Tips to look after your husband....

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This just popped up on FB

My stance is - fuck that for a game of soldiers. Reasonable?!

I wonder what the equivalent was for tips to look after your wife in 1950?

FUCK. THAT. SHIT

I know it is from the 50s but does anyone really think like this anymore?!

There are nearly 40k comments on the FB post and there are a lot of old dears advocating that drivel.

Bless em.

Did they have washer/drivers and dish washers in the 50,s ? I do.make dh something to eat for when he finishes work on a late he finishes at 11pm but other than that no.

Thank goodness it's from 1950 I would never of got my dh to stay otherwise 😂😂

I personally like the 'be a little gay' part. Maybe talking about your latest lesbian crush will lighten the mood for your poor husband who has spent the day doing back-breaking work in the office.

The bit about offering to take his shoes off for him is totally mad!

But actually ... I think most of the rest of it is quite sensible. It's just about consideration, and making your partner feel valued, really, isn't it?

My personal favourite is "prepare the children"

I wonder what the equivalent was for tips to look after your wife in 1950?

If you see any dust she missed while she cleaning, point it out so she can sort it out.

I guess.

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My DM and DMiL have this type of marriage and I think they expected mine to be the same ... not while there is a hole in my bottom.

I think most of the rest of it is quite sensible. It's just about consideration, and making your partner feel valued, really, isn't it?

Well it's not really reciprocal is it? It's HIS evening because HE has had such a shit day at work and don't you dare burden HIM with any problems that you might have. Also, talk about milking how hard it apparently is to work in an office. Don't many parents go to work to get a break?

I reckon the male equivalent would have been along the lines of -

Give your wife a bunch of fives if she does not comply with the above!

Why are you getting het up by something written 60 years ago?

Why are you getting het up by something written 60 years ago?

It scares the shit out of me that this was only 60 years ago. It scares me that there was so much shit peddled in the 80s and 90s which was within my lifetime. Also, there are lots of people around who still believe this shit.

I didn;t read it, but I can imagine.

Sounds like the way I was brought up.

My mother was a surrendered wife, never had a bank account, didn't drive, made no big decisions. She happily accepted to be told how to vote, she never worked once she got married, was given weekly housekeeping in cash.
She taught me how to keep myself pretty for a man, never to argue back, never to question.

Keep a man sweet and he will look after you was her motto.

I'm a straight female, but quite frankly, I'd LOVE a 1950's wifey!

I'm not sure what the advice to a gay couple would have been in the 1950's...other than 'Don't'. It's good some things have changed!

Chilled - how did that work out for you?

Why are you getting het up by something written 60 years ago?

Because this kind of oppressive expectation of women has not been completely eradicated, and to be honest, I feel sorry for my mothers and grandmothers generations who had to put up with this bullshit.

Keep a man sweet and he will look after you was her motto. Apart from the obvious, wouldn't you think people know this just doesn't work?

*I think most of the rest of it is quite sensible. It's just about consideration, and making your partner feel valued, really, isn't it?

Well it's not really reciprocal is it? It's HIS evening because HE has had such a shit day at work and don't you dare burden HIM with any problems that you might have. Also, talk about milking how hard it apparently is to work in an office. Don't many parents go to work to get a break?*

Well, it wasn't reciprocal then, but there's no reason it can't be now. If a partner has had a hard day, then it makes perfect sense for the other partner to look after him or her, and to put a bit of effort into making the home a nice place to return to. And I certainly agree with the bit about making an effort to look nice for your partner - I think it should apply both ways, but I certainly agree with it.

Apart from the obvious, wouldn't you think people know this just doesn't work?

Well I thought it would work, my mother brought me up to believe it would be so.

It was only as an adult that I found to my peril that this wasn't true.

It is a load of shit. Sadly though, in some quarters these opinions linger on.

I'd absolutely love, love, love to have a 50's housewife!

I still have my mother fussing over my OH.
She polishes his work shoes, takes them off the rack- he can't be arsed and nothing to do with me, but my mother tut tuts that i " shouldn't be sending my husband to work in unpolished shoes.

I caught her a few years ago trying to train my DD to polish the whole family's shoes ( including my DSs shoes) every week.
It was my job as a child to polish the whole family's shoes every week, so I could " get into the way of it" for when I was an adult woman.

These influences do certainly still exist.