Tips to look after your husband....

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This just popped up on FB

My stance is - fuck that for a game of soldiers. Reasonable?!

I love the suggestion to be a "little gay". How tall do you have to be to be a "big gay"? Surprisingly progressive for the 50's😁

This stuff won't die off until the generations that held to it die off, its prevalent is less in our generation and when we die it'll be even smaller. Nothing changes overnight, no matter what the law or general society wants. Of course its scary, but remembering this is how we avoid it becoming a 'thing' again.

prevalence. bloody autocorrect.

Still happens in Japan. My wife's aunt, who has a husband, sons and grandsons, but no daughters or granddaughters, almost fainted in shock and gushed with praise when I, rather than my wife, made her a cup of tea when she visited.

You know what really gets me going over that pile of utter bilge is that not all wives in the 50s were stay at home housewifeys, with nothing better to fill their time than work out how to keep their husbands happy! Lots of them had to do jobs themselves as well - mostly in the lowest sector of employment, as offices often refused to keep on "married ladies".

So you can imagine, can't you, that the local woman who takes in laundry and has 5 children has PLENTY of time to do all that bollocks, and worry about her pore ol' husband's creature comforts - like hell!
As for the strains of his day - pah!

Never mind, I know it's a load of old bilge and it has really zero impact on my life now. It just really annoys me that some people see it as some sort of ideal to aspire to - nope.

Cailleach - bloody hell.
My dad used to clean all our shoes - he'd done national service so he knew how to do them. Then he taught each of us how to do our own shoes. He'd never ever have suggested that I should learn to do my brother's shoes just because I was a woman! He would actually, sooner, have suggested my brother should do mine - but in reality he wouldn't have done that either, because he thought we all should know how, and take responsibility for our own.

there are a lot of old dears advocating that drivel

And yet more casual ageism on here. FFS.

Those people saying they would love to have a 50s wifey. I hope you're joking.
Nobody should be expected to be anyone's slave. What a load of shit.

there are a lot of old dears advocating that drivel

Well, it will be 'old dears' who were the second wave feminists that led the struggle for fertility rights, equal pay, women's refuges, reclaim the night. How about less patronising and more respect for the 'old dears' whose efforts means your life is now incomparably easier?

I'm slightly sceptical about it having been written in the 1950s too.

Washing machines for those who had them I think tended to be twin tubs?? Tumble dryers were uncommon and domestic dishwashers barely known back then.

Pretty sure this has been debunked as a (v g ) spoof. Sorry.

My mum firmly believes that women make themselves unhappy by wanting to be ''like men'', ie, wanting to be paid more than peanuts for working hard and contributing equally so that they have an equal voice in a relationship. She believes that this is the path to disatisfaction.

Like Cailleach, my mother attempts to train my daughter up. She's on autopilot though.

Well, it will be 'old dears' who were the second wave feminists that led the struggle for fertility rights, equal pay, women's refuges, reclaim the night. How about less patronising and more respect for the 'old dears' whose efforts means your life is now incomparably easier?

Absolutely, TheLuminaries. Couldn't agree more.

Lots of them had to do jobs themselves as well - mostly in the lowest sector of employment

Agriculture especially.

Well, it will be 'old dears' who were the second wave feminists that led the struggle for fertility rights, equal pay, women's refuges, reclaim the night. How about less patronising and more respect for the 'old dears' whose efforts means your life is now incomparably easier?

Probably not the same ones who are advocating this stuff though...

But why refer to people as 'old dears' in the first place? Patronising, ageist and unnecessary.

ThumbWitches you are so lucky. My Dad has never wanted more for me than that I be a typist. It has affected my drive and my confidence. I always hesitated if a plan was too big for its boots.

My Mum once counselled me after another row with my father to just allow him to advise me. In other words, take advice from a man who underestimates me due to his own poor observation skills (I'm more than capable). Her advice boiled down to ''nod and smile and accept your father's advice because he needs to feel he's being helpful''.

I think my husband may have read this at some stage before we got married as this seems to be what he expects.. He has definitely married the wrong woman..

Sorry to hear that Fiacla - you were let down badly by both your parents' attitudes, it sounds like. :(

The article may be fake, but the content broadly represents a lot of views that were prevalent and the time, and remain so.

How anyone in 2017 can refer to it as quite sensible is beyond me.

Wow, I thought our household had a tendency to be a bit old fashioned, but this is just sad. So sad that in the lifetime of some of our relatives this kind of stuff was expected.

This has been written recently. No way that was written in the 50's

second time her dh came home drunk and nasty my lovely 1956 mom kicked him out/am very proud of her
as for the husbands>>>ww.retro-housewife.com/1950-husband.html

But 60 years ago the world was (more) racist, everyone smoked, you didn't wear seatbelts, children had corporal punishment in schools, there were less equal opportunities in the workplace and no t.v's/mobiles/internet. The world was a totally different place...

The point is it is not 60 year ago is it?