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Aibu to not go on the hen party in Holland? Worried about terrorism

39 replies

TrustingTrudie · 15/09/2017 19:20

I am meant to be flying out tomorrow for my best friends hen party and my husband for the stag.
Kids are nearing end of primary school age and are staying with my parents from tomorrow morning to Monday evening so that's all fine.
But now I'm terrified something will happen and both me and hubby will be leaving the kids without parents if an attack did happen!
Red light district is a hotspot for an attack if it did happen in Amsterdam looking at the online info so am really panicking!
Would you all go and not worry?

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Ummmmgogo · 15/09/2017 19:21

yes. we would go. have fun.

Parker231 · 15/09/2017 19:23

I would go and have a good time. I'm not aware of any particular risks identified for Amsterdam.

nogrip · 15/09/2017 19:23

Yes I would go to. It can happen anywhere

TrinityTaylor · 15/09/2017 19:24

100 percent would go.im off out in Manchester city centre tonight and was on the metrolink off to work at 7am after the bombing at the arena, as were most people. Tomorrow I'm going to London. Life goes on

OuchLegoHurts · 15/09/2017 19:24

Are you not going to go to any city ever?

AlphaStation · 15/09/2017 19:24

You could decide not to go for all sorts of reasons, but this reason is not likely to come true. It's probably more likely you'll slip on a banana peel and break a leg when stepping out of the taxi, on your way to the plane.

pointythings · 15/09/2017 19:24

I'd go like a shot. Frankly you are at greater risk of being hit by a bike than from a terrorist attack.

MyBrilliantDisguise · 15/09/2017 19:24

The red light district isn't the only thing to see in Amsterdam! Why do you think it's a target when no other similar areas have been struck?

BarbarianMum · 15/09/2017 19:26

I'd worry and go anyway. Once you start giving in to irrational worries they get worse and worse.

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TrustingTrudie · 15/09/2017 19:26

Just because there are lots of people in one small area.
And this is where we will be spending most of our time as its a hen and stag party!
I haven't flown without the children either so perhaps this anxiety is also coming into my play too

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GreenRut · 15/09/2017 19:27

Yes I'd go, was there recently actually. I do understand the anxiety, it's based on the fact that two of you might be killed because you're going together but life has to go on, and we can't not live it. What would you achieve by not going? The chances of anything happening are so miniscule so as to be negligible.

ilovesooty · 15/09/2017 19:28

Amsterdam is a pretty small city you know. There will be cities all over Europe far busier than the Red Light area which is tiny.

You're being utterly unreasonable.

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TrustingTrudie · 15/09/2017 19:28

I know, just panicking as all new to me so with today's events it's made me feel on edge

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Mustardnowletsnotbesilly · 15/09/2017 19:31

You are literally more likely to die coming down the stairs than in a terror attack. Also the red light district in Amsterdam is really small and after the initial giggle, pretty horrendous. I'm sure you'll find somewhere else in Amsterdam better to have fun. Don't bother with the sex museum, its awful.

TrinityTaylor · 15/09/2017 19:32

What's all new to you? Is it going out of the Uk? Maybe if you can pinpoint the real source of the anxiety you can rationalise it a bit better?

pasturesgreen · 15/09/2017 19:34

You do realise the likelihood of 'something happening' is infinitesimal, don't you? Hmm

It wouldn't even cross my mind not to go. Deep breath and try to relax, you're going on holiday. Have fun!

loobyloo1234 · 15/09/2017 19:35

YABU - you know that already though. Enjoy ... stay away from the muffins though Wink

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TrustingTrudie · 15/09/2017 19:36

New to me to fly without the children in tow I meant

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IamtheDevilsAvocado · 15/09/2017 19:37

Go! And try to enjoy it!

The reason there is so much media coverage is that it is soooo rare!

Aquamarine1029 · 15/09/2017 19:38

Your odds of dying in the bathtub, crossing the street, in the car on the way to the airport, or even from a heart attack are far greater that being involved in a terrorist attack. Life is a gamble, no matter what you're doing. You can live as a prisoner to the "What If's", or you can just simply live. The choice is yours.

TrinityTaylor · 15/09/2017 19:39

Try and flip it on it's head, no kids means no stressing or entertainment on the flight, no worrying they're being too loud, have a wine and enjoyWineFlowers

Jengnr · 15/09/2017 19:40

The part of this trip where you're most likely to be wiped out together is the taxi to the airport.

Terrorist attacks are fucking awful but, even if you're involved in one, the odds are on your side.

Have a great weekend. I'd love to go again :)

BuzzKillington · 15/09/2017 19:41

Yes, go.

Have a great time.

You're more likely to die on the way to the airport or myriad other ways.

MarciaBlaine · 15/09/2017 19:43

Definitely go. There's no heightened terror risk in the Netherlands.

House4 · 15/09/2017 19:46

Go go go! I try to rationalise these things by thinking of all the people who are there now and have been visiting all year (me included). They are all having/had a great time safely. Relax and enjoy