To e-mail the school?

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Son is in year 6 and has not had a good day. Over the day he has developed a full on cold. It's obvious. This afternoon he went to a TA and said ' I don't feel well and think I need to go home.' This was her response, 'you see that sign over there? That's says (name of school), not the doctors'

I am not happy with the sarcastic response. I have never e-mailed the school to complain but I just feel that this was unnecessary. I can think of hundreds of responses that would have not included talking to a child in such a way.
So AIBU to e-mail the school and inform them that I he could have been spoken in a better manner? I will try not to write that he is well aware that the school is not where he would expect to see a doctor

If it was supposed to be a joke, it wasn't very funny. What's the TA like normally? I'd have no problem letting it go if it was a one-off, but if it's part of a pattern I'd be more concerned. Most teachers and TAs are lovely but every so often there's a mean one. My daughter's friend was bullied by one of these in year 5 and it was awful. So I think context can help in deciding how to respond.

There are an increasing number of people who do seem to view the school as a surrogate A&E service, though. We have parents bringing their children into First Aid (which doesn't technically exist as a unit, but is a place in the photocopying room where tlc is given at breaks) both before and after school for attention, even for injuries they've sustained at home.
I got my TA last term to keep a rough log of how many children came to her over the course of a few days, complaining of various ridiculous ailments. It was over a dozen each day. So, yes, I can see how an adult might have been moved to remark that no, we schools are not A&E.

oh get over yourself. She made a lighthearted comment. Jesus i feel sorry for these people

Bit of a shitty response but a cold = school - temperature/fever is a different matter however he only had an hour left

He should have said I'm going to the nurse office as I'm unwell

He should have said I'm going to the nurse office as I'm unwell

Firstly, children can't just "state" they're leaving the room, and secondly, hardly any schools nowadays have a "nurse office." If any child pulled that stunt in our school, they'd find themselves in trouble in an empty room looking at the photocopier churning out paper from the office.

What nurse?

Have you been inside a Primary school in the last 20 years?

I'm going to the nurse office as I'm unwell

When the school nurse does occasionally come in, we have to put her in the broom-cupboard wedged between boxes of paper and the photocopier

Where are these schools that have a 'nurse office'?!

As a supply teacher at the moment I have come across a great many wonderful Ta's but equally a great many ambivalent ones who do not seem to like children. Having said that it was almost home time so even the most sympathetic teacher or ta would have encouraged a poorly child to hang on til home time. However I understand your unhappiness at the response from the ta but again one cannot always believe a childs version of what was said as it can be misconstrued...Probably best to let it go rather than go in full guns blazing on this occasion.

Additionally I think it as your sons declaration ' I need to go home' probably triggered the response he got at 2pm on a Fri afternoon. A child does not dictate etc....

It depends on tone and relationship. It could have been said on a jokey way with a smile and intended to try and cheer him up a bit.

Every school has as assigned school nurse but they are off site and cover a number of schools and wouldn't see children for this kind of thing (nor shd they really if it's just a cold) school nurses these days deal with issues such as emotional health , behaviour concerns, sleep, diet, continence - they're a follow on from the health visitor

Having just caught up on 'Educating Manchester' on C4 I'd say your child should get used to a bit of 'banter' from teachers ahead of moving to secondary school (such as the Head of Behaviour saying he'd 'kill' a kid who was misbehaving).

We have a nurse with an office (Not Primary however).

Unlikely to have been sent home at that time of day but no need for the sarcasm.

God, it must be exhausting to have to pick over every one of the hundreds of interactions teachers and tas have each day.