To want to know what DS is doing all day at school?

[Mittensandmuffins]

DS started reception two weeks ago at a fairly large state primary school. Prior to this he was at a private nursery in a very small pre-school class of ten children - this is relevant to what I'm about to ask.

Since he started school I feel like I am just dropping off and picking him up each day without having a clue what he's doing there all day. Asking him is not an option as when I do he just answers 'nothing'

Maybe we've been spoilt at his nursery by the staff knowing and recalling every single detail of his life, and what he had been doing whilst at nursery, letting us know what targets we could work on at home, etc but I just feel so in the dark about everything at school.

I know that I am probably being unreasonable, given that it's a state school and has high class numbers but up until now I have always been pro-active in DS' learning so this feels a bit rubbish.

YABU. I think its ridiculous these days what's expected. Whether private or state. Drop them off, go about your business then pick them up again. If anything was amiss you'd be notified. Sisters a teacher and she wishes the parents would just go away and let her teach!!!!!

I agree silverbell; who honestly has the time to want or need a day diary? Unless we're going to employ scribes to sit in classrooms and spend the whole day noting down what's taken place.

It's the kids life - they can go live it while we live ours/

Their brains are tired when they get home - they can't think about school. They are on 'home time'.

Give them downtime, time to process, and you might get a bit more out of them. But, unless you think it's something you need to be involved in (and if you do, believe me, the teacher will let you know!), then let them have their private lives. I don't take kindly to anyone asking me who gets on with who at work and who takes what for lunch...

My dd gives a run down in minute detail of everything that happened and who said what to whom and everything the teacher did and said.
My other dd is in the 'can't remember' camp

I just get "nothing" and "can't remember" from both of mine too.

Their nursery had Tapestry which was lovely but at the same time they seem to really enjoy having their own lives. They reveal little snippets about who they've played with & books they've read when they're ready to.

I think that's fine for the social stuff, but for academics we have to wait until parent's evening. With DS1 we didn't find out that he needed extra help with phonics until well into his second term of Yr1 - I do think it would have been good for it to have been communicated earlier.

Don't worry I'm paying private school fees for a child who does nothing, can't remember what he ate for lunch and didn't play with anyone. It's normal