To look at other women's boobs

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I'm a happily married, reasonably heterosexual woman. I say reasonably because although I've only ever had relationships with men, and largely fancy men, I have had the odd crush on a woman. Probably 97% to 3% kinda thing! My crushes on women are always a bit star-struck rather than sexual too.

Anyway, the reason I outline the above is that throughout my life I can't stop glancing at boobs! I don't know if this is a normal thing that happens to everyone. It's not at all in a sexual thrill way. It's kind of just interesting I suppose? Obviously I try not to as it's a private body part, but from time to time it just happens as they are right there up front. I had lunch with a friend today and as we sat down I accidentally glanced down at her boobs (really accidentally, I was just moving my eyes around, no thought behind it) and then she caught my eye and I knew that she knew I had looked at her boobs (you know how you just KNOW when someone is looking at your boobs) but she's a new friend so I couldn't say 'Oops, just looked at your tits' and laugh about it, so I spent lunch feeling a bit awkward.

Does this happen to anyone else? Again, not at all a sexual thrill, I just kinda find boobs interesting and cool.

Dulra nope actually I don't check people out. I think the kids these days have a term for it (as they do everything) but I personally don't feel attracted to someone until I get to know their personality. Strangers on the street do nothing for me.

I do notice other women's boobs and other body parts in a sort of artistic appreciation way. The bodice on Amal Clooney's mauve dress much featured in the press was very becoming. I notice long legs with awe as mine are so short and incredibly peachy bottoms. I have no sexual interest in them but I just think they are lovely manifestations of the human form.

Annndd I've just realised I'm probably the weird one, as you were

I'm a weirdo too! I find the idea of it quite objectifying.

Op, I have a friend who has rather large boobs. I always end up talking to them at some point because they are unavoidabley huge. Really huge. It's accidental fascination though, rather than being pervy.

I do notice other women's boobs, though I wouldn't ever stare. I just notice them in a similar way I might notice great hair or a small waist - as attractive qualities of a person. So I don't think you're unusual as a mostly heterosexual woman to look. Also I'm currently breastfeeding and as such my boobs are a lot bigger than they used to be. Several of my straight female friends have made comments about them, so they are clearly noticing! It's fine with me as it's not meant in any pervy way.

I notice them, but I notice lots of things.

I look at boobs, mine get looked at. I think that its normal tbh. I have a couple of friends that have huge boobs and my group of friends including owners of the boobs often talk about them.

I don't look at women's boobs at all and really not that interested. I scrutinise their skin and make up though!

I'm not sure why the OP is getting a hard time here. OPs question reminded me of this link which popped up on my news feed recently;
www.businessinsider.com/eye-tracking-heatmaps-2014-7
Shows how men and women's eye movements are tracked looking at different images. There is one with a women in swim wear and it looks like women focus on the breast area just as much a men. Surely it's normal to glance at body parts as long as you're not drooling and zoning in making people feel uncomfortable?

I love to people watch, and notice something beautiful in most people, but especially women. I wish that I had the confidence to give compliments to complete strangers, but it can sound a bit odd. It's not just boobs, it's legs, arses, eyes, hair, hands, smile ... It could be anything. I would never judge or point out flaws, but I see something beautiful in most people.
If someone is a nasty, sneering person, it doesn't matter how perfect they look on the outside, they always look ugly to me.

I'm not good looking myself, but I accept myself as I am, and I think that it's fine not to look like a model.

Is it a comparison thing? Are you looking to see how you compare to others maybe? I only ask because I have done similar; not just with boobs but other body parts. It's more of a "I wish I had those legs rather than my fat tree trunks" rather than a "phwoarr" kind of look. If that makes sense.

You're not alone OP. I certainly love boobs and i'm straight ({and female). I don't generally stare (lol) but I will nudge my bf if someone walks past with a particularly nice pair! I don't think it is objectifying women.

TBH looking is probably the wrong way to describe it. It's more like you notice it, rather than intentionally staring.

I don't generally stare (lol) but I will nudge my bf if someone walks past with a particularly nice pair! I don't think it is objectifying women.

If you're reducing a woman to nothing but a pair of boobs to look at then yes you are objectifying them.

I do this with bums!!

Male and female bums lol it's mostly envy when someone has a good bum.

I don't generally stare (lol) but I will nudge my bf if someone walks past with a particularly nice pair! I don't think it is objectifying women

I totally do this too!

Surely it's normal to glance at body parts as long as you're not drooling and zoning in making people feel uncomfortable?

Yes, it's normal to glance, and most people do it subconsciously - as you say, when you track people's eye movements they all glance at other people's bodies even when they don't know they're doing it.

But the OP says she 'can't stop' looking, to the extent where people notice her do it, and is sufficiently obsessed by this topic to post a thread all about it, which suggests a lot more than just the standard nano-second glance that everyone else does.

FWIW I'd feel massively uncomfortable if I caught anyone staring at my tits, whether they were a man or a woman.

I always have a look, mainly to compare them to mine-nothing sexual about it.

snash12 If you literally nudge your boyfriend to get him to stare at strangers' boobs in the street, you are absolutely objectifying women and probably also making women feel really fucking uncomfortable in the process.

If two men were walking down the street and one said 'Get a load of her' or 'Cor, look at her rack' to his male friend as an attractive woman walked past, people would think he being was sleazy and objectifying. You are doing exactly the same thing with your boyfriend; the fact that you're a woman doesn't make it any better.

You are doing exactly the same thing with your boyfriend; the fact that you're a woman doesn't make it any better

In a way it makes it worse, internalised misogyny is shit.

Also Imagine how the woman you point out to your partner would feel if she noticed you doing it? How humiliating for her.

Thank you OP...youve given me a much needed laugh today with your post!

Don't worry, one day you'll perv on look at someone who really doesn't like it and they'll punch you in the face. That should cure you.

For some people you staring at her breasts could be very upsetting.

Im straight but have always been boob obsessed. I've even had a boob job!

Apparently as a small child I would pretend to dig sand castles next to any topless women on the beach and I remember dreaming about boobs a lot too! Weird!!