To be pissed off when I dish up dinner

[DooWhaaDiddy]

And DH never comes to the table on time, even when I give eta's. He will go feed the cat, get a drink, go to the the loo....it drives me nuts and he's had time to do all those things!

YANBU, my wife does the same, sits on her phone. I've stopped caring, I just eat mine.

Faffing annoys me it is so rude ive given up and just dish up and take my own i really can't be bothered i do passive aggressively say it will be cold and start eating

YANBU, it's rude.

Try doing it to him when he cooks and see if he likes it. Or wouldn't he care?

The last two nights I have just started eating. He thinks I'm crazy and it's not rude at all. He said the cat can't wait as it's 6 o clock and he needs his dinner

That is really rude. Does he ever cook?

It would annoy me too. His an adult ffs so should be capable of being at the table for dinner

When he cooks do the same to him? So he can see how annoying it is once you've cooked a meal

Ah yes! DH with his endless just doing something when the meal is on the table
And can I add, when I shout "dinner's ready" the only acceptable response is "thank you" not "ok"?

I hate this it seems so disrespectful. DP used to go out for a cigarette as soon as I handed him his dinner and it drove me nuts. Now I just tell him it's ready 10 minutes sooner than it is and tell him if he lets it get cold I won't bother cooking it next time and he can just have raw ingredients

I started eating alone, today, with the words, well I'm going to sit down and eat my dinner, even if no one else gives a shit.

I've stood in the kitchen eating in the past because no one has got off their arse to clear their crap off the table.

I think next time I'll just leave it for him to dish up himself. He does cook, and I'm at the table when it's dished

It's rude. Dh has form for this.

YANBU! I used to get so annoyed when my OH was really into gaming and, despite the ETA 10 mins in advance, the plates would be on the table, food getting cold while he was finishing playing. Then he'd have to get a drink, faff, etc.

He doesn't do the gaming thing anymore, which has helped, but I think I told him that the next time he wasn't at the table when dinner was served I wouldn't be making him any more meals. And I meant it. It's much better now.

DH (or kids) lay the table and get drinks etc, so when I shout "tea will be ready in 5" that is the cue to jump into action, not to go off and do other things!

Tell them what behaviour you expect and until they behave as you desire, you only serve up your own meal. Theirs stays in the pot.

Or, dish it up anyway and put it on the table. if it goes cold, tough. (and no reheating in the microwave allowed)

You are not being precious at all. This is a HUGE peeve of mine, and my husband and kids know full well that when I say dinner is ready, they had best be on their way to the table. Normally, they are all helping me get things to the table, but on occasion, I'm doing it all myself. It is so rude to fiddle fuck about and not come right away when dinner is ready.

DH used to do this.
Started binning his food after 10 minutes. Quickly stopped.

This is really cheeky. Leave it in the pans or oven and let him serve himself. So rude when you've cooked a meal to do this.

GuiltyI do that too

The cat must get fed at 6, eh? Then I'd move dinner up to 5.30 or back to 6.30 and see what he does then.

Or I'd fix dinner for one (or self and DC) and let him fend for himself.

@AcrossthePond55 he's home at all different times (H not the cat) and DS 4 couldn't wait any longer. The cat is never fed at the same time, but this was his excuse tonight

Mine does this too and it drives me mad. I've told him about it in the past and he's a bit better now. It's so rude.

My dh does this. I say dinners ready in 10 minutes. Ok he says. Then heads to the loo for half an hour! After 10 mins i shout up its ready and he says ok. 20 minites later i knock on the door to be told allright im trying to go to the loo! And im thinking you havr had 2 bloody hours to have a shit! Why now?

Mine too .
Think I'll LTB

There was a thread a while ago about faffers. In fact there was an expression used which made me snort tea onto my laptop. Interfaff faffing.

My DH does this so often I just sit and start without him. I sometimes talk to his chair as if it's him to ram the point home.