To look at other women's boobs

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I'm a happily married, reasonably heterosexual woman. I say reasonably because although I've only ever had relationships with men, and largely fancy men, I have had the odd crush on a woman. Probably 97% to 3% kinda thing! My crushes on women are always a bit star-struck rather than sexual too.

Anyway, the reason I outline the above is that throughout my life I can't stop glancing at boobs! I don't know if this is a normal thing that happens to everyone. It's not at all in a sexual thrill way. It's kind of just interesting I suppose? Obviously I try not to as it's a private body part, but from time to time it just happens as they are right there up front. I had lunch with a friend today and as we sat down I accidentally glanced down at her boobs (really accidentally, I was just moving my eyes around, no thought behind it) and then she caught my eye and I knew that she knew I had looked at her boobs (you know how you just KNOW when someone is looking at your boobs) but she's a new friend so I couldn't say 'Oops, just looked at your tits' and laugh about it, so I spent lunch feeling a bit awkward.

Does this happen to anyone else? Again, not at all a sexual thrill, I just kinda find boobs interesting and cool.

Why is MN full of knobs nowadays. And I don't meant the OP.

It seems that there are certain posters who lurk just waiting to pounce with their bitterness and vitriol, venting all their anger out from behind a keyboard

And strongasmeringue get a grip woman

If someone was that upset at the thought of having their chest stared at they probably wouldn't put it on display though would they? I don't like my legs so I don't tend to get them out.

Here's a nice pair for you, OP.

I'm an arse woman. I once shared a Pilates class with a woman with a fantastic bum and I would have to stop myself from staring.

Personally it's a bit of jealousy, I don't have much of a butt myself.

If you're reducing a woman to nothing but a pair of boobs to look at then yes you are objectifying them.

True, but you cannot infer that someone is doing that simply from the information that they find someone or some part of someone physically attractive and enjoy the sight, though.

But whether you like the sight of someone's boobs, shoes, forearms, top or anything else about them AND think that this is their only worth or value, or just like the boobs, shoes etc fullstop, either way best not to stare or draw attention as that can be an affront.

liz70

OP -

It seems that there are certain posters who lurk just waiting to pounce with their bitterness and vitriol, venting all their anger out from behind a keyboard.

Absolutely right, HotNatured. I've been around Mumsnet long enough not to take it personally. I guess some people feel better about themselves by doing that, which is pretty sad for them. But it is nice to hear from others who also check out body bits without it being a sexual thing - and interesting that for some it's bums, legs etc. I think there is an element of comparison for me as I'm really insecure about my body. If I see a really attractive woman I don't think 'Phwoar' I think 'Ohh I wish I could look like that'. I also do now remember watching a tv show about eye tracking, so I feel a lot more normal in that knowledge!

Also, just to say that in my post I didn't say 'I can't stop staring' I said 'I can't stop glancing'! Glancing is very different to staring - I think some imagined me with my eyes fixed on them, head tilted on one side and a bit of drool coming out of one corner of my mouth. And also by 'can't stop glancing' I mean that it happens repeatedly with different women not that when I'm with one woman I can't stop glancing over and over again.

And if anyone punches me in the face for glancing at their boobs well then firstly, they'll spend a lot of their life punching people and secondly they'll have a lot of convictions for assault pretty quickly. I do hate this vitriolic 'Somebody will punch you for that' hopeful sneer. Not acceptable.

Thanks to all the people who replied like the nice, normal humans I knew were out there!

I get it, OP. I do it too . I hope it's not too noticeable, but from what you have said, maybe it is. I think it's mainly because I have always thought my own boobs were sub-par and was jealous of those with a good pair. Maybe sexual attraction too but mainly envy.

I've always looked at women with nice boobs, it's called envy, I'm flat chested!

Are you enjoying the shared experiences OP?

liz70

Phwoooar!

I usually just think they are massive lumps of fat and detest them - unfortunately have large scale ones myself and I hate them.

WomblingThree

Look at the migratory patterns on those!!

I think it's really obvious from my posts that I'm just an ordinary person asking a genuine question, so I can only assume that the people making sarky comments just enjoy behaving like childish bullies.

But yes I have enjoyed the shared experience. One of the things I love about Mumsnet - and the internet actually - is that feeling of 'It's not just me'. I often read things (the snake spit when yawning thing on here recently being an example that sticks in my mind lol!) and realise that I'm not the only one and that is such a bloody relief. Same as with this thread, yes there have been a few tossers but it was worth it for all the people who shrugged like it was no big deal and said 'Yeah, me too' and made insightful comments (about body image etc) that helped me understand this silly thing that has niggled me for years.

I love watching birds. They can't get enough of my fat balls.

I look at bums a lot, if they're nice. I'm a boob person in that mine are massive and I know people look at them, they're my best feature body wise, my bums not awful but I'm definitely all about the boobs so I think that's why I look at nice big perky bums