shitty and they are noisy, but lying to the police is not going to solve the issue.

KityGlitr · 17/09/2017 06:20

Ring police and report fighting or say you smell drugs. They'll come out when it's not just noise, and the visit might be enough to pour water over the party. And there's no repercussion for you, it's plausible you might have thought such a racket was violence.

KityGlitr · 17/09/2017 06:23

Bear, sadly it's literally the only way to get it to stop at this time of night. I massive disagree with them palming off noise issues on the council when it isn't a twenty four hour service, late at night a party like that is a legal issue as it's disturbance of the peace.

OP pays their taxes like anyone else and is entitled to use the emergency services like anyone else. If the call dispatcher believe someone else is in more danger they'll send police to them first and get round to the party later.

thenewaveragebear1983 · 17/09/2017 06:35

It's not an emergency. The emergency services are there for emergencies. No one is in danger. Yes. It's annoying. But it's not an emergency. Ring 101.

They've told the OP what to do.

Do you realise how much work that would create? On the back of a lie? I can't believe mumsnet sometimes- people in hysterics about taking someone to a&e, and on a different thread conversely advising someone to phone the police and lie. The reason they won't come out is because there's nothing they can do, they've told the OP what to do, and thats not what they are there for. I hope you're prepared to wait next time you ring the police in an emergency.

KityGlitr · 17/09/2017 06:40

Yes, and I have waited. I once waited half an hour for them to come when my downstairs neighbour was trying to kick my door in and assault me. And I'd never dream of telling others not to ring the police if they felt they needed to. It's not citizens job to triage and assess the severity and danger of calls, the police will do it.

I will add when I've had to do this before (police for a disturbance of the peace) I have rang 101 and made it clear it wasn't an emergency but were they able to send somebody and they obliged.

highinthesky · 17/09/2017 06:45

Have you thought about talking to the neighbours on the other side? It would be worth it if you feel vulnerable, and to approach the lad directly this afternoon.

He probably doesn't have a clue what impact this is having on you!

thenewaveragebear1983 · 17/09/2017 06:45

Kit she has ring the police. I didn't say don't ring the police. I said don't ring the police and lie. That's very different- don't put words in my mouth please. Surely no one can advocate ringing the emergency services and lying? The op has every right to ring the police and explain the situation and I have not said she shouldn't. But you, and other posters, have suggested she say there is drug dealing and fighting, which it clearly doesn't say in her OP.

thenewaveragebear1983 · 17/09/2017 06:48

High perhaps that's what she should do- go round with a few neighbours, in the daytime, and speak to them today. He probably has no idea that it's causing so much disturbance, (maybe even basing that on the fact that no one had complained!)

If you have a contact number for the parents I'd ring them today as well and they might contact the son to tell him to keep it down.

Lostwithinthehills · 17/09/2017 07:00

no one can advocate ringing the emergency services and lying

JonSnowsWife · 17/09/2017 07:24

^
Even if the council is closed they should have a number for Environmental Health which you can call to report real time noise disturbances^

Ours doesn't have a 24hr line,the only thing you can do is wait until Monday morning and then report. The police don't come out to parties around here, they weren't even bothered when I tried telling them that people who were clearly inebriated were getting behind the wheel of a car in the early hours of the morning when leaving the party. Hmm

OP. Feel free to tell the parents but just be warned they might not give a shit and pass it off as a right of adolescence. I'd just report straight to their council / landlord.

JonSnowsWife · 17/09/2017 07:28

He might not realise

Of course he does. He's 19. Plenty old enough.

Fenellapitstop · 17/09/2017 07:29

It isn't the police who handed noise complaints to the council, it was the home office that removed the control powers and passed it to the councils to enforce via eho. All they can do is ask for the noise to be turned down, if they refuse there is nothing they can do

Expemsiveuniform · 17/09/2017 07:31

I can't believe people think you should ring the police and lie to get them to come out

SunSeptember · 17/09/2017 07:35

Police used to come straight out to tell people to turn music down after midnight's, they still can usually it takes a few people calling it in though and making a fuss.

Ijustwantaquietlife · 17/09/2017 07:37

Don't waste police time.

Just be happy you know it's only temporary.

SunSeptember · 17/09/2017 07:37

There's nothing they can do..... actually any one hosting a party, the last thing you want is police turning up! Of course the presence of an officer does something!! I know because I have had them out for on going anti social noise issue's.

SunSeptember · 17/09/2017 07:45

By the way op And anyone in this situation, always call in 101 if loud Noise is disturbing you at night as in this situation on going not clearly a one off party. Posters on here are not in the call centers And have no Idea. If your desperate and your not sure ,call 101 they will decide if they can help you or not. Some posters make it sound like merely calling a call center is actually calling a police man mid arrest of serious criminal! To come and do your Noise job. Many times for various issue's when we had our problem neighbour s police call center Said, we are going too try and send some one out, they may get called to more urgent job but we will try, or....we have a car really close to you and we are sending them , etc etc etc!! Please don't be put off calling it's a non emergency number and they know what they can and can't do.

JonSnowsWife · 17/09/2017 07:52

I didn't lie to the police about the drink driving. That was the truth. They were very busy and told me from the off it was way down their list of priorities.

SunSeptember they don't come out after midnight. They simply don't have the resources. Parties have regularly gone on until 5am/6am in the morning around here and not one has come out to tell them to turn it down. One came out many years ago to a house complaint. Before all the cutbacks.

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