To be pissed off when I dish up dinner

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And DH never comes to the table on time, even when I give eta's. He will go feed the cat, get a drink, go to the the loo....it drives me nuts and he's had time to do all those things!

Ugh, my DP does this all the time, it drives me insane! Sits looking at his iPad! I just leave it on the side and start eating mine. It's annoying and rude, you've made an effort and they can't be arsed to come and sit at the table on time. So rude!

6 pm ! Wow that's really early for dinner. Maybe put it back to 7pm and he'll have finished his pottering.

My OH use to do this and his reason was he likes his food cold, and doesn't want to sit and wait for it to go cold.
Which obv just means he is very weird.

Now we have compromised he can sort the kids meals while I eat hot food and I can sort kids while he eats cold food.

Got it! Fix dinner when it's convenient for YOU. Dish up whoever is sitting at the table when it's ready.

My DH is a faffer, but not when food is involved . His is reminding everyone "We have to leave at XX o'clock SHARP!!" and chivvying everyone to get ready. Then he will find something that is needing doing just as everyone literally starts to walk out the door! I've taken to ostentatiously walking back to the living room and putting my feet up with a book when he does that. Drives him nuts as he expects people to just wait at the door until he does whatever it is that 'just can't wait'.

Once dinner is on the table my job is done and if DH or the kids don't come it's their loss. I'm not going to loose sleep over whether or not somebody elses food get's cold. DH never rushes to the table as he doesn't like his food hot and the kids usually saunter down when they are ready and wack it in the microwave. The ONLY dinner I'd have a hissy fit over if nobody comes is Christmas Dinner.

Oh I've got this sorted. DH does it all the time, to the extreme (DDs and I will be finished and he's still not there) because he's usually working rather than faffing but, even so, when it's 8 or 9 pm, not on. So, not so long ago, finally I snapped and shouted if he wasn't there in 30 seconds it was going in the bin. He wasn't, it did. He hasn't done it since.

Same happens here EVERY SODDING NIGHT and drives me absolutely insane. DH fails to at all understand why it grates so badly....

And no he never cooks....

Forgot to add, DH does cook. And yes, he does expect us all there, immediately!

Allthebestnnames DS is 4 and goes to bed at 7, DH likes to eat all together so can't really make it later

My DH would agree with you. Now he just tells us once, dishes up his own and if you are not there you serve your own and eat it cold.

Did scallop tonight, can't really leave them aside as the don't re heat well. Think I'll just get a slow cooker and leave it on the side lol

Mine was the same. I eventually just served it out and the children and I ate ours. Dog enjoyed his once or twice too (v large dog :) ). He's now an ex.... quite frankly when you've gone to the bother of preparing and cooking a meal it's just rude not to come when it's ready.

Stop complaining about it. Tell him what time dinner us dished up and if he's not there tough luck. You and your son eat. If he wants the family to sit together to eat then he'll be on time tomorrow night.

If he gets food poisoning from reheated scallops all the better..

Is he controlling at all? Or is this the only piss taking he does?

On the other hand I hate being called to dinner by DH as if I'm completely incapable of dishing up my own. If I'm faffing leave me to faff.

My DP was the same. One time only. He was working at home after 7pm, nothing time sensitive, and I gave him 20, 10, 5 minute warnings. He worked through and I served up, ate mine, and when he came out of his office I explained why it was rude. He's never done it again.

Yes it's annoying but unless he's treading the grapes to make his drink or taking an extended poo I can't see that he will be too much delayed. Again, feeding the cat I presume involves opening a tin or a pouch, not stalking and hunting a wildebeest.

YANBU to get pissed off though It does feel a bit disrespectful when you've cooked a meal.

YANBU
I have the opposite issue though, DH cooks usually and he will bring me my plate and then on his way to go get his he start doing other things, spending time on his phone while standing there. Meanwhile my food is getting cold as I want to wait for him as good manners command, especially as he is the one who cooked (also it is nicer to eat with someone). Argh!

I once threw exh's dinner at him when he came in & complained it was cold.
I'd given 30, 15, 10, 5 & im putting on the table warnings.

By the time he came in I'd finished mine.

If someone cooks for you & gives warnings running up to serving time then they are bloody rude, thoughtless & selfish

Mine does this and it's usually because he has to finish his bloody game of FIFA.

Mine does this.

Then has the audacity to moan when I get up from the table and leave him because he's only just started eating his dinner

Ironically, he cooked today for the first time in at least two months... told me dinner was ready, then told me again 15 seconds later because I hadn't immediately jumped to the table and actually had to find time to walk across the house...