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Original poster

To be annoyed with my personal trainer?

56 replies

WinditupSlowitdown · 14/09/2017 21:18

He costs me a lot and I've definitely had to cut back to be able to afford this.

I genuinely just needed that kick up the bum to lose weight (2 stone down now finally!)

Anyway this week he said he was looking to take on another client so I should ask people I work with.

He's then emailed me to say I can bring a friend with me to a session next week - free of charge! Erm ... I'm a full paying client, why would I want to share my sessions just for him to get another client??

I feel like stopping tbh. Aibu?

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pinkyredrose · 14/09/2017 21:20

Oh ffs YABU. He's offering you a perk, you know, to boost your morale and make you feel like you're getting your moneys worth.

WineAndTiramisu · 14/09/2017 21:22

I'd deliberately misunderstand, send him a message saying something like...

That sounds fab, I'll bring a friend and we'll both enjoy the free session. That's really kind and generous of you!

Auspiciouspanda · 14/09/2017 21:22

A shared pt session isn't a perk - their cheaper than a private one!

Tell him no thanks

pinkyredrose · 14/09/2017 21:23

Ps. I've had many personal trainer sessions, every now and then I'm able to bring a friend to join, it's more fun, we all benefit, the session gets mixed up a bit, we both get a work out and leave feeling great.

captainfunderpants · 14/09/2017 21:24

You're paying for one to one - that's what you should get! I'd expect to pay less if there were two of us. Maybe not half the cost of a one to one session, but definitely less than you pay for one person. That's what the PTs at my gym in central London do.

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WinditupSlowitdown · 14/09/2017 21:24

Oh ffs YABU. He's offering you a perk, you know, to boost your morale and make you feel like you're getting your moneys worth.

It's not a perk. When I had my first meeting with him he explained the cheaper option of having a shared session.

One on one his attention is on me to make sure my technique is right and I get to go at my pace etc

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user1487372252 · 14/09/2017 21:24

Maybe he does mean free for you too?

SonicBoomBoom · 14/09/2017 21:25

How is having a 1:1 session become a 2:1 session where the PT I an focusing on the friend to get his/her business a perk Confused

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WinditupSlowitdown · 14/09/2017 21:26

Also anyone can disagree with me, that's why I posted on here. But there's really no need to be so aggressive.

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WinditupSlowitdown · 14/09/2017 21:28

Just re-read the email and it's worded that I can bring a friend to my session free of charge. I'd still pay but that's m nice that he wouldn't charge me for it ... pffft.

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biffyboom · 14/09/2017 21:36

He's asking you to provide him with his next client at your expense.
Don't respond to the email or bring it up. If he mentions it again tell him you want your shared session for free half price, or an extra session 1:1 free.

cushioncovers · 14/09/2017 21:42

He's asking you to provide him with his next client at your expense.

This

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WinditupSlowitdown · 14/09/2017 21:43

It's really annoyed me tbh. He genuinely gives the impression he cares about you and getting you to your goals whilst also being his job.

I know you want to attract more clients in that business but surely you want to keep your existing ones happy?

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ChickenVindaloo2 · 14/09/2017 22:13

This would annoy me.

I paid for some taster sessions with a PT but he wasn't right for me so I didn't sign up for any more sessions.

Boy oh boy am I getting spammed with email and texts from him. (They appear to be being sent to groups). And it's a bit embarrassing when I see him down the gym when I just go for workouts on my own now.

And would I fuck want a friend/colleague watching me exercise. And then the implied pressure for her to sign up. And the implied pressure for me to pressure her to sign up. Sounds a bit like JuicePlus or something!

Nah. Just say "I'm quite happy with my 1:1 sessions as they are, thanks" but mention you're happy to pass his name on to anyone who asks why you're looking so great these days !

SonicBoomBoom · 14/09/2017 22:44

I'd say you'd be happy to bring a friend to a session, as long as it was an additional free one on top of the 121 sessions you've paid for.

Actually, I might claim ignorance and assume that this is exactly what he must mean. Say "well, my last paid for session is 30th Sept, so shall I come with my friend for the free one on the 7th Oct?"

mummymummums · 14/09/2017 22:46

I think the fact it's annoyed you do much shows it wasn't a great relationship. I think you should find another PT. it'll keep annoying you.
He is being cheeky though - you'd still be paying 1 to 1 rate, not 50% of the shared fee, so you'd be paying for the introduction.

JustKeepStumbling · 14/09/2017 22:49

Split the cost with a friend if you have someone you'd like to bring along. Otherwise ignore it.

CorbynsBumFlannel · 14/09/2017 22:50

Well you can always decline. But if a friend wanted to share your session then you could get it cheaper from then on? But if you want to continue 1-1 just say that.

NotSuchASmugMarriedNow1 · 14/09/2017 22:55

Jesus, do the man favour

GotToGetMyFingerOut · 14/09/2017 22:59

His attention wouldn't be on the op though even though she was paying her fill price of usually 30-50 an hour. It would be on the friend and trying to sign her up.

I'd reply op saying to him, "I'm happy to say to a friend that my pt is offering a free session however id rather not bring someone to my session when I'm paying the full price for a 1:1 session."

GoldTippedFeather · 14/09/2017 23:09

Notsuch - the OP pays the man to provide her with a service, she does not need to do him a favour.

This would annoy me too OP.

Bizzysocks · 14/09/2017 23:29

I don't understand why your so angry with him, I think you have taken the wrong way. He is saying if you bring a friend it will be 2 people for the price for one , you can could split the cost with a friend. And then yes if your friend likes it he will get a new client.

But you can always say, no you don't have a friend who will be interested. You don't need to be angry at him trying to get new clients.

DorisDangleberry · 15/09/2017 00:00

I'm annoyed with my personal trainer. Every time I go I end up an absolute sweaty mess lying panting on the floor. Whereas in fact I'd quite like to spend an hour with him drinking tea and eating cake. Bastard

BeachyKeen · 15/09/2017 02:05

Just say "I'd rather not bring anyone , I find I do best with the 1 to 1 focus." Then change the subject.
As long as he doesn't keep asking, I'd let it go, if he is a good trainer and helps you.

oldlaundbooth · 15/09/2017 02:14

I'd be pissed too.

It basically means he's all about the money, not your fitness.

And it would make me think he was taking me for a ride - if you're willing to pay £££ for a PT, chances are you have a mate who will too!